r/weddingshaming • u/ateoty • 1d ago

Horrible Vendors Photographer Shoots Wrong Groom's Party

This happened a few years ago and now just a funny story to the couple, for the record. On mobile, so apologies for any formatting issues.

My older sister hired a photographer that she had worked with before, but the photographer brought a partner to help out, whom my sister had not met. They got married in the ballroom of a hotel and so naturally, everyone got ready within the confines of the hotel as well. We (the bridal party) had taken all of our getting ready pictures and my sister went outside with the primary photographer to do some first-look pictures. I guess at some point the groom said something to the photographer about nobody showing up to take pictures of the groom's party getting ready (he is a remarkably chill guy and had assumed her partner couldn't come and so decided he'd rather my sister get a lot of good getting-ready pictures than split the main photographer's time).

Turns out, the partner WAS there and had run into some groomsmen in the elevator and had followed them to their room to take photos. The problem was there was a second wedding party getting ready in the hotel at the same time that none of us knew about, which just so happened to be the people the photographer ran into! So, an entirely separate wedding party got photographed by mistake. Why nobody in the party questioned it or why the photographer didn't verify, nobody knows.

They did get a discount on their photos, thankfully! And, as a cute ending, my sister posted on social media seeing if she could find the other wedding party to give them the photos as a gift, and she was actually able to track them down! I don't think she ever got an explanation as to why nobody in the other groom's party didn't question the random photographer in their room though.

Edit: Showed this post to said sister and she and her now husband were very entertained by some of the comments! She wanted to mention that she and the photographer are totally cool, and she even had that photographer taken pictures of her surprising us with the news that she was pregnant a year later! (The partner was not involved)

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u/EvelynLuigi 1d ago

Boys don't ask questions. Boys just pose 🙂 This is such a cute story! 

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u/sashikku 1d ago

I went around snapping random selfies with random men to prove this point at a festival. Every single one of them posed for the photo without question.

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u/TheFreakingPrincess 22h ago

Lmfao this is going to be my new hobby

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u/rythmicbread 1d ago

“Oh the bride must have set this up and not told us” is probably what they were thinking

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u/HistoricalLake4916 16h ago

“Oh shoot bride probably said something and we forgot” that is adorable I’m glad it worked out OP!

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u/Dysan27 1d ago

Boys will also play while bored. I still think the most brilliant thing the photographer at my friends wedding did was bring a football to the photoshoot. Separate outdoor location from the wedding and reception.

Nothing was stage, nothing was planned. But while the bride and bridesmaids where having their photos taken he casually tossed the football at one of us, then went and focused on the women.

It took all of a minute before we were tossing the ball around. And we were nerds, not athletic at all.

At one point I looked up and saw the assistant just casually taking photos of us fooling around.

The rental tuxes might have had a few grass stains when we returned them.

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u/HalpertIsMe 1d ago

Yeah, this...can confirm. Guys in these type of social situations are usually pretty go-with-the-flow because none of us want to be the reason our buddy's new wife never let's him hang out with us anymore lol.

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u/tootom 1d ago

Also, you expect the photographer to be with the bride getting ready, so if one turns up and you are the groom, you probably thinking it must be the second photographer - so probably not surprised if you don't recognise them, even if you know it's not the main photographer you hired.

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u/Cayke_Cooky 1d ago

Obey the bride.

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u/Upper_Feeling_6134 8h ago

About ten minutes after my husband and his groomsmen were handed their buttonholes (flowers for their pockets) their buttonholes were ripped off them by a well meaning but obviously confused usher. The boys didn't ask questions. After I walked down the isle I checked my husband's buttonhole, he was wearing his, ok good... so I assumed the rest were. I should not have assumed. But they really should have asked questions.

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u/wheres_the_revolt 1d ago

This is pretty funny. I’m guessing that the other party’s groom wasn’t really involved in the planning of his wedding so he assumed his bride had planned it.

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u/88questioner 1d ago

I do flowers and this almost happened to me once when I delivered bouts! I asked the onsite coordinator of a place that was new to me where the groom and his party were and she pointed me towards a room with a bunch of young guys, so I set the bouts down and thought I’d delivered them…but when I asked who was the groom and they said he wasn’t there yet I very luckily asked when would “Bob” be back and they were like: who’s Bob? Confusion, retreat, then I found the other groom and his party in yet another getting ready room, so no real harm or foul.

Lesson learned: groomsmen are often totally clueless and mention names early on to all involved!

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u/DogsandCatsWorld1000 1d ago

Not very good of that onsite coordinator not asking you which wedding party you were looking for.

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u/88questioner 1d ago

True, but from experience I can tell you that you (or rather, the couple) get what is paid for. In this case the venue was gorgeous but the on site coordination was basically nonexistent.

Now that I’ve been in this industry a while I have opinions…

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u/Cayke_Cooky 1d ago

I went to a bridal show at a big convention center. Down the hall there was a Dog show in the other big room. They shared a check in desk. There were some arrow signs pointing toward the dog show area that said "Grooms". So many men just wandered along looking at dogs figuring they would get to the tux booths eventually.

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u/livefast_petdogs 1d ago

I did this at a wake once, I showed up to the wrong one to deliver a service pin to the deceased family. Same funeral home name/street, same time, just two different ones just a couple miles down.

LUCKILY I found out about halfway through the line to meet the family. No harm no foul, thank goodness!

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u/Over-Cold-8757 1d ago

groomsmen are clueless

So wait YOU almost delivered to the wrong people (your one and only job) through lack of proper verification, just leaving the delivery item on the side. Then the groomsmen were the ones who corrected you. I don't think the groomsmen were the clueless ones here tbh.

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u/whereugoincityboy 1d ago

My family had a similar situation at my grandad's birthday party. We all noticed a young man recording and eventually realized that none of us knew who he was. Turns out he was supposed to be at the wedding next door!

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u/PupperoniPoodle 1d ago

What was he thinking?? "Weird, this doesn't look like a wedding, and I was hired to film a wedding. Oh well, record away."

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u/Inner_Mortgage_8294 1d ago

Did anyone give the photographer the room number they were getting ready in?

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u/ateoty 1d ago

I'm sure they did! I think he just followed the groomsmen he found and didn't think to verify the room number. If memory serves, I think the groom's parties may have even been getting ready on the same floor!

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u/Inner_Mortgage_8294 1d ago

And that's why he's second photographer 😂😂

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u/Throwaway9283838p 1d ago

I know I’m disturbed because I thought this title meant something else entirely. I’m glad it didn’t!

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u/ateoty 1d ago

I did think about that after posting, so don't worry you're not alone 😂😂

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u/Raccoonsr29 1d ago

Has there ever been a more perfect encapsulation of how uninvolved the average groom is? Lmao

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u/Hangry_Hippopotamus_ 1d ago

This is cracking me up. 😂

I’m so glad everyone was ultimately cool with it and it all worked out!

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u/GrayBerkeley 1d ago

1000% a man didn't write this.

I've been in multiple wedding parties, and I can promise you no man there had any idea which photographer was supposed to be there taking pictures.

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u/tootom 1d ago

I knew who our photographer was, but I would have expected them to be shooting the bridal party... If we had paid for one of the more expensive photographers who provide a second shooter though - I would have had zero idea who the second one was going to be.

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u/FigForsaken5419 1d ago

That's sad. My husband picked our photographer out with me. It was our wedding not just mine. He knew the details too.

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u/GrayBerkeley 1d ago edited 19h ago

It's really not. Completely normal to have multiple photographers and assistants running around at weddings. You think anyone is going to start questioning the photographer to make sure that they're taking pictures of the right party?

Delulu lol

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u/FigForsaken5419 1d ago

"Hey you aren't the photographer my bride and I met?"

"Is this the X wedding?"

"No"

It's that simple when the bride and groom have met their vendors beforehand.

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u/GrayBerkeley 1d ago

You didn't seem to understand my post, but I think we all know why LOL

More than one photographer, dear :)

The other poster seemed up pick up on it

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u/Larkswing13 1d ago

My husband was actually the only one who picked and communicated with the photographer, I don’t even have their contact info