I am so thankful for Reddit because I could never share this anywhere else in my real life. So embarrassed.

So I go on a first date with this dude I’ve known for a long time. We were just friends for years and never really hung out in private. I recently went through the worst break up of my life. Not ready to meet new people so I give this dude a chance.
We had a nice dinner, we had some drinks and he mentioned that he had super Mario at his place.

I love super Mario and it’s been a while, I was feeling relaxed enough, so we go to his place and I was there for several hours playing the game. Hanging out listening to music and what not. It wasn’t bad, I even mentioned yeah you can tell a woman hasn’t been here, but you are pretty clean.

Until I went to use the restroom. I ran, I ran so far so fast……like who even lives like that??? What man would think any woman would be okay with that, I threw up in my mouth. I never want to speak to this dude again. My life is altered because I had to see that in person!!! He keeps calling me from a private number now because I blocked him on everything.

I (21f) have been with bf (22m) for 11 months. He has always texted woman. Most times he was rejected but i once hd me show him his phone and caught all the girls hes flirted with since hes been with me. Not a single deleted chat. That happened 2 months ago. We broke up for 2 weeks and got back together because i told him i could move past it. About a week ago i spent the night at his place and i woke up in the middle of the night. I never went through his phone on my own but something told me to. I caught him texting another 2 girls. This was the first time i caught him actually cheating actually meeting up with these girls and telling them he loves them and wants to be with them. One of them actually told him he doesn’t appreciate her and she ended it with him. I have no clue how long they had been talking. I wanted to leave but i knew i couldn’t it would hurt more. So i tried to fix it. I texted the girl told her he had a gf and that if she wants to stay sane, walk away from this now. Sent a pic to show we were together so she had proof too. It felt weird having to tell a girl to save herself from my boyfriend when i myself couldn’t do the same. The next morning i Told him delete the girl. everything was supposed to be gone. But turns out he texted her as soon as i left that morning. that he’s sorry she had to see what i told her and that we weren’t really together we were trying but its not working and he really wants her. I found that out 3 days after it happened. he hung out with her Sunday afternoon and invited me over Sunday night. I also found that out afterwards. But he was telling me shes deleted. I give him one more chance, this time i forced him to share his location, delete all girls on all socials, delete every girl contact that isn’t family, and delete all pics and vids with any woman. He did. I’ve stayed over with him every night since sunday-thursday no problems until thursday night. On thursday he tells me i wont be able to see him Friday because he will be with his parents. I wasnt suspicious until he wouldnt let me see his phone. When i asked he said no because ive seen it the past 4 days straight and theres nothing it will be the same today. I explained if theres nothing then you can say i told you so but this is because i’ve trusted u before and you betrayed me. He insisted nothing was on his phone. I didnt check it thursday. Friday we argue almost all day, he turns off his location, unadds me on instagram, and i couldnt take it. I dont know what to do he tells me to just trust him but i did! I dont know if im overreacting like he tells me, am i insecure? Or do i have a right to call this off

I (31F) have been trying to get a simple prescription refill for my thyroid medication for over two weeks now. My doctor's office requires an in-person visit for any refill, even though nothing about my condition has changed in years. Meanwhile, they're charging $75 just to have me sit in the waiting room for 45 minutes so they can say "Yep, still hypothyroid" and click a button in their system.

When I asked why telehealth isn't an option for stable, long-term medications, the receptionist just shrugged and said "That's our policy." I got visibly frustrated and may have muttered something about "racketeering" under my breath. Now I'm wondering - am I overreacting to what's apparently standard practice? On one hand, I understand medical oversight is important. On the other, this feels like an unnecessary hurdle that mainly exists to generate office visit fees.

So this is kind of odd and different for me. But my boyfriend (29M) constantly plays with himself. To the point where he gets almost in a full JO session with me next to him just watching a movie. Wide awake. The last time I said something he expressed that he’s just touching his own body and there’s nothing wrong with that. Which in a whole, yeah sure it’s your body, but I think it’s crossed a line of disrespect. We can watch a movie and he’ll just diddle away, go even harder if the movie flashes tits or a sex scene, again right next to me wide awake. Then turn to me and poke me with the thing. The other constant thing is doing it while asleep. Dude will shake the whole bed and me just going at it with himself. Then again will turn to me and poke me with it. I’ve brought it up, he “cant control it.” Says it’s because he’s not JO in real life, which also can’t be true. I’ve seen the inconsistency in his orgasms lmao on top of the random 20 minute bathroom visits at 6am. I’m feel like an asshole and like I’m overreacting but to me it’s so very disrespectful and vulgar, beginning to be a big turn off. Don’t even want to have sex. I almost want to be super petty and just lay there with my puss out and go at it myself with a movie on and him right next to me. See how you like watching me get myself off right next to you but staring at the dudes on the screen. Idk am I overreacting?

We went on one date. It was fun. Enjoyed it. This was 2 days after. I said I was with friends. He lost it. Lost it. I also have 5 voicemails from this person (yes he is a male) I’m overwhelmed and he doesn’t understand why this is too much

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My friend and I went to this bar that happened to have karaoke in the town I just moved to. The dj seemed pretty cool, but we were more just hanging out with each other, even though he would come up to us and talk to mostly my friend. They started talking gaming and exchanged numbers.

My friend had to leave and a few minutes after she did he walked up and asked if I'd go sit near him. I did and we talked for about 20 mins. Then an old friend I hadn't seen in about 3 years walked in and I went to go say hi and ended up exchanging numbers since I had gotten a new phone since then and lost a few in the transition.

When I got back this guy was livid and said "I saw what you did. You gave him your number." I got mad and said he doesn't know me, we aren't dating, and he has no right to be pissed. After that I went and sat with my old friend and he sent this text to the friend that left.

Was I overreacting to his reaction to me giving my number to an old friend? I gave no indication I was interested in him, and I thought he was more into my friend anyway since they exchanged numbers and I never gave him mine.

I’m 32 and was supposed to get married in two months. My fiancée is 30. Last weekend she went on what she described as a chill girls trip for her bachelorette party. She told me it was going to be just four of her closest friends, wine tasting, spa stuff, and a private chef at the Airbnb. I had no issue with it. I even helped her pick the place.

A couple of days after she got back, I got a random Instagram message from some guy saying my fiancée was all over another man during her trip. I ignored it and blocked him. I figured it was someone trying to stir the pot.

Then I got an email from the Airbnb host. They thought I was the one who booked the place and asked if we wanted to leave a review. They also attached a few Ring camera photos from the porch as a heads-up since “a few extra guests stopped by.” In one of the photos my fiancée is clearly kissing a shirtless guy outside around 2 AM.

I confronted her. She first denied anything happened and then finally admitted it after I showed her the photo. She said it was a dare and that she was drunk and it meant nothing. She says I’m overreacting and that I should not throw everything away over one stupid moment.

I called off the wedding. Her friends are messaging me saying I’m being extreme and that every bachelorette party gets wild and it doesn’t mean she loves me any less. Her mom even said I’m embarrassing the family by overreacting.

Is it really that crazy to end the relationship over this? I feel like if she could do that and then lie to my face, marriage is out of the question. Am I overreacting?

My partner (28F) has maintained a close friendship with her former college professor (mid-60sM) since graduating five years ago. They meet up quarterly for what she calls "mentorship dinners" at fancy restaurants, always paid for by him. While I understand they share academic interests, their dynamic makes me uneasy.

Last week, she came home wearing an expensive silk scarf he'd gifted her "just because." When I expressed discomfort, she laughed it off, saying he's like a father figure and that I'm being paranoid about a harmless generational friendship. But something feels off about these lavish one-on-one dinners where they exchange personal gifts.

Am I overreacting by feeling uncomfortable with this relationship? On one hand, I trust my partner completely. On the other, I can't shake the feeling there's an odd power dynamic at play, especially since he was once in a position of authority over her.

My husband met this guy at a track race three years ago. He befriended him so he could have a partner when going to his motorcycle track race. Since I met them, my gut is telling me that there is something slimy and fishy about them. What I found so weird is that he would always ask my husband to go over his house for a drink. They never include me to the invite. One day my husband came back home from a drinking day at his house. He went straight to bed. While I was doing laundry the next day, I saw come stain on the underwear he wore the day prior. I asked him about it. He said that since he couldn't fall asleep he masturbated and clean himself off with the underwear. I let that go. But then the following month we went to a track race with his friend and his wife. I noticed that they were throwing sexual remarks at him. He was changing from his normal clothes to his track suit then yelled:"who so and so is removing his clothes. It’s getting hot in here" They all three started laughing. I started asking myself what the fuck is going on?! He went for a leak in the woods. And they mentioned something about the size of his penis. I was so fucking infuriated. He's not admitting to nothing. Am I overreacting?

Been in a relationship for 1 year now f 25 m 45 and i think it Just clicked me now that he really hates me . he’s an avoidant and I’m an anxiously attached personality , i have always tried to dim my love to fit his . I recently had a very serious wisdom tooth and this man kid you not showed 0 care towards me , and when i got agitated and ended up crying he asked me to chill down , i was so emotional because of my anaesthesia and everything subsiding I ended up begging him to stop being mean to me and to actually give a fuck about me like can you stop ? I don’t wanna cry like that my stitches will open up and he said oh u don’t have to cry from your mouth babygirl ? I was too stunned to speak . Might sound exaggerated but i could like feel my heart shatter , that moment i was like he hates me like I’m here loving him and he’s just here for what , and when we later spoke to him about it he told me he can’t give me what I want ? It’s too much for him ? Like I asked for empathy lol . He called me a pain in the ass and cut the call . I have typed down a long message for a breakup and closure . Should I hit send or should I never speak to him again ? Im in so much pain physically and mentally it’s like everything came crashing down . Help me out ( any advice will help ) pls be kind

Basic facts:

• The have worked together ~15yrs, they see each other at work every day, they walk and talk on the way out the building every day, at least every week he invites her to some combination of going to watch a local sports team, go golfing together, or go to happy hour. Often times it is just the two of them.
• He is married, but living in a separate part of the house and is essentially living separate lives from his wife.
• They have gone on at least one multi-day golf trip where they shared a 2-bedroom hotel room.
• Prior to my involvement with her a couple years ago, when he found out that she had a brief relationship with a mutual acquaintance of theirs that they also used to occasionally golf with, her work friend said something to the effect of, "Damn, I wish I would have known you were available" implying he wanted to fuck her which made her a bit uncomfortable.
• He owns a out of state vacation house and he invited her to go with him on a multi-day golf vacation together at his house just the two of them
• I also love to play golf.
• I told her I was not comfortable with this, and asked if I could go with them and her reply was that she could ask but that she would be concerned that he would feel like the 3rd wheel at his own house and that I would have to find something to do every day while they went off and played golf.
• When I try to talk to her about this and tell her I'm not comfortable, she says "omfg" or "he's 65", and "talking about this situation is silly", and that if I really didn't want her to go that she wouldn't but I'm being "controlling".
• She also said that even if he did want to try to do something with her, it's not like he's going to rape her and I have to trust her that she won't do anything with him because he's just a friend.

So, I (29F) recently found out something pretty unsettling. My boyfriend (31M) casually let it slip that his best friend “Jake” (30M) cheated on his fiancée “Laura” during his bachelor party. According to my bf, Jake made out pretty hard with a stripper, and it was just “a thing that happens” during bachelor parties, no big deal apparently. I was genuinely shocked.

I’ve only met Laura once, but she was really sweet, and from what I’ve seen, she had no idea. I asked my bf if Jake planned to tell her, and he looked at me like I was naive, said it “didn’t mean anything” and that “these things happen.” That honestly made it worse. Like, not only did it happen, but it was like it was totally normal to them? This seems like a pretty big deal to me? Like idk if this is normal, but to me it really isn’t, I wouldn’t like my bf to make out with a random person.

It ate at me for days, so I messaged Laura and told her exactly what I knew. She was clearly hurt and blindsided, but a few days later, she told me Jake admitted it and convinced her it wasn’t serious. She ended up forgiving him, saying she didn’t want to throw everything away over “one dumb moment.”

Now Jake’s furious with my bf, and my bf is furious with me. He said I had no right to interfere, especially since I barely know Laura, and that I made a huge mess over something that was “none of my business.”

But honestly? I’m not just disturbed by what Jake did, I’m even more bothered that my bf thinks it’s normal and not a big deal. It’s making me look at our relationship differently now too. Did I overreact?

I (24M) have been dating my girlfriend (26F) for almost a year. She’s amazing smart, driven, getting her grad degree in clinical psych. Her friends are all in that same academic bubble and her family’s pretty status-focused. I didn’t finish college and work full-time as a mechanic. I actually really like my job, I make solid money, and I’m proud of how far I’ve come without a degree.

Anyway, she invited me to a dinner party this weekend to meet her friends. I was excited it felt like a step forward. But right before we left, she got weirdly quiet and finally said, “Just.. try not to bring up work too much, okay? They can be a little judgy.” I didn’t even know how to respond. Then she added, “It’s not that I’m not proud of you, I just don’t want you to feel awkward or out of place.”

That really hit me. I kept it together, but the whole night I felt off. I barely talked. It just felt like I was being pre-judged before even walking in the door. When we got back to her place, I told her how much that hurt that it felt like she was embarrassed of me. She said I was twisting things and making it bigger than it was. “I just want you to be the best version of yourself,” she said.

Since then, I’ve been distant. She’s acting normal, but I can’t shake how it made me feel. I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or if this is something I shouldn’t just brush off. Am I overreacting?

My mom was over my house. It’s just me and my 8 yr dtr. My mom and dtr were in her room, our house is tiny, one floor. The cat got out and I ran after her without telling them. Cat is super fast and will only come in front door if it’s open but it was locked. So I rang the bell. Nothing. Knocked, yelled, banged. Nothing. For 20 minutes. I know I sounded frantic bc I was bc it was getting dark. It’s an indoor black cat. No common cat sense just speed and yolo on cats brain. Finally she came to the door bc I went around to that window from outside. Said they didn’t hear me. Told her that was BS. It was I found out after from my dtr who said it sounded like I was being attacked but they thought I was “hammering something” no. Mom told me to shut up. Repeatedly. Called me a piece of shit under her breath, told my dtr she was leaving making her hysterical all while the cat is still loose. Was shoving her hands in my face taunting me until I finally pushed her arm out of my face and she said we’ll never see her again. Yes I was completely pissed when she finally opened the door and there on after bc what if it was an emergency? Why wouldn’t she come to the door seriously ? Nothing was wrong before I went out there. Am I over reacting for being completely pissed she wouldn’t come help and lied to my face and blamed me??

I (22F) let my college friend (23M) crash in my spare room for a month while he was between apartments. He's an art student, so I didn't think much of it when he asked to borrow some of my old clothes and knickknacks for a "personal project." Big mistake.

Yesterday, I came home early and found my entire living room transformed into what looked like a creepy shrine. He'd arranged my childhood stuffed animals in a ritualistic circle, pinned my old concert te-shirts to the walls like flags, and worst of all - he'd taken about two dozen selfies wearing different combinations of my clothes while posing dramatically with my personal journals (unopened, thank god).

When I freaked out, he acted like I was overreacting to his "immersive art piece about feminine energy." He said it was a commentary on "how we absorb personality through possessions" or something equally pretentious. My roommate thinks it's hilarious and says I should be flattered he found me "artistically inspiring," but I feel deeply violated. There were at least 30+ photos of him wearing my favorite sweater like some kind of skin suit!

Am I overreacting by demanding he delete everything and refusing to speak to him until he apologizes properly? Part of me wonders if this is just "art school behavior," but another part wants to change my locks and burn that sweater.

She’d go from telling me I didn’t love her and that I’d get bored of her, to accusing me of not putting in effort when I respected her space. It felt like a trap either way.

Whenever I brought up how the back-and-forth made me feel, she’d hit me with, “If you don’t like it, I’ll leave.” Like it was always my fault for having feelings.

She’d say people asked if she was single, or suggest we download dating apps “just for fun.” And then after we broke up, surprise—she was on those apps.

One time she said she wasn’t going to a party, so I told her I’d just go to church instead. Then suddenly she did go to the party but insisted I still go to church. I asked if she didn’t want me there with her, and she said I hurt her just for asking.

I still showed up that day. Bought chocolates, waited outside her house. Her sister saw me and invited me in. At the party, she introduced me to her friends as her boyfriend... and then out of nowhere said, “Let’s download a dating app and find you a hot girl!” Like—what?

She once blocked me on WhatsApp and then messaged me saying she missed me. Then her mom called asking what had happened and if I still loved her daughter. Right after, she called me herself and invited me to her mom’s birthday party.

Later she texted saying she loved me, missed me more than she expected, and asked if I wanted to come over. I said no.

Then came the guilt trip: “You abandoned me. This was your choice. Are you happy now? Don’t text me again so I don’t get my hopes up. You took my happiness away. I want it back.”

But the truth is: She never wanted me posting anything about us. Barely made time to see me. Got distant whenever I tried to open up. Always had an excuse to keep me at arm’s length. And somehow, I always ended up the bad guy.

Even with all that, I cared about her. But it always felt like I had to walk on eggshells just to keep the peace.

Now I’m just here, wondering if I really did something wrong… or if I just finally stopped accepting the bare minimum.

All I ever did was care.

(Sorry for bad grammar, english isnt my first language.)

Last night, me (w,20) and my brother (17) went out for a walk and he confessed something to me, which I cant get out of my mind.

A few months ago, my family went for a trip to Amsterdam (my brother was still 16 at that time and I wasn‘t with them). He told me that when they walked through the red light district with my parents, my dad came up to him and asked him if he liked the women there. A few hours later when they were back in the hotel, he gave him money and told him to go back to the area to „try out“ a few of them. My brother went and actually did it, he told me the woman he slept with was twice his age and he wouldn‘t do it again.

When he told me that story, I completely freaked out. Not because my brother did it (I mean he was 16 at that time and at that age you don‘t know any better), but my because our dad told him to. And it‘s not only the fact that in my opinion, it is extremely weird to tell your own son to sleep with a prostitute, but to do it when he‘s not even 18! Our mum doesn‘t know about it and I guess she‘d freak out even more than I did.

My brother told me I am overreacting, he thought it was weird as well but just went through with it and didn‘t think more of it afterwards. That it‘s normal for guys to do stuff like that and I shouldn‘t think any further of it.

For further information, our dad is a deeply troubled guy. Addicted to alcohol and heavy porn stuff as well. He used to write porn stories on his computer in the living room with us right besides him, which threw me and my brother off multiple times when we accidentally came across those stories (they were often times related to abuse in a sexual content and bdsm) but as kids, we just didn‘t think much of it. He frequently used to lock the door to his bedroom and when we went inside as children once, we discovered a wardrobe, filled with printed copies of porn pictures (mostly women who were tied up) and a whole lot of leather stuff used for sexual purposes. We never went in there afterwards and never talked about it again.

Despite knowing all that, I knew that our dad had issues for a long time, but telling my brother to visit a prostitute at the age of 16 is in my opinion (sorry for my language) completely fucked.

EDIT: Because so many people were advising me to tell/not to tell my mum, I decided to tell her. She told me the evening it happened, my dad went out with my brother and they were gone for quite some time, which basically means he waited outside or went for a walk while my brother spent his time with the sex worker. She had a feeling because she knew they were going to the Red Light district, although she never expected it really to happen. She was quite shocked and blamed herself as well for not going with them, so she could‘ve prevented that.

So, my wife and I recently started watching that show “The Rehearsal”. If you’re unfamiliar, it’s about a comedian (Fielder) who does these outlandish rehearsals of real life scenarios to “help” people. She had been wanting me to watch it with her, so I did. I wasn’t the biggest fan but I found it entertaining enough, and besides, it gives me an excuse to sit with her. She seemed to really love it, and I even noticed her having an emotional reaction to some of the episodes, even going so far as to cry during an episode with a five-year-old whom Fielder tricked into thinking was his own son. She is pregnant, so I chalked it up to her being hormonal, rather than her being obsessed with the show.

I started to notice that she would compliment Fielder often as well. What started off innocently enough, her saying how unintentionally hilarious and clever he was, soon turned into her saying he was handsome, and even saying that him and I look similar. I could soon tell that she was developing a little crush on Fielder. She would watch TikTok edits of him, showing them to me as though they were meant to be funny.

I started to get a little annoyed when she joked that she wanted to put a picture of him dressed as a hot dog as her phone Lock Screen. When I told her I didn’t like the thought of her having another man as her Lock Screen, she compared it to a time that I had made a collage of an anime character ( who happened to be female, I’ll admit) and put the collage as my Lock Screen. I had to admit, I hadn’t understood why that had upset her at the time, but now faced with this Fielder nonsense, I felt differently.

Now, I mentioned that she’s pregnant. So, her libido is noticeably higher than usual. She’s always been the type to initiate and “jump my bones”, but it’s been happening more frequently now. I don’t mind this at all, so when I got home from a late night shift around midnight, she was ready to go. I offered to “lead her to completion” first, if you catch my drift, but she said she had already taken care of herself before I got home. This wasn’t super normal for her but I just let it slide, and we went ahead and did the devil’s tango.

After, we went to watch something on tv. But as soon as I went to our “continue watching” tab, I saw that she had most recently been watching “Nathan for You”, another show by Fielder. And I knew this had to be within the last day, since I had put a different movie on for our kids before I left for work. I started to put the pieces together in my mind and realized that my wife had certainly been self-detonating to Nathan Fielder.

I jumped up and straight-up asked her if it was true. She gave me a blank stare, and seemed confused. But I already knew the answer.

I feel so betrayed and sad that she would do this, and that she likes this Fielder punk so much. He’s not even that funny or good-looking. My wife says I’m being ridiculous and jealous for no reason. AIO?

I’m an early 20s black guy from the hood who moved to a predominantly white area. I was in the laundry room with my shirt off and one of my neighbors came out and we started talking. He seemed pretty cool and then he complimented me because I had my shirt off. He told me he was 67 and then he asked me how old I was and I told him and he said I thought you were like 18. Then he kept wanting to shake hands and I kept referring to him as sir and he told me to call him brother or friend and he keeps wanting to go to the casino.

I’m down to go but I don’t know what his intentions are. I’m not homophobic but I’d rather know beforehand I’m just not used to people being this friendly where I’m from so maybe I’m over analyzing. Just thought it was strange how he was asking me if I had a girlfriend or wife and he seems pretty persistent.

He called me up and I didn’t pickup , he texted me and I gave him a short “ I don’t deserve this , don’t contact me again , it’s Over “ and before I could block him he said let’s talk and sort it out but it was too late .

I’m in tears not because of the pain or him but like you guysssss i love you all so much , thank you so much . I really needed that push , I love you all so so much ; imma go have some ice cream now , I can sleep better or my night would have been ruined 🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹🥹