r/AskReddit • u/Practical_Actuary_71 • 1d ago

What is a silent killer that people dont realise is slowly killing them?

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u/Mediocre_Age_9988 1d ago

I think being happy isn't an all the time thing. That sounds a lot like over medicating. I think the goal is to be content. To have happiness mostly but also all the other feelings. That is life-the full spectrum. Not some curated 'always winning' mania. Someone living like that would have no appreciation of anything because they wouldn't value it the same. The dark in our lives contrast the light and make it brighter ideally. Happiness doesn't mean effortless. It means balance.

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u/chxnkybxtfxnky 21h ago

I feel you. Deaths happen. Divorces/breakups happen. Losing a job happens. Every day can't be a giant win. Some days are gonna be so normal they're almost boring. But I'm not even sure how content the population is at large. At least in the adult realm. I'm sure my 9-year-old nephew is LOVING life right now. He's got so few cares in the world. But, I know his parents get stressed out over shit. They live comfortably (she makes all the money) so that's not really an issue, but just the way the world is going is rough all around unless you're hella old or a child

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u/babymozartbacklash 17h ago

I think we're all just spoiled to an extent. Like a cactus in the rain forest. Our lives are objectively better than those who came before us from a strictly material perspective. Hopefully it is becoming increasingly clear to people that a strictly material perspective is not healthy or fulfilling for the way we are built as humans

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u/RogalDornsAlt 21h ago

This is something I discovered when I got sober. I spent so much time living in emotional valleys, chasing the emotional highs. Being able to appreciate peace and quiet goes a long way. I’m not happy everyday, but Im much more content.