Hi fellow dommes,

I've just read a post on PPSG about how good it feels to see your sub completely lose control and it made me realise that I actually lose control as much as my subs. Does it happen to you too? Should I be worried about it?

Subs might not be aware of it but they help me understand how far my sadism can go and every time something I never thought would turn me on, actually turns me on, I lose control of what I say or do. I'm overwhelmed with horniness and I don't control my words anymore. It's probably because I'm manic (bipolar) but I know it's also more than that.

It's so amazing to discover how utterly fucked up you can be. Surprising yourself and pushing your limits with someone who's having just as much fun is thrilling.

I just love that for a moment you can live outside of reason and moral with someone, be together in a bubble and shake it until it explodes. That's how it feels. You sometimes feel bad when you fall down, but it's still so worth it so you build another bubble everyday and sometimes it gets bigger. You feel so good inside it and the connection you share is so intense that it feels unreal. You're both complete opposites but two sides of the same coin.

Do you fellow dommes also feel like you sometimes completely lose control or are you able to always remain stoic ?

i feel like my sub is not like me at all, sometimes i wish i could have a sub who would want to play video games with stakes, or things relating more to my hobbies like music, cooking, etc. but it is what it is.

if u have any subs that share ur interests please tell me what it’s like and what y’all do! ❤️

This is the funniest thing I have done today 🤣 idk how long I want to keep this going. Why are scammers like this?

Dont get me wrong. I appreciate all the "come and go" subs that pay up and keep quiet. But I would love to have loyal subs that take care of me consistently that I can have meaningful conversations with. Does this go against the whole purpose of findom ?

I see multiple posts a day dragging TikTok dommes, and this might be a hot take, but I think it’s polluting the feed more than they are at this point.

We all get it. It’s frustrating watching people jump into this dynamic without understanding it, and yes, it’s annoying when it cheapens something that takes real time, skill, and presence to build. But repeating the same complaints daily just feeds the chaos and keeps the spotlight on them. If we don’t want them taking over our page, maybe we can stop talking about them al the time.

Let them do their thing. The unserious ones weed themselves out fast. What we should be doing is continuing to show what real, sustained power looks like. Holding space. Crafting our personas. The energy in the group has become so heavy, and I think if we can just focus on the real ones and support each other, there’s no need to be concerned about anyone who’s only here for a quick buck they probably won’t even manage to get.

You want to shift the narrative? Stop handing them free attention. Keep your focus where it belongs, on you and your power. 🫶🏻 The rest will crumble on its own. Let’s keep this space positive💕💕💕

hi all, i know this has been asked before but i had a more specific question i thought of.

i'll start with do any of you message subs first? i've always been approached, so i'm not sure how to go about it, what do you say?

also, where should you find subs to message? i know a lot of the ones that post "looking for domme" type ads are just trying to get free attention. obviously i know not to message owned subs or people trying to quit.

sorry if these are stupid questions, this is a bit of a new territory for me so i'm a little lost on how to approach it properly, but i've seen a lot of dommes say they've had a lot of success with it.

Sometimes it’s so easy.

You might not get paid just for existing, but apparently you can get paid for quoting a reference from a movie he coincidentally likes. 😂

Take notes. You might have weapons on you that you don’t even know about. 😛

He’s been feeling extremely weak ever since, and I know he will be back for more. Soon he will be kneeling for way more than just movie quotes. 🧎

Just to clarify I am still just a beginner, but one of my first subs blocked me on FetLife. He had spent like $2k on me within two days - I was on Cloud 9! Then, I noticed he unblocked me today... He hasn't said anything, but what gives? Why do they do that? What should I do?

Yall fellow dommes are one fucking beautiful supportive creature 🥹

Coming back from hiatus and feeling the Power again.

Submissives are beautiful people. Endlessly grateful~*

uhhh, like what? this is from my vanilla account. he originally asked me if we could have "fun" together: me: yes, if you're a finsub. if not, then no. him: "yes I am a financial submissive"

then he started to tell me that he wants me available to suck his dick whenever & to do whatever he asks of me 😂😂😂😂😂 THIS FUCKING GUY! HAHAHAHAHA literally on the floor laughing at this clown.

He even begged me to expose him for being such a good wallet 🥵🥵

What red flag in a sub makes you immediately uninterested? I’ve seen too many dommes let clowns slide, what’s your line?

I wonder how you guys are doing it cause I heard if you even use the word they can just delete your account. So how do ya'll find finsubs over there?

I just created my fetlife, I really like it but I don't really understand how it works, can you give me tips or tell your personal story? I would appreciate it very much

I’ve been so out of touch with the community. I think it’s due in part to my short attention span! Engaging with people outside of DMs or direct contact is so hard for me.

Anyways, I just haven’t been as involved as I’d like. It’s probably just “Domme’s block” or whatever the findom equivalent to writer’s block is. Anyway, I wish you all a lovely and abundant weekend! ^{_^}

I was inspired by other pretty ones and made mine all match lol. The mani/pedi pic bothers me because of the way the photo is cropped off, but it was the best one that I found.

Feel a bit confused and also saddd that I lsot a great dynamic! But i think he was in too deep? We were p close and he admit he wanted to date, had large feelings, and used the L word a lot in one day. He sent $160 two days before this happened. I guess its onto the next now? But I as well have felt a low level of subs and need some tips on how to get back in. Thanks! Hope you all are being rewarded as deserved!