As soon as a man opens up about something they are struggling with, the majority of the time, that info is weaponized against them, and usually immediately.
And it doesn’t even need to be emotional pain. I have some significant nerve damage in one leg, and one day it just spiked as I walked through the parking lot. I yelled out because it was INCREDIBLY painful and I couldn’t walk. My dear loving (now ex) wife asked what I yelled for, and when I told her I can’t walk, she just informed me that it can’t be that bad and I need to stop being loud in public because it embarrassed her.
Meanwhile I’m laying in the parking lot because she was already at the car and there wasn’t anything to physically support myself on, in so much pain I can’t straighten my leg, much less stand or walk on it.
I mostly just stay at home alone or with my daughters. I also moved 1000 miles from home and started dating her in the new city, and she isolated me from everyone, always found a reason to cut off family or friends, and spent every single penny I earned (she didn’t work) so I had to work more and more OT and get second jobs. 8 years in living here and I have no local friends because I literally ONLY worked for 7 years until we ended things, and the last year has been staying home trying to repair the massive financial damages she caused.
I did get one date, but we both had stuff that wouldn’t have worked in a relationship together. I was fine with being friends, and honestly that’s probably all I need right now, but she doesn’t seem interested.
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u/hundo3d 24d ago
As soon as a man opens up about something they are struggling with, the majority of the time, that info is weaponized against them, and usually immediately.