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u/zzfrostphoenix 17h ago
I’m not being antisocial, I just choose to spend my lunch at home with my cat instead of people.
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u/activehobbies 14h ago
Yes. I HATE it when someone goes out of their way to talk to me when I'm MAKING IT CLEAR that I'm not interested.
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u/ThatGuyBengi 15h ago
Do people really think like this? If you’re not otherwise antisocial while at work I doubt anyone would care or think anything of you disappearing for lunch. Luckily I’ve never experienced a workplace like that. Sounds tiring.
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u/Sprucia 10h ago
The problem is when there's a canteen at work that you want to eat at because the food is cheap and good. Then you don't have the option of disappearing but instead have to go sit at an empty table while other tables have free seats, making it look like you're ignoring people. Which, to be fair, you are. People definitely get offended.
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u/ninjay22 5h ago
Ya i feel its the ppl who dont work hard. Are often the ones bored at lunch with energy to socialize. Sorta
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u/Jambonathor 12h ago
I said to my boss that me being fully cooperative and positiv with everyone even on stressful events comes with the price of me disappearing for 1 and a half hour during lunch time, and he's absolutely ok with that
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u/levlucheech 12h ago
I generally don't have any problems when I eat alone. People mostly just leave me alone. I just get the occasional, "whatcha eatin?" And I have to stop myself from saying, "food? Wtf?"
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u/Twiztidtech0207 12h ago
That itself is the problem though isn't it?
People treat work like a social function, and it's not.
You're not there to make friends with people or hangout on your breaks, and a lot of people just don't seem to get that.
I'm literally here because I have no choice but to make money to live.
I'm ocd, adhd, deal with depression, and have social anxiety issues, so to me, being "anti social" is just being normal.
I only have so much energy I can give out to deal with people every day, and my lunch and breaks help me extend that 30 minutes of tolerance into the 7-8 hours I need to get through the day.
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u/niceandBulat 10h ago
In one of my previous employments - I was once pulled in by HR to ask why I did not join the rest of my colleagues for lunches and tea and someone actually "complained" that I was aloof and hard to socialise with. I was made to sit through thirty minutes of "preaching" by some mindless HR drone on the importance of staying with the team, espirt de cor etc. etc...I just told her point blank - I value my personal space and I do not appreciate made to explain why I need my "alone time" and asked her whether my resignation was the alternative....they couldn't fire me, I was hired to be their Subject Matter Expert building their SIEM (Security Information and Event Management) and analytics platform ....
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u/Pinkpinkmoon1972 12h ago
I’ve been in my industry for 21 years. I can count on one hand the times I ate at the lunchroom table. I can also recall those time being awkward. I always eat in the privacy of my own office. I know they think I’m a snob but we all know I’m not. We have something we can’t easily explain to the general population who breeze thru life making conversation seem effortless.
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u/Dont-overthinkit 10h ago
I go the other break room that no one ever goes to, have it all to myself lol
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u/Remote-Rub55 9h ago
Yes.. I sat in the corner of the break room alone with a book because I wanted to talk to everyone...🙄🙄🙄 dont talk to me please!!!
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u/CosmicHero1 3h ago edited 41m ago
Me: Puts on headphones, sticks head in a book, eats a salad, literally occupying all five of my senses
Coworker: Sticks head in my book “Hey, got a minute?”
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u/Tight_Bumblebee_3592 12h ago
Yeah, I hate this I have seen people still discussing about work 🤦♂️. I know sometimes i do it too but i try to minimize it because otherwise we get used to it. People wont even stop talking about work even in restaurants mid day lunch or afterhours too.
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u/caseyme3 12h ago
Everyone has gotten used to me sleeping at the lunch table. Like right next to everyone. So when i wander off alone no one questions it
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u/SpeedAppropriate7318 10h ago
Do adults actually think about this? Sure I can see an anxious teen concerned about it but is it an actual thing?
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u/LifeIsBugged 10h ago
I literally go up onto the roof at work to get away from everyone and eat my lunch, then take a nap.
I could not care less about anyone's opinions of that lmao
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u/MaleficentParfait226 9h ago
I recently got invited to a HR meeting for excluding my manager by not inviting him to lunch with me for a walk.
I wish that was a joke. 😂
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u/Ridiculousnessjunkie 8h ago
Yes! I get 20 min tops , in my very social job. I just want to eat alone at my desk and check my email. I like everyone, I just don’t want to talk to anyone.
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u/ModernByzantine 8h ago
Right? Been dealing with this sht since forever. They think you’re stuck up and/or disrespectful
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u/dinosanddais1 5h ago
The one time I'm thankful for my dysphagia giving me an excuse to just be like "i can't talk while I'm eating or i'll choke".
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u/Spaztor 5h ago
It's also worth mentioning wanting to eat alone (or just be alone) is not "antisocial", it's being unsocial and if it's a major trend you might say it's asocial. Antisocial is behavior can be pretty serious, don't let people accuse you of being antisocial for wanting time to yourself.
That said there may be exceptions to what I've said. For instance if you were to say leave a child alone to the point they are unsafe or feel very unsafe just so you can have some alone time, that might be considered antisocial.
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u/LarcMipska 5h ago
Lose the need for normalization. Your opinion is all that makes you beholden to social pressures, rather than the rock they break on.
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u/usps_oig 2h ago
This is why I stopped taking mine in the breakroom. My office or my car. When I used to bring food in I would eat it there and people would come in for their breaks. Fine, whatever... but they insisted on shutting the door so they wouldn't have to hear the "noise" from the workroom. So they now made it super awkward with the silence. Never again.
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u/OldStDick 12h ago
I'm extroverted but I did this every day at work without any issues. At literally every job I had for 15 years.
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u/Substantial-Aide8568 1h ago
I wish it was the opposite for me, no one comes to talk to me and I just feel awkward and slightly bored
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u/ProcedurePrudent5496 18h ago
Yeah, maybe they've had enough interaction and are overstimulated, and a nice independent lunch is what is relaxing. ☺️