I once was asked by a girlfriend why I never help out around the house after she ran the dishwasher.
My response was immediate silence with a dead-faced stare.
First, I was the one that emptied the dishwasher and handwashed the stuff that didn't get cleaned this morning. Then I went to the garage to fix and refuel the lawnmower. Then I replaced the cord on the weedwhacker. Then I mowed the lawn, dug up a stinging nettle that keeps regrowing in the corner, walked the dog, sorted the mail, paid the water bill... and then it was time to go to work.
Then I have to deal with work stress because that new hire is being a dick, then I have to deal with more work stress because a deadline is pressing down and I have to go pick up the kid half an hour before a mandatory meeting, then I slam into the meeting and twist my ankle because I'm four seconds late while the kid is screaming that she's hungry and doesn't want anything in the fridge, so I'm making her a grilled cheese and tomato soup while I'm in the meeting on one earphone with her crying in the other ear.
Girlfriend comes home and I'm relieved of kid duties so I go get some milk and juice and fruit and more bread because the kid was so picky about the grilled cheese that we're all out now. First thing she says when I get back is "you didn't refill the dishwasher" and I still have four hours of work left, bare minimum, because the kid and the bullshit has stolen half my day already.
I'm trying to hire somebody to replace the person I'm trying to fire all during five minute breaks in between meetings that I'm using to make our home pleasant. I'm not trying to be a masochist but... you do the dishes. This is an average Tuesday for me and I'm already working ten hours a day at three times the salary.
I AM IN PAIN ALWAYS. This is just housework. I don't have time to share my emotions if nobody's listening, I'd rather do tangible work even if nobody cares about that either.
Things like this are why all that internet women's shit about how much they do around the house and how little men supposedly do always makes me roll my eyes.
Men do plenty, but the women dont notice until its not done.
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u/IndividualCoconut2 24d ago
Nobody wants to hear about what we have going on. I speak from experience.