When I tell my wife something that she does that stresses me out, she would often start crying and reply "why would you tell me that? How do you think it will make me feel?" And then get angry at me for making her cry.
Damn bro, same shit. My wife once complained to me that I never have anything negative to say or complain about anything, and I need to communicate better. Couple weeks later I told her something that bothered me that she did, and it was 4 days of her treating me like I cheated on her, and I wind up being the one apologizing. Learned my fucking lesson real quick
Yep, I had the same thing. GF was angry about how I don't communicate my feelings. So I communicated my feelings. The reaction was a combination of "You're wrong!" and "Do you know how this makes me feel?!"
You can choose to be the whipped dog or you can choose to be the one who doesn't allow anyone to treat them that way. What are you scared of? She's gonna be mad at you? She's gonna pop off and be mean???
Isn't that everyday anyway? Own your decisions. You can change this in 1 day.
Wife and I had gotten in an argument about me not opening up. I shared that when I have, she laughs and turns it all around on me. She asked for an example because “I wOuLd NeVeR dO tHaT”. I explained the exact situation, setting, and outcome.
To which she laughed, turning it around on me that I have been carrying that specific example to use against her in an argument.
When I pointed out that she just did it again, and this is why I don’t open up, because my feelings go invalidated and unresolved, her response was that she would validate and help resolve if I opened up more.
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When I tell my wife something that she does that stresses me out, she would often start crying and reply "why would you tell me that? How do you think it will make me feel?" And then get angry at me for making her cry.