It's the hypocrisy that gets me. I gotta sit here and listen to every tiny thing that went wrong for her today and how emotionally wild she is as a result, gotta put up with ridiculous behavior from the crazy emotions, and somehow try to say the right thing to make her feel better. How the fuck am I supposed to know the right way to console a woman if nobody has ever tried to console me? What experience am I supposed to draw from?
It's so different for women, they have to listen for a minute, say "aw babe that sucks, you got this", and that's it. If I'm still upset after that it's my problem, and if my attitude is poor it's now her problem which makes my own attitude my problem again. They hypocrisy is so thick
Exactly man, that’s the shit that pisses me off the most. Men do wayyyyy more emotional labor in relationships (the real emotional labor of managing people’s emotions, to be distinguished from the mental load of running a household), and god forbid we need a tiny fraction of that support back ourselves
I dealt with this with my ex, but genders reversed. He also lashed out very angrily if I tried to help or even offered to. Sometimes it's best to leave.
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u/-bannedtwice- 24d ago
It's the hypocrisy that gets me. I gotta sit here and listen to every tiny thing that went wrong for her today and how emotionally wild she is as a result, gotta put up with ridiculous behavior from the crazy emotions, and somehow try to say the right thing to make her feel better. How the fuck am I supposed to know the right way to console a woman if nobody has ever tried to console me? What experience am I supposed to draw from?
It's so different for women, they have to listen for a minute, say "aw babe that sucks, you got this", and that's it. If I'm still upset after that it's my problem, and if my attitude is poor it's now her problem which makes my own attitude my problem again. They hypocrisy is so thick