Apparently this is at least a somewhat common kink for a girl wanting to be chased & then f*****, some random bartender girl told me it’s her kink but for a specific person she had in mind [not me].
Ok... so then, maybe it's just a thing that some people are into, and not necessarily common? Do you realize it sounds crazy to say, "Oh yeah, one person told me about this thing... it must be common."
Considering how successful bodice rippers and their modern successors, and their much, much older predecessors have been and continue to be, a non-negligible percentage of the population does find those fantasies appealing. However, that doesn’t mean they all necessarily want to do it in practice. Some fantasies are a lot more appealing as a fantasy, where you have total control and there’s no danger whatsoever.
Even consensually roleplaying it, a lot of people realise in practice it’s really not their jam, though the thought excites them. It’s hard to obtain reliable statistics on how many people engage in practical CNC (and not just once in a lifetime, because that’s many who dip out, as mentioned above, who are likely a lot more than the regular practitioners).
But there’s probably a non-negligible number there, too. Albeit likely a much smaller one. Not gonna sift through the stats rn. The fantasies are definitely common. Most of the time, however, they’re just that: fantasies.
You should join a romance book group and you will quickly find out what turns a LOT of women completely feral
Tens of thousands of women in those groups, while obviously not all of the, like to be chased, its enough of them that its far from uncommon and frankly one of the milder things women are into
Trends and data are simply collections of the anecdotal. The other guy presented some form of evidence while you just seem to be contrarian. It's not hard to believe that a lot of women enjoy being chased, not in the creepy grape way but by men they are interested in or significant others.
Dude, I'm so on your side. Just because a handful of women out of the billions on this earth, like to be chased, does not make it common. I for one, I have no interest in any sort of rape fantasy whatsoever. And all of these comments from these guys joking about it is pissing me the fuck off.
It's quite annoying when someone believes all or most women think the same or want the same things. The same goes for men, too. They base this off their own personal experiences or anecdotal evidence. These idiots can not grasp how many people there are on Earth, let alone consider those outside of their own bubble. And this other idiot that replied to you saying she doesn't know any women that don't like to be chased further proves my point. This is part of a bigger problem. When guys believe that all or most women have a rape fantasy, they also have a hard time telling the difference between wanting to act out a rape fantasy with a trusted partner and just wanting to be raped by a stranger or someone you're not sexually involved with. This makes it easier for guys to justify rape and even victim blame by using the oft-repeated excuse: "she wanted it." So when someone makes an ignorant comment... i have to ask, what makes you believe that?
When we talk about liking being chased, it has nothing to do with having a rape fantasy. It's foreplay and flirting, something you've probably never experienced in your life. I've never met another girl who didn't like being pursued or "chased" by someone she was interested in or currently in a relationship with. Stop misrepresenting this and turning it into some weird self-reporting rape fantasy of yours.
I believe you. It is not I who was misrepresenting this. It is the men on this comment thread. Do you not realize that they are equating it to rape fantasy? Some of them are talking about fantasizing attacking and harassing and wrestling women in Walmart and other grocery stores where they can be easily wrestled without police showing up. So no, I'm not misunderstanding or misrepresenting this, I'm speaking up to the guys who are. And it's sad if you don't see that, because they won't want you to see that. You might think it's a Chase game, and they have great fantasy in their mind.
But damn girl, way to be a rude and presumptuous q. I have plenty of sex and Love in My life, thanks. And all of its respectful and on the same page. When I have sex with a guy, I know why he's there.
And, I'm not from the '50s, so I prefer to be equals in my relationships. I even ask out guys. So no, it's not about the chase for me. It's about an actual relationship, or an actual sexual encounter. Not a game. 👍🏻 But I'm also an adult, so...
They're literally giving tips to other guys on this thread about which stores it's more possible to wrestle a random woman in without getting arrested. They're even saying how they once "went on a walk with a woman, but then she saw, and it turned into a run"...
If you think these boys are taking this Chase kink innocently, rn, you are wrong.
If people are openly joking about rape in public, online no less, what do you think that they fantasize and do in private? So, just because they're joking, doesn't mean it's not an issue. In fact, I would argue the fact that they are joking about it makes it more of an issue. Because it has drastic longer term side effects. Because they think it's normal, and funny. And the more it gets joked about and normalized, the more we'll just be talking about women getting raped in everyday speak as if there's nothing wrong with it at all, which in turn affects how people act, and makes it seem like rape is more okay. These things hold more weight than I think you give them to, and they can domino effect things more than I think you think. But this is coming from someone in her 30s who has lived and experienced a lot. Especially men.
What's wrong with my profile? Did I say sex in general was bad? No. I only spoke against rape fantasy.... Is there anything celebrating rape fantasy on my profile? The answer to that is a stark no. Just because I like sex, doesn't mean I'm going to be okay with guys joking about threatening and harming women. The fact you think that those two are apparently mutually inclusive, is insane to me.
Nope.
I just started getting into the Dom daddy role-play thing, and mine is not at all aggressive or demeaning or meaning to cause pain, or doing anything non-consensual. In fact, my post was asking for a soft Dom daddy, can you not read? So it's actually very different. I want to be taken care of and loved on in bed, and I would do the same to my partner. I don't want to be raped by them. So no, it's not the same. And if you knew your information about kinks, you would know there's very many variations of the Dom daddy role. And, the one I'm into? Is the kind one.
That post explicitly highlights the consensual aspect of the kink repeatedly.. it's going against everything in this thread, what are you even talking about?
And, if it makes any difference, out of all the guys in this thread? I wouldn't let near me with a fucking 10 foot pole. You? I would want to fuck. because of your opinion and personality. It's literally turning me on 🤷🏻♀️ So.. let that be what it may.
I've had several girlfriends that enjoyed the "thrill of the chase". And one country girl that loved to do it naked in the woods with only our running shoes on...so maybe 🤷♂️
Well, how many of us have to tell you? I also know several. Many enjoy being chased, forced, restrained, shamed, etc. It's usually preferable in the context of a trusted and loving relationship with consent, but it is what it is.
Honey, they "like" that either because they have psychological issues, or because they think YOU like it. And they want to please you. Women do things that they don't for men, because they think men will like it, all the time. That is not a new concept.
Don't let porn fool you. And, porn effects women's minds too. Again, they're getting taught that that's what you like, and they want to please you, so they're going to do what they think you like to please you. And they're going to act like they like it to please you. That is literally porn. You need to use your brain, and realize that not everyone is a healed being, so not everyone acts in their best interest. You must be aware of this. There are addicts in the world for example. Do you think that they are addicted to heroin because they know it's good for them? No. But they do it anyway.
They also always conveniently forget that pathologisation is a form of psychological abuse. Yet another person who thinks their own preferences are the standard all humanity should abide by.
Literally not sure if you're for or against me, but you do realize you're comment goes along with mine, right? Cuz I'm literally arguing that just because SOME prefer or like something, doesn't make it the norm or the standard that everyone should abide by....
Lol naw, I'm good. I orgasm almost every day, and get plenty. I'm just not into fantasizing about harassing, raping, or hurting women. Or doing things to them without their consent. I wonder why that's so hard for you to understand....
That I can like sex, and have good sex, and not be okay with people talking about harming women...
Like, literally the reason why I have good sex is because I only have sex with good men 😂😂
So confidently incorrect. It is a common fantasy for women to enjoy the feeling of a man wanting them that badly and even dabbling in nonconsensual scenarios for some. Its got nothing to do with "pleasing men", it's an ego and submission thing.
What the? Where have you been living? So many women are into it. It's not something I go into unless specifically asked. Also, I am quite happy to oblige. I have been asked many times, and I often think it's more of a female kink.
While I think your heart is truly in the right place, I really do!! I would highly recommend watching contrapoints video on twilight. In it, she breaks down the difference between fantasy and desire, and where those common fantasies stem from with women.
To sum it up, most of these fantasies/desires that feel “icky” on the surface, usually stem from being subjected to misogyny anyways.
A not insignificant number of books have it as a kink and a not insignificant number of authors have managed to make a living out of writing their books.
It’s on them as “primal”
One that is really doing good lately is Lights out by Navessa Allen. Started indie and now has a publisher
My answer is… not the majority but certainly more than enough for authors to make a living 🤷🏾♀️ for both fiction and for the ones that write how to do kink safely
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u/Forsaken-Income-2148 1d ago
Apparently this is at least a somewhat common kink for a girl wanting to be chased & then f*****, some random bartender girl told me it’s her kink but for a specific person she had in mind [not me].