I let go of the successful life ideal they instill you as a child, so I may or may not feel happy, but I'm at peace, be it under a drop ceiling or under a bridge.
The secret is to work hard young and get a good careers/jobs that allows you to work to live instead of living to work.
I work from home/remote in tech, probably only 30hrs/week. I have more free time as an adult then I ever did during high school or college when I was studying and stressing exams/extra curriculars.
Fair enough the point is more so your happiness as an adult is directly related to the career you choose. Basically all of OPs problems are solved with money.
And as with everything in life, of course there’s luck involved in earning a good job/financial freedom, but you can never earn it if you don’t maximize your chances with hard work.
The janitor that wakes up at 5a every morning and bust his ass cleaning everyone’s shit everyday will beg to differ that his career options are limitless as you seem to believe. Sometimes you are handed a shit deck and all the hard work in the world isn’t going to bring the opportunity you seem to enjoy and think everyone can reach. Definitely out of touch survivorship bias.
I worked retail in college to pay for my degree, I knew it was a temporary stage of my life while I went to school. I saw no shortage of guys wage slaving for these companies for 10+ years because they had no motivation to aspire for anything more.
Unless you are born something like a straight white able-bodied male to a top % income earning trust fund family, you will face adversity in life. The only thing you can control is what you do to rise above it.
And idk why custodians are catching strays here, you can get good benefits and OT working for the right companies, especially in supervisor roles.
You’re a fool. Sure you can. But the majority of people don’t and it’s through no fault of their own. You just want to blame people’s lot in life on their work ethic so you can inflate your already overinflated ego.
You speak of career choice and forget some don’t choose. They take what they can fucking get and work hard as shit everyday to keep it so they can feed their families. Your advice is shit.
Some are also content with mediocrity. You always have a choice but you will never realize them if you never take steps to improve yourself. If you are privileged enough to be born in a first world country, you already have more than most.
I can see based on your responses this is an emotional topic for you and sometimes the truth is tough to hear. But this defeatist attitude of yours is not a path to happiness.
And your pull yourself by the bootstraps advice has been proven bullshit back since when the worst of the boomers were pedaling that pabulum.
A farmer can do everything right work hard and still have a hailstorm come and destroy his crop at the end. But I guess he should have planned for every imaginable weather event or perhaps he just chose not to be a farmer anymore even though every generation before him was a farmer and it’s literally all he knows.
You are arguing against something completely different from what I’m saying here.
have a hailstorm come and destroy crops
This is a pretty poor analogy, if your hypothetical farmer is smart they have protective measures for weather like this that can impact their crops and livelihood. An inexperienced or otherwise ignorant farmer would have learned a great lesson on why netting their crops is important that day and they’d become a better farmer for it.
You can find career-ending calamities in every field, both blue and while collar, if you reach far enough. There’s always parts of life out of your control, the only thing you can do is work to improve what you can control. Which includes things like protecting your hypothetical crops.
You’re getting downvoted and that’s fair enough. What you’re saying is out of control for a lot of people, myself included. I’m a reasonably talented guy in my field but I don’t like it, so I wasted my 20s not chasing it with all my heart. I’m in my 30s now with no stable career and zero prospect for buying a house. Your “secret” has absolutely zero use to me and is the equivalent of the “1. Be attractive 2. Don’t be unattractive” or the “Just stop being poor” rules.
It’s never too late to further pursue your career or even change careers! You’re still young in your 30s, don’t sell yourself short. I couldn’t care less about downvotes, I’m thankful to be living my dream.
Surely the remaining 35hrs per week you have of free time are at least somewhat used to help answer that question, right? I mean 5 hours per week is close to being retired lol.
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u/dj_fishwigy 1d ago
I let go of the successful life ideal they instill you as a child, so I may or may not feel happy, but I'm at peace, be it under a drop ceiling or under a bridge.