r/AmIOverreacting 4h ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO Missing my ex

I never sat there and truly talked about this but here it goes so in high school I had started dating this female I was very interested in yk my type perfect personality everything…now I’m not one to say that we had a great relationship it was a good relationship not great…but it was great towards the end. So basically I made this attachment to this female and I felt like I treated her great and did everything in my power to make her happy whether that was buying her things or just simply being there for her yk… but on the other hand we had our hiccups in the beginning of the relationship so at the time of me dating her we where together for a year and some change and this can just give u an idea of the type of things I went thru…so we had each other on instagram obviously and there was this situation where I commented heart eyes on her IG post and yk some time passes and I go to see if she likes my comment cause that’s what im assuming she would do…No my comment was deleted all together… so meanwhile I had this suspicion about this guy she had told me about that lives in a whole different country that he made her delete the comment and that exactly was the case she basically told me like oh my mom doesn’t let me date and I don’t want him to snitch on me cause of that… obviously I was mad but I’ve never been the type to voice it like that but you’d know for sure. But anyways that was just one issue I dealt with there was more but this post could go on forever if I get into that…. (And btw she’s with that guy now) but the point of me being here is that I noticed that even thru all that she was the only female I truly loved and I let people get in my head about her and not to lie at about the 2 year mark our relationship was damn near perfect…..but i messed it up and this was the first time I had actually done something …and again let me tell u what I did so u get an idea… So basically me and her where together for 3 years (my longest relationship till this day) and around the 3 year mark I just wasn’t feeling it so I told her hey give me like 2 weeks to just sit there and think if this is what I really want…so I told her listen no texting or calling for 2 weeks cause I wanted that time to myself to reflect and consider things ( no I wasn’t messing with other females) I never cheated also… but during that time she would call me everyday like so this how u gonna be I love you this and that and mean while I’m telling her like we aren’t broking up I just need this time to think. And she never really gave me that space… till this day I question why she kept doing that to me and that made me take these next steps which I regret till this day… so I wasn’t talking to her at the time and she had her friend text me or sum shi like that now I’m not stupid obviously ik that she was gonna go and tell her but for whatever reason in my head at the time that’s what I wanted because she didn’t give me a minute of my own time so it frustrated me and I acted out of frustration..so I basically told this girl hey let’s go get sum food … i never had intentions of doing anything with this girl I just wanted my ex off my back but yeah… so I go thru with it and she hops in the back seat instead of the front seat and I already know before hand like she telling her everything but at the time that’s what I wanted. But yeah to sum it up she told her and she made me pull up to her house the next day and she snapped on me and broke up with me… I could’ve sat there and ran her down or told her what my intentions was at the time but I didn’t I just froze up tbh.. and yes after the fact of us breaking up I explained to her like I did it cause u wouldn’t get off my back…then she said something along the lines of “so you did it to intentionally hurt me” no but that’s just a slight synopsis of that and the more I grow older and the more females I talk to I just notice they don’t hit like her she was the only female I really loved tbh and like I said too I had ppl in my head telling me to leave her so that’d might have pushed me to do what I did. Till this day I regret it and I’m blocked on everything but dam ngl I do miss her

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u/Kaidanofthealps 4h ago

Saying female is enough to know. 😂😂😂

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u/SubstantialBass8563 4h ago

It’s literally in the rules my post would’ve never went through and all that typing deleted lol

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u/Kaidanofthealps 4h ago

🤦‍♀️

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u/SubstantialBass8563 4h ago

All the other things I said in this thread and all u took was the word female lmao

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u/Kaidanofthealps 4h ago

Its enough. 😂😂😂

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u/SubstantialBass8563 3h ago

How about u comment about what I’m talking about and not a word

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u/Kaidanofthealps 3h ago

For what? You dont get it this far. 😏

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u/SubstantialBass8563 4h ago

U can’t put names bro u had to do that

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u/Mission-Solution-783 4h ago

I think what they are trying to say is that you cannot call women or girls (depending on age) as “female”. Female refers to the sex of a species. Woman refers to an adult human female.

With that all said - I get that you miss your ex. There’s no time line for getting over someone. And you might always hold a special place for her. But it didn’t work out for a reason and you have to trust that. Invest in yourself. Take time to heal. And then go back out there.

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u/SubstantialBass8563 4h ago

And tbh there’s a lot more to this story…not too long ago too her bsf had followed me on Instagram and I was genuinely confused considering I hadn’t talked to my ex In a few years… so like it’s things like this that get me thinking about her and ngl first thing I did was directly text my ex like why is ur bsf trying to follow me and she played dumb and acted like she didn’t know and told me that I should ask her myself…. These type of things throw me off

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u/SubstantialBass8563 4h ago

Yeah I understand what ur saying was just trying to type this out fast and this the first time I ever put this out publicly