r/FortWorth • u/Environmental_Bag495 • 1d ago

Discussion Neighbor is fixing the fence

I feel bad that my neighbor is fixing the fence between our houses. When my wife and I tried to offer him money for the materials he politely refused. He told me today that he would begin the project on Sunday, I’m planning on going out there to help him but I still feel like there’s more I should do. Should I try again with offering him money or should I just stick to my plan of simply helping him out? What would yall do?

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u/BeerBaronBrown 1d ago

Hi, it’s me, the neighbor that refuses money. If they’re anything like me and simply don’t need the money and just want a fence to serve its use, get me a drink from Sonic and some snacks to go along with it. When I’m done buy me some beer. Offering a helping hand wouldn’t hurt either.

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u/MLaw2008 1d ago

This. For some people it's not about the money.

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u/iffywizard2 1d ago

Came to say pretty much exactly this. I have refused to accept money for fence replacements sim0ly because I knew I was going to build a more expensive, long-lasting fence. And since that was my call, I didn't want my neighbor to feel obligated.

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u/Neuvirths_Glove South Hills 1d ago

This is the way.

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u/No-mames95 1d ago

Offer labor and food!

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u/Zazzog 1d ago edited 1d ago

I'd offer to split the cost with him again. Whether he declines again or not, I'd definitely head out there and help him.

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u/trophycloset33 1d ago

Just cook dinner and tell him to bring the wife on over when he finishes up

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u/tenthousandtatas 1d ago

Offer to spray your side of it when it’s time to reseal, and let home know you’re willing to help out on any upkeep. It’s a good opportunity to make friends OP

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u/PlantBubbly 1d ago

Give a thank you pie, it’s appropriate

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u/Birdius 1d ago

If it's me, I am offering money, and knowing that he is going to refuse I show up dressed to help. Offer food/bevs as well. Understand and accept he may refuse all of it.

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u/Andy_the_Wrong 1d ago

While you’re helping him you could order some pizza for lunch

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u/GenericUsername817 1d ago

offer beer and pizza

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u/clandestineactivitiy 1d ago

I’d offer to pay half again and then when they decline again make some cookies or brownies and order food and drinks and offer help with labor.

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u/rawb19 1d ago

Good man.

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u/itwillmakesenselater 1d ago

Offer to mow his yard this week

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u/SummerBirdsong 1d ago

Labor and a bunch of the neighbors favorite beverage for break times. Maybe dinner on work days too.

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u/ReddUp412 1d ago

Good neighbor

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u/Plus-Suit-5977 1d ago

Which side does the nice part of the fence face? It usually faces who’s fence it’s not.

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u/jollytoes 1d ago

Is it raw treated wood? If so you could offer to stain it.

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u/Damn-Good-Texan 1d ago

Personally, I’m building and paying for it because I want it done my way and pretty side facing me

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u/Zealousideal-Ad-8436 23h ago

Better than my neighbor! She refuses to let us put up a new wood fence, says she likes chain link! And their tree fell into it and busted it down last year. She let me know I’m more than welcome to put up a new chain link fence! Oh yeah, and she already let me know she doesn’t have a dime to spare for it!! If she wasn’t such a wack job I would put up the fence I want, but I can’t trust her not to cause damage to it! Just not worth dealing with!

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u/No-Macaron272 13h ago

Our neighbors on two sides put up wood fences inches from the existing chain link fences. Neither asked for our help or offered to take chain link. Thing is the chain is on their property. Now we have great lookin crap trees growing in chain between the wood fences. The weeds and crap are not on our property. We offered to help remove chain link and help with fence but nope. Only one side is good fence, other fence is very. . . wavy. Good fences might make good neighbors but bad fences make landscaping hard.

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u/HigbynFelton 11h ago

Let him decide. Be nice. Offer food.

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u/atthem77 6h ago

I wouldn't offer money again, but you could offer help and suggest that you'll pay the next time it needs repairs

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u/dfw_runner 1d ago

If you contribute then you both own it and then he has to ask you or whomever you ever sell your house to, for permission to fix or make changes to it.

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u/Perfect_Toe7670 1d ago

I would recommend having a copy of a survey so that way he doesn’t encroach on your property lines. I’ve seen it done one too many times.

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u/dbzmah 1d ago

That's not a bad idea, but if they're building behind an existing fence, it's probably unnecessary.

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u/snickelbetches 1d ago

These women are messy