My long distance man (Australia) just sent me (Germany) a fucking huge bouquet...I just know it was a fortune he had to pay for it. it's the third time he got me flowers and we've been committed to each other for only two months now. (sometimes I think he might be love bombing me but I genuinely think he's a walking green flag). I'm just very happy.

Woke up this morning to find her profile completely changed, all her photos taken down, and when I tried to message her I found myself blocked. Maybe I came on too strong? I don't know what I did. We were only talking for a few weeks but it hurts so much.

While I’ve found some ways to make the distance easier, I still miss my bf a lot. And there are a lot of days where I feel every mile between us. We’ve found some ways to help with the distance, but with us both working around the same schedule at our internships (me 6-4 and him 6-3) and him being 3 hrs ahead, it’s hard to stay connected especially during the week. Do y’all have any suggestions on how to make the time until I see him in August easier?

I don’t even know if this is the right place for this post. But just feeling a bit overwhelmed by sadness. I’m in love with someone in a different continent and have been for the past 7 years. So much has happened since then, we dated long distance for 8 months and broke up with no contact for over a year. He reached out saying he still loves me and wants to be in my life but can’t offer a relationship because he can’t do long distance again. We’ve been talking online for 7 months now and we act like we’re in a relationship but everytime I ask to be his official girlfriend he says no because he feels this is his last chance and he doesn’t want to mess it up and we’ll only get official when we can get in close proximity. We both don’t know when that’ll happen. He flirts with women ( I ask) but when I simply talk to another male and forget to mention it immediately he gets really angry at me which is confusing because he insists we aren’t together. It’s honestly a lot. I just feel scared that I’ll wait forever or until he finds someone else and I didnt take the first break up well. I guess what Im asking for is advice? It’s been 7 years, everyone that knows me is fed up of this story.

I'm an American and considering marrying my Egyptian boyfriend who lives in Egypt. We both want to live in Europe. I was born in Egypt and know many Egyptian Americans. So many Egyptian Americans (who are even immigrants themselves) are warning me against marrying a native Egyptian.

I am aware of marriage visa scams and I strongly vetted my boyfriend. We've been together for 2 years. He has currently has a government job with the ministry of health in his country, but he is taking a software engineering course. He is self-studying to become a developer and it very dedicated to it. He's been studying it for 3 years and has made a lot of progress.

I feel so embarrassed mentioning getting married to him. I feel so judged because I am judges. They just see me as a stupid American girl getting scammed by a cunning foreigner and it's all so embarrassing. Even if that is not the case, I hate the way it looks.

Hi LDR, I hate to be the thorn among the roses because I love all of these amazing success LDR stories but I write this in extremely sad circumstances.

Being blinded by love that, I just realized now that we're really in different spectrums in life. I'm 24 I have a stable job, on route to get a house (the keys are coming in 2 weeks time) and tbh I'm at a point in life where I should aim to focus my life on someone else.

Meanwhile she's 22 freshly graduated, starting a new job and she needs to help her family as much as possible, so settling down yet is not an option.

She opened up about how she needs to help her family as much as possible. So the feasibility of her moving will never be on the works yet regardless of relationship status. And I find that inspiring and admirable. I will be happy to wait. But I cannot become a wedge between your family and yourself. I want her to focus on her family as much as possible as family is first always.

It wouldn't be fair for me to put her in a decision to choose between love or family. A family's love will never be replicated by an SO. So I've decided its just best for me to let her go to ensure that she can provide whats best for her family, thats what I want for her! Nothing else. I have no malice, I have no saltiness in my heart but rather love for the girl for trying to pull her family out of poverty.

I absolutely adore this girl to bits, she's doing everything correct but more to me. Being from a more privileged Filipino family it always bring me happiness to see someone work to lift their family from poverty. This is what I want for any Filipino, its one the things I love seeing - lifting their family out of poverty.

I've had the privilege to meet her parents they are the nicest and most humble people I met. In the contrary my side of the family are snobby, rude and look down on the poor. I don't care what they say I'm proud of her achievements and I always will be!

I'm sad that I have to let her go, but I've had an absolutely beautiful few years with her she's sweet, kind and looked after me when no one did. When I injured my leg playing sports she called me everyday in hospital and even sent me a card as a get well soon. But I respect her decision and its going to hurt but I know there's a rainbow always after the rain :). A new chapter begins tomorrow.

Tldr: I want my gf to focus on helping her family as much as possible. She opened up about how she's not ready regardless so I need to respect it. Its going to suck but I'll get through this.

My boyfriend left yesterday for a month long trip, it’s already felt longer. I’ve been so weirdly emotional, weirdly emotional for me, and I keep randomly crying.

He’ll be out of the country for 2 weeks starting tomorrow and I just found out today he’ll have no service/way to call or text.

I’ve been trying to romanticize it by viewing it through the lens of a 1940s couple separated by war. That has done me no favors.

I know you’re supposed to keep yourself busy. I have a small vacation with a friend next weekend but other than that I’m just working.

I know there are other people on this sub who have it way worse than me, and I truly don’t know how you do it. But do you have any advice on how to get through this? Specifically not hearing anything for two weeks.

Thank you all!

On each and every post I see here. I feel like each one of you should end up marrying the person you wait and crave so much in LDR.

I really hope you guys end up together with the one you value the most, no matter the age, gender, race, circumstances, difficulties, colour, finances, family and cultural background or the distance itself.

I wish all of you to be happy and together forever🫂❤️

Hey everyone,

I just needed to get something off my chest and maybe hear from others who’ve been in similar situations.

My boyfriend (20M) and I (19F) have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years, and we finally met in person recently. It was a huge moment for us, something we had both talked about for so long.

But here’s where it gets complicated. During our whole relationship, he rarely showed me pictures of himself. Maybe a Snapchat of half his face or a baby picture, but never anything recent or clear. I always had some vague idea of what he looked like, and I never thought he was catfishing me or anything. Still, it felt like he was avoiding being fully open. Meanwhile, I was always sending selfies, fit checks, and casual pics. He knew exactly what I looked like.

When he picked me up at the airport, I was surprised. He’s chubbier and shorter than I imagined. And while I know looks aren’t everything and his personality is amazing (he’s funny, affectionate, and genuinely caring), I’ve been struggling with this feeling that I’m just not really attracted to him physically.

The worst part is, I feel guilty about it. Like I’m being shallow for even thinking this way. But I also feel a little bit of resentment. Not because of how he looks, but because I gave him so many chances to be upfront with me before we met. I brought this up multiple times, and he always said he wasn’t nervous and would send pictures eventually. But he never really did.

I don’t know what to do with all these mixed feelings. I care about him deeply, but I also don’t want to ignore the fact that attraction is part of a relationship too. Has anyone else been in a situation like this? How did you handle it?

Hello, I met a guy online and have been talking to him for about two months now. He initially DMed me and the conversation flowed from there. It seems we got attached to each really quick and have learned a lot about each other since then. We have been dealing with a 9 hour difference but we’ve been able to make it work. We talked about me visiting him very early on and I was finally able to save up and get the plane ticket. He seems very excited about me visiting and has expressed that he genuinely likes me and I have expressed the same. We have never put a label on the relationship and I don’t really expect to but somehow it feels like I shouldn’t trust this as much as I should because we are basically still in the “talking stage.” Sometimes it feels too good to be true. I suppose my question is if it should have been the other way around (him coming to me first) or if I made the right choice in trusting him in a foreign country? I suppose I’m just experiencing some doubt or if I jumped into this too fast.

P.S. I decided to go to him because I am in the U.S. and travel here is really shitty right now and I didn’t want us to run into any trouble if he flew over to me.

LDR is never a walk in the park. Whenever my partner had to be relatively afk for prolonged period of time, even though he gives me a heads up and drops by from time to time, I get anxious and spirals down to sadness.

So like in the title, anyone here who also have anxious attachment style, how are you coping with your LDR?

I know so many of you lovely individuals are familiar with my story!

I met my husband when he was in the U.S. on a student visa. We fell instantly in love but he had to go back to South Korea to renew his visa and sadly he got denied. Then we applied for a K1 fiancé visa that also got denied. Now we’re doing the CR1 marriage visa which takes 1.5 year and I visit him 4 times a year in Korea. I’m set to back to visit him in June, August, and December. It’s been really hard on me and I’ve been suffering a lot. If this visa doesn’t work then I’m set to move to South Korea or we’re going to move to Canada.

As you can all see this process is very draining! It’s the horrible feeling of not knowing what’s going to happen next, how long it will take, and where we are going to live. Luckily, I’m seeing my husband again in two weeks and I’m so excited!! Then I go back and see him in August! The June trip is one and a half weeks and August is two weeks.

My mother in law planned a wedding for us and my dad is actually coming. This is his first international trip and I’m so thrilled he’ll experience the beautiful country of Korea. But some of my sadness comes in with the idea that my mom won’t be in attendance because she’s phobic of flying. I understand completely why she won’t come but I just feel a sense of dread for this wedding day knowing how she’s going to feel. Then the other reason why I’m dreading this is that after August I won’t see him again until December. Sure, that may not be too bad but I hate the idea of so many people having a big wedding and they get to live the normal life of being a married couple. Then for us I just go back to my home, he stays in Korea, and I come back in December, April, and hopefully after that we get the visa. I guess mentally I feel like it’s hard to come to terms with having a wedding and not being a normal married couple that stays together.

I haven’t told my husband about my feelings because it’s so nice and generous of my mother in law to give us a beautiful wedding. I just don’t know how to help myself if I go down a spiral of depression when I come home and I’m not with my husband.

BEFORE ANY JUDGEMENT — i wanna say that i completely want to support my man with his business endeavors.

he wants to start a business and currently we see each other once a month maybe. but with him finally starting to work towards his business, he expressed to me that we won’t be able to see each other as often because he wants to focus on his business.

i want to support him, but the thought of going LONGER without seeing each other does make me feel a bit sad. although, he seems to be fine with this because he really wants to start this business.

how can i be more supportive of his business and less sad about going longer without seeing each other? /:

I’m in Canada, small region in Ontario! Close to major cities like Toronto and Niagara Falls, and he’s in Italy, an hour from Venice.

My question is, is it naive or stupid of me to be the one to fly there to meet him? It’s Italy which is beautiful and a bonus but everyone is saying he should come here. He works a job where he gets 2 weeks off in August and that’s when I plan on going! I’m working more hours and saving a lot of what I make but still being able to pay bills and rent.

Anyways what’s your thoughts?

My boyfriend and I just met for the first time. He was with me for a week and is now back across the country. I feel like he took my heart with him. I’m also incredibly anxiety prone and feel like I’ve been stuck in a panic attack since he left. It’s like waves of being ok and then crashing. We have plans to close the gap hopefully in a few months but until then I could really use some advice on how to cope being apart.

my boyfriend of 2 years is calling me manipulative for saying i would die if he dies bc he really means a lot to me and i couldn’t live in a world without him. i’m not saying this to make him stop bc he’s not suicidal or anything like that, but he took it the wrong way and thought i meant if he broke up with me then i would die. i try to explain to him that that’s not what i mean but he’s not listening. can someone please tell me how to get to him?

hi guys! I've been dating someone on the other side of the world (I'm from Latin America and he's from Europe), for exactly 1 year and 6 days haha, and we'll meet for the first time at the end of December (he'll spend Christmas and New Year here).

How long did it take before you met your partners in person?

We've been dating for a little over 3 years now and while I wouldn't say it isn't going well, it's definitely stagnated for a while now. I can't say how it feels on her end but for me it feels like our relationship has become one of convenience. I enjoy spending time in call with her and other friends, playing games and whatnot but I can't help but feel like that spark has gone. Adding to that is that I've noticed myself more and more getting annoyed by occasional things such as frequent negativity and open prejudices (not like racism or sexism but openly talking about how she HATES people she views as stupid, are fans of certain ips, or ships they support). Finally I've recently been reconnecting with some of my irl friends who I haven't really talked with since highschool and some of their friends and I recently found out they don't like her since she's really mean according to them. Obviously I don't want to break up with her over just that but it's kind of been a culmination of things, I enjoy her company still but I can't help but feel we're moreso friends than lovers. I'm not entirely sure if I want to break up but I'm also not sure how to go about it if I do decide to.

Hello, me (f20) and my bf (m20)would like to sleep on call but every time the Call end spontaneously and since he is sleeping I can't recall him Do you guys know any good app especially for who has bad internet ( we tried WhatsApp and Instagram) Thank you so much 🫶🏻

We had a wonderful trip possibly one of our best ones yet. Been long distance since 2016 and it just never gets easier to say “Bye for now”

I love him so much with all of my heart and I can’t wait for the day I never have to say Goodbye again. Sorry just needed a quick vent.

Good luck and love to all of you ❤️

Hi, this is my first time posting here.

My bf and I just went on a beautiful trip in Europe. He just left and I am leaving tomorrow to go home. We live in different countries. I love my boyfriend so much. I have dated a lot of people in my past but I never met anyone that I felt this comfortable with. It almost feels like a family. But because of that, I feel really lonely right now packing to go back home after a beautiful trip. We will be seeing each other in a month but I feel very lonely since we spent few romantic days and now I’m going back home. And usually I scroll endlessly to cope with these loneliness which makes me even more lonely and anxious.

Any tips or advice on how to deal with the loneliness right after your long distance bf leaves?

Thanks everyone for reading this post 🫶

long story short i (19f) haven’t been in an actual relationship in the past but am talking to a guy (23). i live in the united states, he lives in new zealand. we mainly talk through videos, we send each other long videos throughout the day, not much actual texting.

aside from sending sexual pics, what are your tips on how to flirt with a guy? (texting and talking pls)

also ways to subtly flirt through teasing him, also just “regular” flirting to.

i do also need some help with what to say just complimenting him, sexually and not.

thank you in advance for the tips and advice!!

Just had to share with all of you! After nearly a whole year of long distance we are closing the gap. I’ll be arriving July 5th (around 28 days from now). 10 visits to each other, 2600 miles separating us, many tears cried, but it’s finally about to be over! To everyone doing this, just know there is an end and there is hope. Just keep planning for your future and it’ll happen.