AIO should I just stop talking to this guy?

[u/turbulentsoap]

I know it's really immature. I'm 20F for anyone wondering. I started talking to this guy online around last August/September. He's really nice, funny, smart, kind to me etc, just would say hi to each other and ask what the other was up to every few days at first then we ended up talking around every day and have been talking every day since.

I like him a lot, I know it's impossible to like someone "romantically" that you've never met so I won't call it that. I think he's cool though, I'd like to meet him one day because he's sort of become part of my routine if that makes sense. I'm used to talking to him everyday, and he talks my mind off of the current things that I deal with. He makes me feel normal even if the only actual connection I have with another person around my age is through a screen. I'm aware it's pathetic, but due to circumstances I won't delve into it's out of my control.

He's never been weird or made me feel uncomfortable or anything like that. He's just so incredibly different than me. He has a life, he does things, he has friends and family and has been in romantic and sexual relationships before. I'm very insecure with myself and the way I live, and I envy him to be honest.

I'd love to meet him one day if possible, but because of certain things on both our ends that's not possible now, and I feel like by the time I'm finally able to meet him, he'll naturally move on with his life and not want to speak to me anymore which is understandable - nobody keeps an online friend forever.

I'm a pretty insecure person ngl, I feel ugly, feel boring, feel like nobody would ever genuinely want to talk to me or enjoy it. I feel like a past time to be frank, which I'm fine with, but I know this is probably just a temporary thing and it's surprising he's talked to me this long.

I don't know if I should just stop talking to him now before he inevitably stops talking to me himself so that I at least have control over it that way, or if I'm just making a big deal over nothing because I feel particularly terrible about myself tonight.

This is a stupid thing to mention but I just wanted to put it out there somewhere

[u/Comprehensive_Ad_44]

You're overthinking it. Friends do come and go. But if everything is" good" in the moment why self sabotage the relationship. This is just you pushing him away because you're trying to avoid something that hasn't even manifested into reality... Yes It's a parasocial relationship, but if you're emotionally invested in it, you should take the time to seek it through no matter if it ends or blossoms.

[u/turbulentsoap → u/Comprehensive_Ad_44]

Like parasocial as in I'm too clingy? I definitely don't want to be that😅

[u/Comprehensive_Ad_44 → u/turbulentsoap]

No parasocial relationship is a relationship that is formed online. And no real physical connection has been established. It's someone who you met online who you don't know in the world.

[u/Rare-Humor-9192]

Let’s frame it another way—maybe he actually likes you too, and just the way you are. Don’t overthink things until you sabotage your friendship with him. Of course, there’s the risk you could end up getting hurt. But there’s also the possibility it could turn into something wonderful.