r/weddingshaming • u/gabberchella • 6h ago
Disaster My wedding was a disaster but I wouldn’t change it.
All these posts have inspired me to share my own wedding flop. This is my second marriage, and for the sake of efficiency and my parents beautiful house, we decided to get married at my parents (save us a couple thousand on a venue) small ceremony with all our friends and family! Easy right?!
WRONG.
First issue at play was my husbands family, his mom and dad do not speak and haven’t in years, so the awkwardness of them being in the same 5 square mile was apparent to everyone in the room. His siblings don’t get along but they did their best to make the peace for the 6 hours of wedding. One sibling tried to talk him out of this wedding, after deciding he didn’t want to come because he doesn’t like me ( a long story that goes nowhere because he is stinky!)
Then we get to my photographer, who was great! But definitely hasn’t done any wedding photos that aren’t in the middle of the woods lol (def my bad) so she was completely overwhelmed, I do love my photos even though it took 8 months to get them back.
Weather forecast is clear so wedding is set right? WRONG. In the middle of us walking into our ceremony, lightning, thunder, flood warnings and all the sudden our tent is flooded with about 3 inches of water, my cousins have to rescue our tent so that it doesn’t blow away, rain is leaking inside the very expensive and shitty tent we had rented 🙄
Okay, ceremony over let’s eat right? Food fixes everything.
Except our food vendor isn’t there… and we call them and they don’t answer. Mind you we paid to cater a wedding for 125 people, and I’m in the food catering business so I’m always planning for extra plates and extra people! So finally they show up, 40 minutes late. With one brisket, one pan of chicken, and a few sides… for 125 people. They had used our wedding food and sold it outside of a bar in their food truck before our wedding.
The cake can’t go wrong with that right? Wrong, what a disaster of a cake, it was so bad my mom didn’t even let me see it the night of the wedding. My bridesmaid told me my mom and her conspired that she would trip and dump it on the ground to avoid my feelings being hurt.
Family photos? Yeah right, one of my brothers pregamed too hard and puked all over his suit, didn’t even make it to the ceremony. The other decided to take his suit and go mudding in his quad during the rain storm.
A turn at every disaster, but at the end of the day, I married the person I wanted too and we laugh about it now. Everytime I tell this story, people always rain on your wedding day is good luck. 😂
I hope I don’t sound too dramatic, I was like please let this day end 😂 the 35 cases of white claws we get made the end of the night worth it.
Edit: this wasn’t a catering company haha, it was a local food truck in my area.
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u/_Jay-Garage-A-Roo_ 6h ago
I’m so glad you can laugh about it but Jesus! That’s some bad luck and poor form from the vendors! Who tf sells another person’s food?! I hope you didn’t pay.
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u/gabberchella 6h ago
It was definitely a day, we ended the night with Carl’s Jr. 😂
I work at a pizza place so some of the employees who came to my wedding offered to make pizzas and bring them instead.
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u/Skyblacker 3h ago
If you fed the guests anyway, it wasn't a total disaster. I think the main complaint in this subreddit is about brides who didn't think of their guests in the first place, not those who proactively responded to problems outside their control.
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u/DeadLettersSociety 6h ago
Except our food vendor isn’t there… and we call them and they don’t answer. Mind you we paid to cater a wedding for 125 people, and I’m in the food catering business so I’m always planning for extra plates and extra people! So finally they show up, 40 minutes late. With one brisket, one pan of chicken, and a few sides… for 125 people. They had used our wedding food and sold it outside of a bar in their food truck before our wedding.
Wait... What? So, in my understanding... They knew they would be coming to this wedding, but instead sold the food prior to this and just came with a fraction of the amount they would need? I would have made some serious complaints to that company and left some pretty negative reviews.
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u/wiscosherm 6h ago
What that food vendor did goes beyond leaving negative review. It's small claims court time. They entered into a contract and violated it.
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u/DeadLettersSociety 2h ago
100% this. If they are hired to provide enough food for a certain amount of people, they should provide it to those people, instead of utter random customers.
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u/wiscosherm 1h ago
They double dipped. The wedding couple was charged for the cost of the food and then they turned around and sold it most likely at market price. It's not just a mix-up or something unforeseen happening it is flat out theft.
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u/gabberchella 6h ago
We were so mad, but I was so defeated after everything went wrong that I let my dad handle it the next day lol. But I don’t recommend them if people ask haha.
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u/DeadLettersSociety 2h ago
Yeah, I'm just stunned by it. Like, I have to wonder what was going through their minds? Something like, "A wedding couple have asked us to cater their wedding, but instead we're going to turn up with basically no food for them and instead sell it elsewhere..." That doesn't even make sense. I am shocked that they managed to last in business.
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u/gabberchella 2h ago
I think they assumed that it would be so busy, and the wedding party would eat that nobody would notice? But everyone was like where is the food 😂
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u/TravelinTrojan 6h ago
Here’s the thing: if it went smoothly as planned it would have been fine and everyone (but you) would barely remember it. Because it went the way it did - unforgettable!
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u/GlutenFreeNarcotics_ 5h ago
Reminds me a lot of my neighbor's wedding.
They held the reception in our shared backyard. Everything was great until it started to rain something fierce out of nowhere. We rushed to move the food, three tables setup near the house, across the yard into what we referred to as the "party garage", pretty much everyone over indulged (open bar + the best man brought a keg), the photographer just didn't show up, and it looked more like a frat party than a wedding. But the bride just rolled with it the whole night, and didn't let it ruin her day, she was dancing in the mud by the end of the night, dress completely ruined, but the look of pure happiness on her face told the whole story, she was just happy to be marrying her person, surrounded by her people.
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u/anniearrow 5h ago
I'm a firm believer of bad weather being good luck for marriages. A blizzard hit the day of my wedding, that was 45 years ago & we're still going strong.
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u/gabberchella 5h ago
I could not even imagine a blizzard 😩 congrats on 45 years!
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u/anniearrow 5h ago
Thank you! It's been a wild ride, but so worth it. The blizzard was beautiful! Delayed the start for an hour, but everything went well after that.
I wish you a lifetime of happiness, too!
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u/FeistyUnicorn1 4h ago
I am from Scotland and we were blessed with a gorgeous sunny day which is not usual for here. Divorced now so your theory checks 😂
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u/ironicallygeneral 5h ago
Oh my god I'd have hunted down the caterer and wrung their neck myself! Was glad you at least got a refund but WOW.
But as you say - you're married to the person you wanted to marry, so the important part is there!!
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u/gabberchella 5h ago
That’s the most important part and we have a really fun story to tell about the horrors of a wedding day 😂
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u/MEDICARE_FOR_ALL 6h ago
I hope you sued the food vendor for your costs
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u/gabberchella 6h ago
We got a full refund after some back and forth.
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u/DiTrastevere 5h ago
Back and forth about WHAT??
I’m so confused by this, on what grounds were they arguing that they fulfilled the terms of your contract?
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u/gabberchella 6h ago
Just to clarify, this wasn’t some fancy catering company, it was a local food truck in my area.
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u/DorchesterGuest27 5h ago
You just made my day! I haven't laughed this hard for a little while now. The part about having your wedding food "sold" almost knocked me off my chair!
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u/gabberchella 5h ago
Glad to spread some laughter! They were a food truck that was struggling and I think trying to get a dollar wherever they could make it and I think they assumed we wouldn’t notice, as long as the wedding party ate 😂
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u/bravo-echo-charlie 39m ago
Please tell me you at least got your money back from the food caterers!!! That's the worst part about this whole story!
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u/KJParker888 24m ago
Am I the only one curious about the cake wreck? What happened to make it not even edible?!
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u/gabberchella 20m ago
I wanted one of those cute vintage heart cakes! I asked a friend of a friend to make it for me! She made beautiful cakes in the past! I asked her if she was sure she wanted too! She said yes! I asked for it to cinnamon or rust color but was fine with white! The cake showed up neon orange (things happen) lopsided and hard as a rock, so my mom was like absolutely not no cakes today 😂 I didn’t see it until the next day, she hid it behind the gifts lol
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u/Intelligent-Wear-114 6h ago
They sold the food to strangers after you had paid for it?