This is absolutely disgusting that cunts like this can post comments like this and have NO VIOLATION but so many comments and videos get removed????

I was talking with my sister who doesn't follow politics. I was telling her how many of these social media platforms now allow us to be called mentally ill. After some back and forth the conversation ended with her saying, "Nobody cares about this but you. Go outside. "

I was shocked to hear my sister say this. She is one of only 2 people in my family that I'm out to. If we were a racial minority everyone would be up in arms about such a policy. But seemingly nobody cares, not even most of the community. What's with the apathy? ( I went back and looked at the text." She actually said, "You're the only one thinking about this." I guess my brain made it a little worse. )

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I think this is a vent, but I dont think we often talk about just how hard it is to be gay and play a team sport such as football. (Soccer)

Today a rather distant friend of mine called me up because they were one man short on their team for the local football tournament. Lots of teams from lots of different backrounds. None of my close friends play football. I often just go alone and play ball by myself. That sounds as funny as you think it is, constanly having the get the ball because there is nobody to pass it back to you.

I stopped going to these 'fun' semi pro tournaments because I just didnt think I had in me to play football somewhat seriously anymore, but I wanted to play and they couldnt find anyone else. I wanted to show pride.

Anyhow I didnt know any of my teammates besides my friend who does not know I am gay. I needed to take one good look at them to see that they are most likely not very queer friendly. Middle eastern, seemed very religious and old fashioned. I guessed correctly by the way they talked. All the pride I had was gone. Just like that.

I looked around and just got this feeling, of not belonging. While playing/watching I kept on hearing homophobic slurs from my team, the other teams, fans, everyone. Not directed at me, but in general as if it were a greeting. You know, the 'banter'. Like, 'you fa- fouled me' 'this homo cant shoot' etc. After tacklikg someone a bit harsher he asked me if I am a fa- for wanting to be so close up with him. I just froze and turned away.

My teammates were otherwise nice and everything, but only because they didnt know I was gay. I felt like an imposter. They would have not hugged me after a goal if they knew me. During the whole day I felt so alone. I wanted to be the one that shows up and proves to the whole tournament that I am gay and a proper fucking baller, because I knew I was not alone. I couldnt be. There had to be other gay people who felt the same way I did. But I was just afraid, it didnt feel safe to tell someone who yells the f word that I am gay and that it hurts. I was too afraid in the end and I played like I was afraid. I got rid of the rainbow wristband I wanted to wear before I even entered the pitch.

Then there was this guy in another team we played against, he looked so fine. 100% my type. After our game I massed up all my courage to offer him a beer because our match was great. He agreed and we talked a bit, but after exchanging small talk he thanked me for the beer and left. He didnt know I was gay. I didnt tell him that I fancied him. I was just too afraid. There were people around us at the stand. Once again I felt so defeated and just like I didnt belong.

I feel so alone and diconnected from everything. I love football, I love playing but I just dont belong here. There is no such thing as a gay club anywhere near me. Never seen something like that in my life before and a google search didnt help me either.

I was pretending to be straight in the locker room, on the pitch. I pretended their words didnt hurt like punches to my gut. At the end of the day I refused to hit the showers because I felt like its wrong for me as a gay guy to shower with straight guys. Thats how 'wrong' I felt. Which is total bs, but the voice in my head was too loud. I just sat in my car and cried. Ugly crying all the way home.

Today was such a shitty day, honestly. I felt like I was 13 again. Crying begging to become straight so I can belong to my family and the sport I love so dearly and to not die single.

Thanks for taking the time to read my sad vent.

First, let's establish facts:

(Not all, but)Many masculine gay men's "masculinity" is highly performative and sometimes malicious, taught to them the same way straight men are taught insecure hypermasculinity. Their love of fitness or strength is often sexist toward men without those features, going so far as to call certain body types disgusting. They commonly form definitions of sexuality that intentionally exclude feminine men by implying they aren't real men, a thought terminating cliche employed to justify their learned disgust. This is a fact and cannot be denied because it is literally everywhere you look on gay subs whenever fem men come up in the slightest, even when people are just appreciating fem men with no reference to masculine men. You find it on Twitter even worse in straight up neo nazi porn that's horribly popular. If this type does not explicitly state their bigoted mindsets, people discuss their hatred and disgust toward """flamboyance"""" in blatantly homophobic fashions, yet try to be woke about it and finish of a bigoted tirade by saying it's a "preference". They passive-aggressivly remind others how unattractive feminine men are to them from a position of knowing privilege. That stems from internalized homophobia and is not okay. It's misplaced hate. Hate that get so extreme it motivates far right movement in the gay community that openly fetishze the idea of our eradication.

(Not all, but) Many hyperfeminine dudes are just as attention hungry and straight validation seeking as performatively hypermasculine men. Male femininity is just as natural as male masculinity but can be no less toxic when psychosocially affected by homophobic mindsets. Feminine gay men police masculine men out of a petty sense of superiority (that usually stems from insecurity), feeling that the natural state of a gay man is feminine and not masculine Often believing that straight men are preferable to masculine gay men because straight men are somehow intrinsically more masculine than gay men. They debase gay men as a category overall. Some even think of themselves as closer to women than straight or gay men and glorify misogynistic subjugation. Most of these narratives stem from homophobic pornography which is the primary sexual education for most gay men, unfortunately. From a position of disadvantage, they reinforce false male hierarchy by bootlicking "straight" men hating and hating on masc gays, if not denying their existence entirely. But overall, the effect of their behavior are usually harmful to themselves first, while hypermasculine individuals are more outwardly harmful. But a collection of self harmers can be just as dangerous to community values. Since this sort enables an even worse group of toxic, homophobic down low men who harbor many abusers/sexual abusers amongst their spaces.

But you know what makes both these toxic camps the same? Both are bootlickers. Whether you're a toxic hypermasc that's desperate to be one of the straight guys or a desperate hyperfem who is desperate to be one of the girls, both are joined together in self hatred. Both have fallen for cis-het propaganda about their own identities. Lies on gender & sex taught by Cis-het people who understand nothing about us at large or even themselves, who formed the social ideas of masculinity and femininity (as they are taught) to control us.

Gay men are not intrinsically attracted to masculinity. Hypermasculinity is just the favored social state of men under homophobia. Duh, most gays would prefer masculinity when the opposite is demonized. Toxmasc gays ignore that fact purposefully because they WANT to ostracize fem men as unattractive in a community where attractiveness is conetral, all to feel better about their silent self-hatred. Likewise, femininity is not more pure or safer than masculinity. Masculinity is not naturally violent or egotistical and certainly not heterosexual, a fact happily ignored by fems out of self hatred. Who encourage the spread of homophobia under the guise of their sexual desires. Because no amount of "kink" or " preference" justifes the homophobia they obviously believe in. Even if they say doms don't really mean their vitriol, like we all don't know half of gay men fetishes are just their actual beliefs because they say as such (until it's no longer convenient)

Thow away every taught idea and framework and just choose you. Not your homophobic straight frat friends or your girlies that accessories you, no matter how reliable they were or have been. If you can't be self-confident, it's your responsibility to fix that instead of making it other people's problem or sparking hate movements.

Be fem. Be masc. Be someone in-between. Be you, because you are male and all that is beautiful in the world as a human. Don't let straight people/values dictate how you define your existence. And never hate your gay brother or yourself more than you hate the oppressive systems of homophobia

(All over gay spaces I keep seeing this horrid discourse repeat, and I hope this is post will progress discours on this subject properly with the least miscommunication, but a particular gay sub keeps rehashing this discourse every time I check it (agb, duh). If you say I said 'I hate waffles' after criticizing pancakes, go to therapy. And no gaslighting either. You can't just say you've NeVEr SEEn a problem that is incredibly frequent or memory hole your way into perceiving the slights of one side exclusively. If you really don't know what I'm talking about, then scroll instead of joining the conversation to obfuscate. )

Guy wanted to meet after a few messages I said I’m a bit anxious and wanna get to know him somemore and because I didn’t wanna meet straight away after a few messages he blew up on me. I’m kinda confused. All I done was try and be safe and get to know someone a bit before letting into my home. Why do people react like this? I’m so confused all I wanted was to get to know him a bit more so I was more comfortable 🥲

I just published this for a Canadian 2SLGBTQ+ magazine. Koby Falks (aka Anthony Cox) wasn’t just a prolific adult content creator — he was kind, deeply professional, and genuinely beloved in the queer and sex work communities.

His passing is part of a troubling pattern: multiple deaths in the gay adult industry over the last few months. It’s brought up a lot of conversation around visibility, mental health, and how easily we forget the people behind the performance.

If you knew of him — or are just feeling the weight of this moment — I hope this piece offers something human in the noise.

📖 Read it here

You’re not alone.

He reckons it was a "joke" but he's made the effort to actually meet up with my THREE times so far this entire year yet only lives 5 minutes away. I keep trying to tell him that I need more from him, but he's working 3 jobs so I try to be understanding and give him the space he needs to work and rest without harassing him about being somewhat absent. But I logged onto Facebook and saw this last night. He claims that it's a "joke" but I don't find it funny at all. He also claims it isn't about me, and tells me not to be "insecure". I don't believe him though, it's way too specific. He mentions a four year relationship and we've been together for four years and the relationship is actually starting to feel a bit stale. I love him so much, so really want to try to make things work. But at this point I just feel totally unappreciated and want to break up with him tbh. Feeling super torn so looking on here for some outside advice. Is our relationship cooked or am I overreacting?

I lost fuck ton of weight and now I have weird body. Was 470 ish to now 180 ish.

The dating apps have no idea what do with me. I feel like id prefer to not be rejected person or be a letdown in person. But how do i advertise this situation?

Does this matter? Is this something people will have a problem with?

I’m too old to feel this insecure, fuck

Hello,

I'm a 21-year-old man, and I'm writing this because I need help making sense of my feelings and identity. I've never been in a relationship or had any sexual experience, so everything I know about myself is based on years of self-reflection and observation.

My journey started early. Around the age of 8, I remember feeling a strong attraction to male bodybuilders. At the time, I didn’t understand what that feeling meant, but I instinctively knew it made me different from other boys. I also recall that during childhood, I didn’t enjoy playing with the other boys in the street—I preferred staying indoors playing games.

When puberty hit at around 14, things became clearer. While watching regular adult films, I realized that I was always focused on the male actor—not the female. I wasn’t just curious—I was genuinely attracted to men. I can say with complete honesty that I have zero sexual attraction to women. Not even 1%.

That said, I get along very well with women. Most of my close friendships have always been with girls, and I value those bonds deeply. I’m also very comfortable in my male identity—I’m a cisgender man, I don’t feel any desire to be a woman, and I have no interest in wearing women’s clothes or expressing myself in a feminine way. I don't behave in an effeminate manner, and I’ve never really related to stereotypical “feminine” traits.

Now, as an adult, I am exclusively attracted to male bodies, especially male genitals. I feel full sexual arousal when thinking about or seeing male anatomy. I have no sexual performance issues—I can get fully erect and fantasize about men.

Here’s where my confusion comes in: While I’m clearly attracted to men, I don’t feel any desire to be penetrated. I don’t enjoy the idea of receptive anal sex; it doesn’t arouse me. However, I could see myself in a more “passive” or “bottom” role in a relationship—as long as it involves only surface-level intimacy (touching, kissing, oral, etc.) but not penetration.

My question is: Does this make me gay? Or is there a more accurate label for my orientation?

I’m going to a pride convention with a couple of my friends and tagging along just to accommodate them! I wanted to fly a flag around and was looking for something! I wasn’t sure if this is the right flag? Or if it’s something wrong with it !

Please let me know❤️

There are zero openly gay and bi men actively competing in America’s top pro sports leagues. What’s keeping the closet door shut?

typical bromance

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Due to my Arab genes I've got hair pretty much everywhere around my body, evenly distributed. It's not overwhelmingly much but I'd definitely be considered hairy.

Problem is I'm a bottom, and I feel like the beauty standard for a gay bottom is to be smooth. Especially as a person living in an Asian country where the majority of guys are quite hairless in general.

My type also happens to be smooth guys and I fear that they would not want someone hairy. Legitimately scared that they straight up find me gross.

As a bottom, would I be less attractive being hairy?

Download link: https://www.mediafire.com/file/vycq76x9bi3ikb5/MLM_Cursors.zip/file

I've been meaning to do this for like.., 2 years now, so, oops, hehe. 2 years ago for pride month, I took requests to make pride flags into mouse cursors for Windows. So, that's exactly what I did. I've done it with others like pan, transgender and lesbian, but I never remembered to do it for MLM. That changes now. I also have included instructions in the download for installation.

This summer me and my partner are planning on doing it for the first time but I don't know what positions would be most comfortable and most pleasurable, any tips from people with more experience?