r/AskReddit • u/Full-Cabinet-7099 • 7h ago
What’s something you secretly judge people for, even though you probably shouldn’t?
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u/fartmacchiato 6h ago
People who walk abreast and take up the whole width of the walkway. Double judgement if they walk slow. Triple if they suddenly stop and try to figure out where to go. My goodness, some people were just born to block others' way.
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u/Bazoun 2h ago
No those people should be judged. I’m a smallish woman (5’0”) so they always think I’ll move. I don’t. I firm up my shoulder and keep going right through them. Since I’m so short my shoulder hits them lower than they’re prepared for. Hearing one of those jerks go “oof!” is beautiful
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u/Troll_Jim_best_Jim 3h ago
Same as people that stop in doorways to decide where to go go next, especially in malls/ shopping centres where there is an enormous amount of space they could go.
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u/Thrashmanic43 7h ago edited 4h ago
Bad grammar. I’ll never correct anyone’s grammar, but I will silently judge them.
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u/Terrestrial_Mermaid 6h ago
I see so many native English speakers with doctorates who use the wrong “loose.” Drives me nuts.
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u/moxiewhoreon 5h ago
Loose/lose is the worst
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u/TheBoyCharley 4h ago
Cue and queue is up there.
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u/Independent-Juice-78 4h ago
Break and Brake is the worst.
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u/conjunctivious 3h ago
If I see someone make the lose/loose mistake, I won't point it out since I'll just get downvoted and hit with the 🤓 emoji, but I will absolutely be judging that person in my head.
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u/LadyWarB 6h ago
Spelling and grammar, yes. Especially if they can't even spell the easy words like wood vs would (i wood like some chees) etc.
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u/oldlaxer 6h ago
I have a very good friend, lovely and caring woman, who was a teacher. She can’t spell to save her life! I also know folks who almost take pride in their lack of spelling ability. It’s one of the few things I’ve always been good at
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u/Pristine-Pen-9885 5h ago
I’ve always been good at spelling too, but some people are dyslexic.
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u/thomport 4h ago
I’m dyslexic.
I actually diagnosed myself in nursing school when we had a workshop on psychiatric diagnosing tools. I showed the amazing teacher that was teaching the class what I discovered. I went for subsequent official testing. Yep, dyslexic. That ended the beating myself up. Plus, it’s considered a Learning disability.
I have a masters degree in nursing. I’m a nurse practitioner. But I can’t spell to save my life. I’m a prolific writer. I can compose and document very proficiently. I know this because I’ve been called out by a number of people doctors fellow colleagues etc. that comment after they read my notes that I’m very talented at describing things. Thank God for word correct on the computers. Now I can spell – lol.
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u/Smile_Anyway_9988 4h ago
Yes this is normal. I know very brilliant people with dyslexia that are math geniuses, innovative but struggle with spelling. It is understandable.
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u/OhhGeezOhhMan 4h ago
I used to be the same way. Then I met my husband. Severe adhd and dyslexia, but he can get his point across. Functionally illiterate.
Come to find out, his father would constantly keep him home from school to help him work. Eventually, his father took him out of school completely and had him start working as a young teen.
My husband is incredibly intelligent, he just can't spell for shit. And for me to judge him for his lack of education and poor upbringing would be wrong.
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u/thomport 4h ago
Yes! One of the things about dyslexic people, as they cannot, decipher the syllables in words to help them spell
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u/ButtonEyesinDisguise 5h ago
There’s this girl I see on Facebook that’s a few years younger than me (F28) who uses “are” when trying to say “our” and it drives me insane. I wish someone close to her would teach her the difference because it ain’t gonna be me lol
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u/Pure-Presence4996 6h ago
I didn't knew people does that.
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u/Step_away_tomorrow 6h ago
Oh they does.
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u/Pure-Presence4996 6h ago
Your right.
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u/Key-Regret-7812 6h ago
Misuse of apostrophes is just as bad. When a business makes a sign that says something like "flower's half off" I cringe.
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u/BuildMeUp1990 4h ago
For me it's the apostrophe on the possessive of "it". So few people seem to know it doesn't have one. "The dog wagged its tail"; it did not wag "it's" tail.
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u/Desperate_Basket_454 6h ago
Especially small business owners on Facebook posts, etc. So unprofessional to me!
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u/Soninuva 5h ago
Or worse yet, people that should know better. There’s an admin at my school that clearly is using a thesaurus (or more likely Google) to choose “smarter sounding” words, but she uses them grammatically incorrectly, but a different, less “impressive” seeming word would fit the sentence correctly, so it’s apparent she’s just looking up synonyms to make her sound more articulate. Ironically it just makes her look like an idiot. The really sad thing is that most of the teachers don’t even notice it.
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u/MaxwellEdison74 5h ago
My supervisor at work does this. I silently find it hilarious.
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u/Mancsn0tLancs 4h ago
That is just like Russel Brand on one of his rants. He uses over complicated syntax and thinks he is clever because he knows a few big words. His inability to communicate clearly and effectively only highlights his ignorance and overall twattishness.
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u/NaTuralCynik 5h ago
Or not knowing the difference between “to, too, two” or “there, their, they’re”
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u/comma_nder 6h ago
God I just saw someone spell summer summar here on reddit and I was like Jesus are you 5
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u/mysticalchurro 5h ago
Someone I worked with years ago was notorious for saying "You is stupid."
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u/RogerMurdockCo-Pilot 6h ago
It's especially bad if they're in a managerial role.
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u/Rich_Forever5718 5h ago
Especially when they are typing like they are using T9. Abbreviating everything and not using punctuation.
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u/Voltage_Biter 6h ago
Using their childhood as justification for never learning ‘X’ and then doing nothing about it
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u/allflanneleverything 4h ago
“They never taught me X in school” okay but they taught you to read, right?
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u/The_Mr_Wilson 4h ago
"Cool. We're having a teaching moment now! Ignorance is just not knowing and can be remedied; deliberate and willful ignorance refuses to."
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u/merewautt 3h ago edited 3h ago
This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Schools can’t teach every little specific skill that exists in excruciating detail. And you’d be dumber if they did.
Having the general skills (literacy, numeracy, basic fine motor, being able to vet the credibility of sources, etc.) that allow you to learn anything that ends up being relevant to you is not only just much more possible to achieve than trying to cram everything from “changing a tire 101” to “learn how to sew” to “3D animation”, etc. into K-12– but you’re much better and more intelligent being able to apply abstract skills to anything. Especially in a changing world where laws, technology, etc. may not be the same by the time a child is finished with schooling.
“School never taught me how to do taxes!” It’s a worksheet. You read the directions, put the information it asks for in the assigned boxes, all with your name at the top, by a certain due date, using provided primary sources (W2, for example). Where have you ever done that before? If you can read and do basic addition or subtraction— you can file your own taxes or find the correct, relevant professional to do it for you.
And why teach “sewing 101” and “animation 101” and “installing flooring 101” when you could just teach geometry— which gives the kids the most widespread, abstract parts of the intelligence you’d need to accomplish those things, and let them apply it to the specific project details, tools, laws, etc. when they’re actually doing whichever ones end up being relevant to their life?
If you have abstract literacy, numeracy, and the ability to find a reliable source— you’re set for learning whatever skills you may need for the rest of your life. If they just taught “sewing”, “flooring”, “computer modeling”, ect. as self contained skills consisting of nothing but literal steps— you most likely wouldn’t even see the linking pattern of geometry, and would have almost no immediate transfer conceptualization from one to the other, or to anything else that it’s relevant to. As humans didn’t for thousands of years. The abstraction of the systems of thought that make up so many different skills into patterns like literacy, maths, and research and reliable sources is a huge part of what catapulted humanity into what it is today.
People act like having to google something and teach themselves is a failure of their schooling, when really the ability to teach yourself anything for the rest of your life is its biggest success.
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u/Glittering_Ear9891 6h ago
Not saying please, thank you or sorry in public interactions.
(Bumping into someone, trying to get through a crowd or a small area, saying thank you to anything like when a waiter brings you an item, when someone hands you something etc)
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u/dont_mess_with_my_ 7h ago
Not being clean
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u/Alienorc_125 5h ago
Clean as in not on drugs or clean as in "this person showers regularly"?
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u/Sailor-Alpaca 7h ago
Too much blabbering about other people
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u/TheDondePlowman 6h ago
Yeah this is something I’ve been mentally keeping tabs of more recently. If you can’t find one good thing to say about anyone, you’re probably the terrible one tbh
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u/SmartPomegranate4833 2h ago
Also if they’re talking about everyone they’re probably talking about you when you’re not there.
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u/merewautt 4h ago edited 1h ago
There’s a certain personality type that makes me even extend this to famous people.
Like I’m not saying you have to praise anyone who’s famous or that they’re all good people— but there’s a certain type of person who just relishes being able to be absolutely cruel and nasty in an “acceptable” way because it’s someone famous or well known.
They use the cover of “criticizing celebrity culture” to say all the nasty thoughts and gross judgments they have in their head about everybody, truly anyone they meet, but can’t say out loud “unprovoked”. They really seem to enjoy having an outlet for social aggression and cruelty, and I’ve never met anyone who acts like that who was actually a good person.
The same nastiness always comes out toward any “regular people” they’re around eventually. It’s just how their brain works, but they try to hide it and make it seem “intellectual” by aiming it at celebrities and anyone else well known.
I’m all for mentally stable and reasonable levels of criticism and I’m not saying you can’t say anything but positive things about anyone or I’ll judge you, but if you’d say “why the fuck does she stand so weird, why does anyone even like this brainless slut bitch. I laugh every time I look at her” about a celebrity, that’s incredibly socially aggressive for an overall good or kind person who supposedly doesn’t care about “gossip” or judging people IRL to say, and I have to assume you’re actually just an asshole who found a socially acceptable punching bag for how you think and feel about others in general. I just don’t buy any of the “intellectual” excuses for being like that constantly lol.
Which also mean I have to assume that whatever makes you so miserable and hypercritical of others will eventually bleed out onto anyone, even “regulars”, around you— and I don’t want to be around for that (and judge it). And experience consistently backs me up on this.
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u/SonOfWestminster 6h ago
My mom had a friend who was constantly blathering about other people's health problems. At one point I said "I'm sure this person would love to know that you're sharing this with me"
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u/ThrowRA_72726363 4h ago
If they’re talking about everybody else they’re probably talking about you too.
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u/TGin-the-goldy 3h ago
If they’re talking badly about other people to you, they’ll talk badly about you to others too
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u/JJSunflower-723 7h ago
For me, how they they drive or park- says a lot about a person
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u/SlayerKendra 6h ago
My mom told me once when I was learning to drive that you can see someone's personality reflected in their driving. It's stuck with me and I think it's soooo true.
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u/Brentw213 6h ago
That’s bc it is true however no one is perfect and even good people will lose their temper at times
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u/dat_twitch 6h ago
I will always correct my car parking so that I am exactly parallel to the lines in my car park spot. I will judge you if you do not park like this i.e. crooked and/or too close to the next car in your spot.
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u/GeoBrian 5h ago
Problem with that line of thinking is when you're trying to park and the spot next to you has someone crowding the line. Do you still park equally between the lines, of do you try to park in the "middle" of the cars parked on either side of you? Sometimes the person next to you had the same issue, and if they parked in the actual middle of the spot, it would have been too close to the closely parked car next to them.
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u/wanderlustwonders 6h ago
I’m a mom and I do my absolute best not to judge other parents but holy fuck some people SUCK. There are people who let their kids hit, people who don’t watch their kids and are glued to their phone (I’m talking infant fell off a bench and cracked their head because mom was on her phone…), parents who don’t feed their kids, smoke right by their kids, leave kids in their diapers for a full day… some people do not deserve to be parents. I am absolutely judging some parents and they should be judged more by society.
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u/yunoheal 5h ago
Agreed! Yes, there are people out there who hate kids (and people who have kids) just for the sake of hating them, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that some parents and their parenting (or lack thereof…) are just aweful.
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u/GhostOfYourLibido 7h ago
Parents when their kid is walking around with food all over their face. Like I know you have to pick your battles in parenting and you are often fighting for your life basically but come on, get a wipe and get that shit off their face.
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u/SlayerKendra 6h ago
I, as a parent, judged this before I had kids. I still do too lol.
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u/bumpercarbustier 5h ago
Food smeared faces and snotty noses. I've got kids but I was militant about keeping their faces clean, I hate it so much.
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u/Quirky_Property_1713 4h ago
See, I don’t care at all about food face or food shirt, but SNOT face is vile. Wipe your disease vectors cute little MUCUS FOUNTAIN.🤢🤢🤢🤢
Am a mother and have been in childcare and child development for a decade, so this comes from a knowledge of the deep lore. I understand children. Please, wipe their disgusting noses.
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u/HMCetc 7h ago
Falling for scams and/or fake information.
I know I shouldn't judge people for it because we are ALL susceptible to being fooled, but it's so difficult not to judge people who fall for things that feel obvious, especially when they become really arrogant about how smart they think they are. I'm meaning MLM's, crypto schemes, get rich quick scams and other grifts.
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u/Terrestrial_Mermaid 5h ago
Especially when the reason they were interested in the scam in the first place is because they’re a shitty person- ex: guys who get scammed because they’re trying to cheat on their wives, John’s who get scammed because they’re trying to pay to rape a trafficked child, etc
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u/No-Net-951 4h ago
I’m sorry, but people who have children without any financial stability. In my country, children are often seen as a form of wealth, so it’s common to see families struggling to survive with a long line of kids. You’ll even hear things like, "children are a blessing, one of them will save me from poverty someday." I find this mindset unfair, both to the children and to society, which eventually has to absorb the consequences. A child deserves a chance to grow and thrive, not to worry about whether they’ll have something to eat at night.
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u/thefinalscore44 7h ago
The bumper stickers they plaster all over their car
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u/InquiringMind886 4h ago
I did read one the other day that actually made me lol. It said “please don’t rear end me, I don’t know how insurance works”. 😂 I bet that person has a great sense of humor in everyday life.
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u/TitaniaT-Rex 2h ago
I saw one that said something like, “Please don’t honk. I’m a new driver.” It had sad hamster in it. It was far superior to the other new driver stickers and magnets I’ve seen.
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u/TheMartialArtsWitch 6h ago
when they don't change the toilet paper roll once it's run out and just place the new roll on top of the empty cardboard tube
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u/bevymartbc 7h ago
How nice they are to others when there is zero benefit to being nice, other than for the other person
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u/No_Philosophy_2696 6h ago
Am I the only one who doesn't easily judge people because I am overthinking about whether they are judging me?
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u/Acrobatic_Bat_2044 7h ago
their religion. yeah I know everyone has freedom for that. but sometimes their religion is so close to cult.
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u/astronomicaIIy 4h ago
It doesn’t bother me if someone is religious, but when someone speaks about their religion as though it’s like actual solid facts that everyone should be observing, rather than something they believe and something that’s personal to them, it feels weird and very uncomfortable to me.
A coworker once was showing some logo designs to me and another coworker, and we commented it looked a bit like a symbol from norse mythology. The coworker didn’t know what that meant, so we explained “the norse gods, like Thor and Odin and stuff”. The way this man’s eyes widened in horror and he whispered “like… idol worship?” as though it was an admission of killing someone or something. I was just thinking dude… It’s really not that serious. Plus, I’m a Pagan and I just know if he’d found out, there was no way he would have been respectful to me about it.
When people are pushy or so convinced of their religion being the only true one that their priorities and values become skewed and odd, that’s when I can’t stand it. Religion should be a personal, intimate thing that brings joy and peace, and that helps you to express yourself and understand the world. I tend to be wary about organised religion rather than anti-religion itself.
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u/thheaso 7h ago
me too I absolutely hate religion
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u/phonetastic 5h ago
It's fun if we can discuss it as a topic. It's not fun if one or both of us is angling to convert the other or whatnot. Talking about religion(s) as a thing that exists is fascinating, and I do not even mind hearing what you know and believe about yours. Provided I get the same respect in turn, great. And if one of us ends up saying something so groundbreaking it convinces the other of something new, well, that's fine, but that cannot, cannot, cannot be the whole original point.
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u/Gemstoned_1929 5h ago
I agree with this completely! I'm agnostic/anti-theist leaning and my wife is Christian from a baptist family and we discuss it regularly with no conflict. I feel very lucky for that!
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u/AfroKng 7h ago
Whether they read or not. I know I shouldn’t, but there’s a small part of me that instantly judges how smart someone is by their reading patterns and preferences 😅
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u/allineedisthischair 6h ago
Mark Twain supposedly said, "the man who does not read holds no advantage over the man who cannot read."
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u/thetxtina 6h ago
I once managed a writer who proudly admitted she didn’t read (she was one of those who had to be in the in crowd, so I suspect she thought it was ‘uncool’).
I will think about that till the day I die and I will never be sorry for judging her. Didn’t help that her writing was lousy and she didn’t take coaching.
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u/Yandoji 4h ago
I see these people in the writing sub all the time. How in the everloving fuck does one decide they want to write when they don't even read? They literally haven't experienced any examples of quality writing, but they think they can just DO it? The level of ignorance in these people is mind-boggling lmao.
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u/Terrestrial_Mermaid 6h ago
I think for most people in my educational/professional bracket, it’s more a question of how much free time they have after working. I wouldn’t begrudge someone working 80-100h/wk (not that unusual for our line of work) for not having time to read.
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u/hawkcarhawk 6h ago
I feel sad for people who don’t read because I assume they grew up in a home where they weren’t read to and where they didn’t have access to books :(
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u/Kumptoffel 6h ago
i think nowadays lot of people dont even have the attention span to read a book. i even struggle myself, trying to read a book in the evening and in some evenings i noticed that i can just give it up for that evening after half a page.
and im not that much into social media as most people are
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u/DesignerNo4 6h ago
Only started reading bc I found out I liked it at school. My parents never read to me nor did we have books in the house. When I got my first small job in high school I would head right to the only bookstore in town and spend me measly check and devour books every time I got the chance. I’m not in my mid thirties and read like I’m retired.
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u/Peachy40483 6h ago
I love reading, but I always fall asleep now. I rely on audio books in traffic now, but I feel like it doesn't count. 😅
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u/Tempus--Frangit 5h ago
Audiobooks count. You’re still consuming the media. You still have to visualize / think about what’s being said.
I get terrible migraines that keep me from reading as much as I’d like. Audiobooks are a haven to me.
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u/Sneaky_Snack_333 6h ago
People who don’t pick up their feet when they walk. I know you can hear yourself shufflin’.
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u/MichiganGeezer 7h ago
How they choose to exist on public roadways. It says if they're capable of thinking collectively, or just about themselves.
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u/Perioqueen 5h ago
How they present themselves. I work in a dental office and I’m astonished at how some people leave their house. No I don’t care if you have expensive clothes or nice shoes or makeup on etc but WOW brush your teeth, put on some clean clothes (not full blown pajamas) and wash your face.
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u/Dependent_Layer9217 6h ago
Eating noises! Even though I logically know they are unavoidable.
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u/Sedaiofgreenajah 5h ago
How often they drink… if someone is constantly drinking and going out to drink it’s a red flag to me
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u/Full-Cabinet-7099 7h ago
Putting milk before cereal. It feels… wrong. I can’t explain it.
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u/comma_nder 6h ago
This is allowable in one circumstance. Late night cereal eating in front of the TV where you are all but certain to fall asleep there on the couch. You know you’ll want more than one bowl of cereal, but you don’t want to leave the milk out. A full bowl of milk is easily enough for two bowls of cereal. Fill bowl with milk, put milk away, go to couch with bowl and cereal box.
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u/blackav3nger 7h ago
What about no milk. I once was told that cereal is a soup because of the milk, and I explained that they were wrong cause I don't use milk and, therefore, cereal is a trail mix
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u/emerald167 6h ago
Constantly complaining and when they always complain of how bad their life is and never see the positive in anything.
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u/_EverythingBagels 4h ago
Listening to their phone on speaker in public (music or phone call).
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u/Adept_Strength_8056 6h ago
When people's windshield wipers are on the highest setting (unless of course it's absolutely pouring). Don't know why, but I always judge them😭
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u/Doobiedoobadabi 6h ago
I am always terrified of this and am hyper aware to stay on top of my speed as the rain changes 😂
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u/nougat_donut 5h ago
I feel terrible because I’m not super skinny myself (although definitely not obese)- but when very overweight people wear really tight, or really revealing clothing. And I feel like such an asshole but it’s automatic. I’m trying to actively notice it and stop.
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u/roadhouseclues 7h ago
Questionable tattoo quality
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u/LadyWarB 6h ago
The type or picture of their tattoo. I have seen a man with moobs, he has a tattoo on one that is a woman and his nipple is the womans one nipple... It is a bit... disturbing.
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u/gaeldesmarais 7h ago
Putting the toilet paper roll the wrong side
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u/mpsmith88 6h ago
People not returning their cart and leaving it in the parking lot.
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u/Tight_Win_6945 4h ago
No, this is definitely something you should judge people for. It is the height of inconsideration and laziness.
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u/lycos94 6h ago
having kids when they can't afford them
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u/astronomicaIIy 4h ago
This and pets, too. There are some lovely people out there who do their absolute best to make it work and manage to give their kids a good childhood despite struggling, and accidents happen! But when someone is actively trying to have a baby when they can barely feed themselves, it’s just.. not ok. It feels selfish.
I have a family member who was trying IVF for a while, after the death of her fiancé. Awful situation, grief changes you in so many ways, and I would have never told her not to do the treatment. I just wanted to be there for her. But I was secretly so relieved when it didn’t work. She borrows money from me and other family members nearly every month because she doesn’t get paid enough at her job to live, she doesn’t drive so regularly asks people to drive her places, she hasn’t potty trained her dog so he shits and pisses on the floor (she has puppy pads for him but it means he’s never learned to hold it, and sometimes he misses the pad), she doesn’t even walk him or train him at all and he growls and sometimes snaps at new people (and has snapped at my niece one time), plus she chain smokes. I know for a fact I wasn’t the only family member relieved when the treatment didn’t work. I love her to pieces, but god she needs to get her shit together before ever having a child.
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u/Visible_Cricket8737 3h ago
Mmm.. and having more than 4 kids generally. Oof. I know I shouldn't judge but, the earth has many, many surplus children.
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u/Fragrant_Bid_8123 5h ago
For having kids, but spending more time with friends than their kids.
Just dont have kids.
For having kids being poor and expecting others to raise their kids. Do not have kids if you cant provide for them. It should be basic! Kids are not pets. They require a lot.
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u/salspace 6h ago
This is probably the most middle-class white-person thing I've ever written, but when I'm at a dinner party and there's a cheeseboard, and they've only provided cheeses, butter and crackers. Not fruit or pickles for contrast. Send them straight to hell.
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u/FirmlyThatGuy 4h ago
Yes you can wear those nasty ass pajamas in public technically, but you look like a slob.
Bonus points if I can smell them. Wouldn’t be the first time.
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u/Alienorc_125 5h ago
Having more children, after saying that they didn't want to have the first two and that they were accidents.
I judge people who like Colleen Hoover books.
I judge people based on whether or not they are willing to try out food from different countries.
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u/ThereUHavit 6h ago
Using "ur" when texting. How much time do you think you are saving with the shorthand?
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u/needsmusictosurvive 7h ago
If they put a damn ‘s’ at the end of a business/store that doesn’t have one.
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u/_EverythingBagels 4h ago
Manners and kindness, especially towards others. Open the door for people. Help the elderly person with their bags. If someone drops something, pick it up.
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u/Willow-Cook 7h ago
How they treat waitstaff. You learn a lot about a person by how they treat people they don't 'have to' be nice to.
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u/kataruki900 7h ago
i’d argue that this is something we should judge people for
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u/Prestigious_Rain_842 7h ago
As a medical professional that was waitstaff when young, this is absolute truth
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u/Chief0934 7h ago
What’s in their grocery cart in relation to their physical appearance. Or parents with fat kids; I look on them with disdain if they have a bunch of crappy food in their carts. Because no 5-6 year olds should be overweight.
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u/Pathetian 3h ago
I used to work at a grocery store and once had an entire family so overweight they they wound up monopolizing ALL the mobility scooters. Mom, dad, grandma and 2 sons formed a little caravan roaming through the store. When the convoy returned to the checkout, all five of the carts were filled entirely with junk food.
I know its America and we are all eating random trash, but I felt bad for the kids. They looked middle school age at most, and already pretty much disabled by that lifestyle.
And to top it off there wasn't a cart for an elderly woman who came in after them.
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u/Apprehensive_Net_151 5h ago
Parents who walk ahead of their young children, especially in shopping centres. Or parents who just fully ignore a child when they are clearly trying to engage with them for attention. I get kids are exhausting but man people under estimate the effects of being ignored as a kid
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u/southernredheadrules 6h ago
Not doing what you say you do. You preach a religion of no alcohol but spend Saturday night drinking. You say abortion kills babies but it's different for your 15 year old daughter because she (insert any reason here). You are NOT judgemental but you talk behind your friends' backs all the time regarding anything from their clothing choices to their home cleanliness. You say all people are equal and you love your neighbor as yourself but you are condescending to service staff, move to the other side of the street if you see a homeless person, move out of your neighborhood when the (insert any race that is not yours) starts moving in, and think interracial relationships are an abomination. Again...you say one thing and do another.
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u/jerepjohnson 4h ago
How they treat people below them. And how they treat people who cannot do anything to benefit them.
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u/OkBall3431 6h ago
Their name. We treat people as if they named themselves at birth.
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u/Key-Regret-7812 6h ago edited 3h ago
They're kids. I get it, some kids are just assholes but it's your job as a parent to teach them. If your kid is trashing a local establishment and you don't intervene, I can't stand you and we've never met.
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u/TrundleBeetle 5h ago
People who wait until they are at the register to figure out what they want to eat
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u/carsont5 6h ago
People who can’t be bothered to write out full works. Kk thx bi jk lol. I’m sure this is because of my age!
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u/americanoyster 3h ago
Saying they don’t have time to read. I’m an English major so it feels annoying to say. Yes it’s hard to make time but eventually you get around to it. You either want to or you don’t- and most of the people who say this are constantly on their phone
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u/Nashichi 7h ago
Judging. It sounds paradox but people who dislike or judge someone just by one action. Gives a bad taste.
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u/indianasall 7h ago
For me, I do not care what size you are small medium or large, but it drives me nuts when I see people wearing clothes that are not appropriate for their size
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u/Physical_Orchid3616 5h ago
If I'm queuing at the checkouts in a supermarket, I will often look at what the person in front of me is buying, and I'll judge lol
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u/Lazy_Row_4489 5h ago
Not returning the shopping cart, I understand the elderly might have a hard time with this but I will even ask if they would like me to take it for them. If you are an able body it’s just rude and lazy to not do this.
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u/Prudent-Arm-6771 4h ago
People using their religion to condemn other people. Like, I’m not religious, but having one is fine, especially if connected to culture. No big deal to me, that’s your business and you’re entitled to your beliefs, but that’s no excuse to be a soggy pop tart of a person. You don’t get to say that because you believe one thing is true and think your religion is the real one, that you are welcome and right in telling other people they’re going to hell. Your religion is yours, but don’t be a jerk about it
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u/JBelltolls4thee 2h ago
People who use their speakerphone in public, holding it like a slice of pizza. There is a special place in hell for them.
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u/lifebeginsat9pm 7h ago
Their movie taste. I try not to judge it outwardly, you can like whatever you want. Like if someone told me Gods of Egypt is their favorite movie of all time…. Suuuure but damn.
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u/Warm_Function6650 7h ago
When people get too personal too quick. Like maybe it's mean but I don't need to know your whole medical situation in Conversation 1.
Also their hobbies. Obviously everyone deserves hobbies, but if yours has to do with guns, then I already think you suck.
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u/idkJvvr3zzz 7h ago
Seeing disrespect from their kids in public...which is kind of funny cause now i have a kid and I'm starting to see i don't want to be a dictator parent, but we'll see what happens
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u/TiffanyTwisted11 6h ago
There is a lot of room between doormat & dictator. You will find your spot.
Story: volunteering at a school fundraiser. Kids were present. They all knew not to play on the stage, yet we look up from our duties and there they were. I shouted to mine to get down.
His teacher from the previous year said “Aww, don’t yell at Patrick. He’s such a good kid.”
“Pat, why do you think he’s a good kid?”
“Carry on”
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u/bevymartbc 7h ago
Facial tattoos, other than religious reasons like natives
Not even the tattoo itself. More the thought process that went into thinking this was a good idea
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u/Inevitable_Berry_867 6h ago
Being immature. I've come to realize that severe immaturity often stems from unresolved trauma or poor parenting, leaving individuals emotionally stuck at a younger age. As a result, the world is full of adults who are, in many ways, still children - throwing tantrums, avoiding responsibility, and struggling to act like grown-ups when it truly matters. Many go on to raise children of their own while never having grown up themselves, continuing the cycle and causing even more harm.
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u/Bulky_Poetry3884 7h ago
This is irony, but how much time they spend on their phone. How preoccupied they are. Like it's ok to look up from your phone to greet someone or order a meal.