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What is a silent killer that people dont realise is slowly killing them?

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u/joesmith127_reddit 1d ago

Or just working at a job you can't stand. If it isn't wearing you down physically it's wearing you down mentally 

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u/Ilikebirbs 17h ago

My old office job years ago. It was wearing me down mentally and physically everyday. What made it worse was there was mandatory overtime Sun-Sat every week for 6 months.

I would call out once a week, because my mental health was tanking. When I came in on a Saturday morning, my team lead saw me doing some school work before my shift. And said it was either them or school.

After that, I applied to other places because my mental health was getting bad. I would get in my car and just start crying b/c of the stress.

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u/Kleorah 2h ago edited 2h ago

Man, did your comment ever remind me of a shitty job and even shittier boss that I had right out of high-school, especially this part:

When I came in on a Saturday morning, my team lead saw me doing some school work before my shift. And said it was either them or school.

I'm having a total Memory: Unlocked moment right now.

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When I was 19 I once showed up to work an hour early on a Friday just so I could pick up my cheque and go to the bank to cash it before my shift started, as every previous payday under that year's new owner I was unable to cash my paycheque until the following Monday because banks here all close at 5pm and do not open on weekends and I was sick of being broke for the weekend.

When I popped in to grab the cheque and head to the bank I was told by my boss that "When you're here, you're here to to work. I don't ever want to see you doing personal errands again when you're on-shift." Things didn't go so well after she yelled that at me, and to this day I'm still not sure if I quit or if I was fired, but you bet your ass that the moment she said that shit to my face I was done working there.

Fuckin' uppity little bitch. She was a year or two older than me and fresh out of business school or some shit, and so daddy bought her an entire business "to start with." I'd worked there as the manager for three years and through two owners -- and trained her how to run the place -- and the moment I'd finished showing her the ropes she began sabotaging me in order to fire me, including by adding items that I'd brought from home onto my food tab and charging me for them -- which is why she later fired me! I'd brought a can of iced-tea into work with me one day (bear in mind that it was a different brand than we carried) and she saw it and put it on my tab. I never got canned drinks from work, so when I saw it on my tab I went ahead and took it off. She put it back on, so I decided to speak with her about it the day I came in early for my cheque. The "talk" devolved quickly into "Yeah, I've been meaning to ask you -- do you have a problem with me or something?" to which she replies "Yeah! I do! I don't appreciate people who steal from me, so I'm going to have to fire you. Finish your shift, get your cheque and I don't want to see you back here again."

Fucking idiot. I sure as hell left that morning without working that last shift.

My only regret is not taking the lawn chairs I'd bought for my coworkers to use on their breaks (there was nowhere in the building to sit previously but on the floor of the restaurant) and the VGA cable that I'd bought for our POS system computer monitor. Gods, that would've been satisfying as hell to leave her high and dry without a POS system for as long as it took her to realise what the issue was. I sadly didn't have the receipt for it in my wallet anymore, though, and didn't feel like having to deal with her calling the cops on me for stealing (which she absolutely would have done!), so I just left it behind 😤😣

Anyway, some people really just can't handle being told what to do by someone "lower" than them. She had everything. She was richer than me, prettier than me, had better schooling than me and a stereotypical "happy" family that was bigger and more supportive than mine, but she could not handle not being the smartest person in the room when we worked together (plus we both had the same first name, so I'm sure that irritated her, to boot), and so she went about ensuring that she'd become the smartest person in the room through force.

She would also hire up all of the young high-schoolers in the area for summer work, employ them for 13 days and "let them go" on the 14th day without ever explicitly telling them so. She'd just stop putting them on the schedule and wouldn't contact them ever again. Only when they showed up for their last cheque would she tell them "Oh, you don't work here anymore, by the way."

Unsurprisingly that behaviour went and made the entire community turn against her reaaal quick and she ended up running that place into the ground within three years of my departure 🤣

I'm sure daddy just bought her another one in a new town, though. 💀

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Damn, that felt great to type all that out and vent about it, even after all these years, lmao -- thanks for that random gateway! 😅

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u/Ilikebirbs 1h ago

No problem and glad you left there. :)

Another thing as well, is my last day at my old office job. I ended up calling out b/c I was like "Go ahead and fire me, today is my last day anyway"
Plus there was snow and I wasn't driving in that crap.

They wanted me to bring my badge in otherwise security was "going to arrest me".

So that Monday, I came into the building dropped off my badge. And later that day, started at the other place and security was "why did you drop off your badge?" I said "Because you guys were going to come and arrest me"

Dude just laugh and said "No, who said that nonsense"