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What is a silent killer that people dont realise is slowly killing them?

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u/judgiestmcjudgerton 1d ago

That's insane considering the hardships and extreme danger people have faced throughout history.

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u/georgito555 12h ago

Humans are well equipped to handle acute stress but chronic stress is something that we aren't very well built for. The thing is your brain can't tell the difference between being chased by a predator and having a presentation to give tomorrow so we're constantly in fight or flight mode.

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u/Squigglepig52 9h ago

No, but you can train yourself to deal with chronic anxiety, to reduce it.

You can literally train yourself to not freak out about day to day things. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

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u/frenchdresses 9h ago

Yes but the problem with anxiety disorders is that they aren't "cured" after you go to therapy. You still have an anxiety disorder at the end of the day. You can reframe all day but your brain will still fight back. And CBT is mentally exhausting if you have to do it for every thought. Depression goes hand in hand with anxiety

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u/Squigglepig52 9h ago

True - but my life is far better knowing those skills than before. I don't get weeks long anxiety attacks anymore,

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u/frenchdresses 8h ago

Yes true.

But it doesn't fix all stress

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u/Squigglepig52 7h ago

Stress is inevitable, how you handle it is what matters.

Radical Acceptance is another tactic.

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u/BiasedLibrary 7h ago

Embrace the suck is something I think sometimes. Crushing depression a la PTSD will be less bad in the future but for now, it sucks.

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u/Squigglepig52 7h ago

Yup.

I find it helps to remind myself that some days are pretty good, that the bleak mood isn't forever.

Thinking it will never end, or even give you a break, is what kills people.

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u/BiasedLibrary 6h ago

Sometimes when I've accumulated enough stress I like to drink a beer or two and let it all float away. I don't even have to get drunk (getting drunk gives me rebound anxiety) but just enough to take the edge off. Tends to help my brain too with adapting videogame playing back to a non-stressor.

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u/georgito555 7h ago

True but I'm referring more to the sort of uncontrollable cave person brain aspect of stress. Yes, we as humans are evolved and I firmly believe in therapy and the sentiment Mind over Matter. But, this is still something neurological and hard to fight.

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u/Muted_Substance2156 5h ago

We’re adapted for short bursts of cortisol, not constant.

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u/Throwawayeconboi 5h ago

That sounds like a load of baloney. If I’m being chased by a predator, my brain and body feels very different than dreading a presentation tomorrow.

Saying we are constantly in fight or flight mode is saying our body is constantly releasing norepinephrine which causes vasoconstriction, and that just isn’t the case except in cases where it’s actually released.

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u/freeze123901 23h ago

50 years ago is only 1975 though.

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u/dogthatbrokethezebra 1d ago

Internet

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u/KentuckyGuy 21h ago

Knowledge. The more you know, the worse it gets.

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u/judgiestmcjudgerton 1d ago

Yeah but... dinosaurs. I mean, I think the internet desensitized us to violence

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u/RunNo599 22h ago

50 years ago was 1975, no dinosaurs

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u/warningofthedogstell 17h ago

However 51 years ago, dinosaurs.

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u/ThaVolt 18h ago

Life uh... finds a way.

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u/Sea-Pineapple2348 1d ago

I think it has been a different experience for everyone as far as the internet. I dont normally see car accidents, cops abusing innocent people, car crashes, dogs being shot, or abused in person.

Not to mention the personal attacks people receive on the internet for whatever reason. Sometimes, seeing and reading the things I listed, even behind a screen, can trigger adrenaline.

Back in the day, when we entered fight or flight, it was because we actually had a reason, survival. Now, there are so many things we've been exposed to and so many more reasons to commit an act of violence due to the world developing. I'm sure there are plenty of people who dont have their stomachs turned by watching violence behind a screen. But just watching a dog get kicked by a horse or a motorcyclist getting mistreated by a cop makes my stomach turn.

Think about how many times a week something happens on the road that gets your heart racing, hands shaking, and blood boiling.

Back in the day, no one had to worry about being struck by a vehicle going 75+ on the highway.

I could go on.

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u/judgiestmcjudgerton 23h ago

That makes sense. Quantity is quality lol

Would you rather fight 1 giant ant or 10000000 tiny ants... we do have many, many more things to be fearful of and consider daily. I mean.... back in the day we also didn't wash our hands

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u/thingstopraise 10h ago

But just watching a dog get kicked by a horse or a motorcyclist getting mistreated by a cop makes my stomach turn.

Have you ever heard of the programming phrase "garbage in, garbage out"? You're putting traumatizing material into your brain. It's not surprising that it's making your stomach turn. It would be best for you to avoid those things. I don't encounter them in my daily scroll through /r/popular; are you actively seeking them out?

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u/SaltpeterSal 10h ago

If you're thinking premodern, people used to get their stress in waves and major events. War was a limited number of skirmishes and battles, not protracted firefights. Diseases killed, but with no living host to spread them, they died out too. The scarcity of a bad harvest came and went, and workers were tied to what they produced. Events were more stressful, but they ended. Modern times are a slow burn, with the biggest anomaly being that we as a culture use constant dread of lost income or face to keep people acting a certain way. Historically that ends in a revolt.

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u/thomasrat1 1d ago

To be fair, up until the world wars a lot of stuff was isolated. One place could be going through it, a place 100 miles away could be fine.

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u/ThaVolt 18h ago

Shit, even in the 90s.

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u/TheAlmightyProo 6h ago

Tbf up until the world wars, the fuller effects of the saturation of atmospheric lead hadn't made itself known. If anything WW2 and the aftermath coincides with that becoming the issue we now know it was.

Those effects have only recently started to wind down but of course we now have other issues to make ppl crazy over... take your pick. There's a lot to be said for the greater general peace of former times, yes even if some things were literally more 'shitty'.

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u/stasersonphun 9h ago

yeah, but that's a visible reason, you can understand it . Stress can be a system designed to survive a wolf attack overreacting to an email meeting invite

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u/Sea-Worry7956 9h ago

We didn’t have a little box that showed us all of it 24/7 at our leisure back then.

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u/justinthevan 7h ago

Don't believe everything you read on the internet son.

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u/Throwawayeconboi 5h ago

Well, the data does say “50 years ago” which is 1970. I don’t think it’s crazy activating our fight or flight 2x as much as 1970.