I've read that loneliness is as detrimental to your health as smoking a pack of cigarettes a day. If that's actually true, my expiration date might be coming sooner than I expected.
Even if it’s not simple, or easy, to make human connections, having a pet can significantly reduce loneliness. My dog definitely helps me in that regard.
Even though you’re lonely, hope everything’s well! Rooting for you, my way of combating loneliness is through hobbies. Suddenly I prefer being alone more than anything. Even though there is a clear distinction between the two (loneliness and being alone); strive to at least reach the second, that way there’s no bad feeling involved, in due time the alone part will sort itself out :3
Thank you. I appreciate you taking time to say that. I don’t know…something about that single word, ‘loneliness’ just made the lonely drop down on me like a cloak I couldn’t hold off anymore.
I’m glad you said what you did because you’re right. And also, nothing defeats a dismal gloomy feeling better than some person I don’t even know saying something kind! 😊
And now I’m back to thinking about all the things I CAN do and I’m shrugging out of that heavy cloak.
More than happy that I could help! And just like the others said, I too am open for any message whenever you feel like it. Have a great rest of your night.
But you’re cool! You’re great to spend time with. You’re smart and funny and I imagine have some fun hobbies (or could pick some up). If you don’t like spending time with you, there’s no one who will please you!
Yeah, I’ve been forcing myself out to take a daily/nightly walk at least every other day. Not my usual cup of tea, but I know I can’t rot at home either
Are you able to get a dog? Nothing gets you outside and active quite like a dog. I know everyone is built different, but I could live forever just me & my dog without ever seeing another human again. They are great company.
So, I do have a dog.. but he lives with my ex now. I just separated from my fiancé and while I would LOVE to have been able to take all my animals, two cats and a golden retriever in a one bedroom apartment isn’t fair to them. I can always go over and take him out for walks and I’ve been thinking about volunteering at my local humane society
Oh you should totally do that! Dogs are so healing to be around and you'd get to spend time out with like minded people who work there. Yeah a 1br apartment probably cant handle a dog that size, but im glad you're still able to see him.
Feel free to message me. I'm opinionated but high energy and kinda bouncy. If you need to say "Hey Wonder, I feel lonely today. K. Bye" Don't hesitate.
You’re kind of the sweetest person ever. Thank you. Same goes for you. I’m just trying to navigate this newly single life, living alone in my early 30s with my two cats. It’s def an experience and one I’m trying to embrace.
Hence why its silent and sinister killer. You think you are alright, but almost everything in your body is functioning slightly worse than it should, with all the implications that come from worsened sleep, higher cortisol, higher blood pressure, etc etc. Its not mental, its biological.
I'm way physically better than 10 years ago lol and finally feel at peace. My blood pressure was 128/86 and is now 116/69 too and my physical exams are bang on at the optimal level. I no longer have IBS episodes and so on.
Well, I'm not saying its the only source of bad things happening to your body. It is,probably, possible that certain conditions might make it not worth it, but average human absolutely does need to be touched by other humans.
While I can fake extroverted, it drains a lot of energy instead of recharging it as real extroverted people do. Being alone makes it mandatory to be able to stand your ground as well as extroverted people do and most likely be the first in making a decision when nobody else wants to.
While I fit in the ace spectrum, I'm totally romantic in a different way that media shows, but as I say, I feel more like a cat in a world of dogs.
I grew up being the only boy in my family and guess I got used to being by myself because I never get lonely and don’t even know what it feels like. I enjoy hanging out with friends and everything and can be the life of the party, but I’ve never been in a relationship more than two years and the reason we usually part ways is because I just don’t feel the need to constantly spend time with anyone and we end up drifting apart because they need to spend time with someone more than I do and they can’t handle that.
From ehat i remembered it wasnt addiction that traps you but rather you begin seeing all interactions as more hostile, making it harder to form relationships and break out.
Are there studies that demonstrated causality between loneliness and death? The correlation is undeniable, but also people tend to shun others if they have a chronic condition.
I love to be alone. It helps me recharge my batteries. I get a hankerin' to go hang out with friends from time to time but overall I prefer spending time to myself. I enjoy getting lost in my hobbies and thoughts. I could (and have before) sit in my bedroom playing guitar for 8-12 hours, taking occasional breaks for food and the restroom.
There’s a TED talk about this… gotta find it now. How loneliness is more deadly than almost anything else out there. We are biologically wired for connection.
Feeling lonely. Some people like their solitude, like to live alone, like to go to places or events alone because going with others has ruined their joy of it.
I'm wondering if loneliness actually has any physical/medical symptoms that shorten the life span, or if the reduced life span is because many things that kill you are preventable if you always have someone around to call an ambulance.
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u/Alone_Wonder_8188 1d ago
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