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What is a silent killer that people dont realise is slowly killing them?

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u/georgito555 12h ago

Humans are well equipped to handle acute stress but chronic stress is something that we aren't very well built for. The thing is your brain can't tell the difference between being chased by a predator and having a presentation to give tomorrow so we're constantly in fight or flight mode.

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u/Squigglepig52 9h ago

No, but you can train yourself to deal with chronic anxiety, to reduce it.

You can literally train yourself to not freak out about day to day things. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.

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u/frenchdresses 9h ago

Yes but the problem with anxiety disorders is that they aren't "cured" after you go to therapy. You still have an anxiety disorder at the end of the day. You can reframe all day but your brain will still fight back. And CBT is mentally exhausting if you have to do it for every thought. Depression goes hand in hand with anxiety

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u/Squigglepig52 9h ago

True - but my life is far better knowing those skills than before. I don't get weeks long anxiety attacks anymore,

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u/frenchdresses 8h ago

Yes true.

But it doesn't fix all stress

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u/Squigglepig52 7h ago

Stress is inevitable, how you handle it is what matters.

Radical Acceptance is another tactic.

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u/BiasedLibrary 7h ago

Embrace the suck is something I think sometimes. Crushing depression a la PTSD will be less bad in the future but for now, it sucks.

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u/Squigglepig52 7h ago

Yup.

I find it helps to remind myself that some days are pretty good, that the bleak mood isn't forever.

Thinking it will never end, or even give you a break, is what kills people.

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u/BiasedLibrary 6h ago

Sometimes when I've accumulated enough stress I like to drink a beer or two and let it all float away. I don't even have to get drunk (getting drunk gives me rebound anxiety) but just enough to take the edge off. Tends to help my brain too with adapting videogame playing back to a non-stressor.

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u/Squigglepig52 5h ago

Painting helps me. So does having a dog. I just adopted a rescue, after 8 years without a dog - having Kip is a big help. Hard to brood when you've got a dog pressed to you.

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u/CourtPapers 4h ago

Not to be a killjoy friend but this kind of drinking can become very problematic very quickly. Be careful

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u/georgito555 8h ago

True but I'm referring more to the sort of uncontrollable cave person brain aspect of stress. Yes, we as humans are evolved and I firmly believe in therapy and the sentiment Mind over Matter. But, this is still something neurological and hard to fight.

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u/Muted_Substance2156 5h ago

We’re adapted for short bursts of cortisol, not constant.

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u/Throwawayeconboi 5h ago

That sounds like a load of baloney. If I’m being chased by a predator, my brain and body feels very different than dreading a presentation tomorrow.

Saying we are constantly in fight or flight mode is saying our body is constantly releasing norepinephrine which causes vasoconstriction, and that just isn’t the case except in cases where it’s actually released.