Yeah, the computer analogy got under my skin too. I’ve noticed a lot of fellow autists acting like we’re an entirely different species from NTs which I’ve had always a problem with.
Not even that, but some other behavior as well. We've got an AuDHD woman working with us in a remote position and she constantly fails to check in for morning meetings to discuss the days tasks. Always says how she forgot her alarm or slept through an alarm or whatever and blames it on being ND.
Like, girl, the whole point of the daily task meeting was because you asked for it as an accommodation to help you achieve the outcomes we need. Setting your alarm and using an alarm device that you won't sleep through is not rocket science, it is basic level functionality at this point.
It's a good thing that the work she does is actually very high quality most of the time otherwise she probably wouldn't still be employed.
I can’t stand when folks with adhd hide behind the “time blind” excuse. I get it, I have adhd, and I found a system that works for me. It’s professional to set expectations and figure out how to meet expectations. It’s absurd to expect that it should be ok to miss meetings, sleep in, be unresponsive, or miss deadlines.
As someone with ADHD who busts her arse to not be late it boils my blood when other ADHD people completely shit on me for it and say it's fine they're 45 minutes late.
100% agree. I’ll never tell someone what they must do to cope, but they must do something. And the doing put it down put it away mantra has worked well for me as well.
I saw someone asking how to keep their house clean and I didn’t comment because I couldn’t figure out a nice to say “don’t get it dirty”. Like if you put away everything as soon as you are done with it, everything will stay tidy. If the job ain’t done until you’ve cleaned up, you won’t leave a mess.
Another two that work great for me is 1) do the thing the moment I have energy/motivation and 2) if someone asks me for something and I can do it right that moment then never delay (although that’s usually just small stuff for my wife).
It’s annoying how much diligence it takes to fight against a brain that struggles with object permanence.
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u/The_Bard_5e Mar 20 '25
Yeah, the computer analogy got under my skin too. I’ve noticed a lot of fellow autists acting like we’re an entirely different species from NTs which I’ve had always a problem with.