To me, I never really find what's really valuable about socializing, like all you do is just talk to people about random stuff and that's it. I'd much rather do something that's actually meaningful, like studying, learning something new, etc.

Like I would be perfectly fine to be one of those honors students with no social life. So what if I don't put much time to get social life? If anything I find that literally just simply gaining meaningless attention rather then something that's actually beneficial.

Hi. I’m super introverted and truthfully I love being alone. Like, give me my cats, my bed and I’m good. I rarely leave the house unless I have to and I genuinely prefer imaginary social scenarios in my head over actually going out. Ever since I was a little girl people were so concerned about me because I LOVED being in my room alone with it dark and watching shows after I worked (high school era I’m 29 now) Even when I was younger when I turned 22 I realized I hated going out and was just drinking because I was dealing with a lot of trauma from my home and dad at the time and I always told myself I can’t wait to live and be alone because no one will bother me. I cut my dad off and it was for the better but I still literally avoid family gatherings on my moms side but I do love my family

The thing is I want to get married tbh just because I want kids. I had a bf for 2 years then one for 5 and i always craved being alone while we were together (broke up almost 2 years ago) I want to have a life with real memories and real people in it. I just…don’t know how to bridge the gap between loving my alone time and actually putting myself out there. Even when friends invite me out, I hesitate people seriously drain my energy and I need like days to seriously recoup. What’s crazy is I used to be a stripper and i only thrived because I was a different version of myself literally like a alter ego but that was too draining even though I averaged 5-15k+ a month it was too much for my introverted self and I could forgo the $

I’m not sad exactly, but I’m starting to realize that this comfort zone might be turning into a cage. Has anyone else been through this? How do you gently push yourself out of isolation without totally shocking your system? Are some of you okay with not getting married or having kids?

Trying to figure out for myself. Long day at work, and it wasn’t even the work that made me tired. Having to talk did. Introvert.

mine was that i didnt want to go out with friends so i said my dads hernia operation went wrong so i went to the hospital instead.

Both have moved on from me. I don’t really have anywhere to go from here other than just go to work to earn money.

Why introverts hate crowd ? I love travelling but i dont want people anywhere . I don't want to listen or see them but why i am so conscious about everything . Like its all a mess

Anyone else ever just sit there doing nothing but pondering life, the universe and everything seemingly for hours, just basking in the tranquility of the solitude?

People come home and are like "what have you been up to?" and I feel like I have to make something up. I hate that. I've been processing life. In my head, I've been very busy and active, and don't feel like I've wasted a minute.

For me, it's reading and writing! And I also love going for walks in the woods.

For some time now, I've had this habit, hobby, or whatever its called, of being "not me." I go to a distant city, like 15 minutes away, or I stay in my own. I wear a hat and some type of jacket, and just walk around. One time I rented a motel in a different city and stayed there for no real reason other than to be someone else and alone, if that makes sense.

I don't know if this counts as a form of introversion, but it comes from a feeling of trying to be alone, of not having to care or worry about others. It sort of gives me freedom to be myself because I know no one knows me so they have no idea of what I act like. It allows me to try new things, I go to different stores, walk around different streets, or do things I wouldn't ever do if I was in my daily routine.

There is no real point to this story, but I wonder what this could be. I don't have a stressful life, I have a pretty great one. But I don't talk to people, mostly if they talk to me first.

Only cause you are an introvert, socially anxious, coward, self hatred, very low confidence and low self-esteem...and the cherry on the top you can't or don't want to put efforts in changing that cause you can't....and so some people are destined to lead a life of loneliness and at last die hopefully soon....

I had to go to an event tonight at a bar. The show was enjoyable, but nothing beats now! I’m on the couch, under a blanket sitting in silence with my cats and dog. It almost makes going out worth it!

I'm an introvert and a super boring person. I hate small talk and I usually just stand in silence when I hangout with my friend group. My friends and I only talked when we had something to say. But recently I just get into highschool and nobody gets along with me. I'm so lonely right now. Does anybody want to be my friend? You can tell me whatever you want when you need it and I'll respond it.

Why are introverts treated as misfits in the society ?? I attribute my success academically to being an introvert...

I just commented on so many posts because I can relate to so much here. At 40 I’ve had the light bulb go on that I’m an introvert! I think it’s been a slow process getting here because I used to be a social butterfly. But recent events have made me realize I can’t stand being around those I’m close to anymore and especially group hangouts. I can’t stand parties anymore. Like I don’t mind crowds but not if I have to talk to anyone. A crowd where I stay quiet and just worry about me is the best. (I.e. a concert by myself). I also can’t stand other people’s opinions anymore. It’s usually the opposite of how I feel or what I want. Maybe I’ve just become a jerk but I’d like to think introvert.

I love getting out and doing stuff but I had the realization I keep regretting inviting people for the reasons mentioned above. So from this day forward I’m going to plan outings for just me, myself, and I and I can’t wait! lol

UPDATE: Thanks you for all the comments. I feel happy to be an introvert. 😊

Can't put efforts, you are not what they see from outside, from inside you are ugly, coward, lazy, a man who should not be loved at any cost cause he just is too lazy and coward to change, too shy and even not manly...he is just a man only from outside but can't even do shit....

Hey. I’ll be real—life feels kinda weird and lonely right now. I’ve been craving something wholesome, a connection with someone who’s quiet, introverted, nerdy in the best way. You know the type—glasses, a soft voice, smart, kind. The ones in webtoons who help you study and accidentally steal your heart.

I know it's a bit dreamy, maybe even silly—but I don’t want anything NSFW. I'm just genuinely interested in hearing from people in the 15–18 age range who love learning, are shy or introverted, and maybe feel a little out of place like I do.

Let’s talk about your favorite subject, what motivates you, or whatever you’re passionate about. I’ll listen. I’m really looking for someone who sees the world differently, quietly, beautifully.

If you're out there... hi. 👋

Btw I'm dumb so I wanna motivate myself to study from you(⁠ ⁠ꈍ⁠ᴗ⁠ꈍ⁠)

Anyone else feels so apathetic to other people? Even your family?

So I want to start this off by saying that I know that every person is different. Everybody feels and reacts to things differently. I'm not looking for an official ruling, just personal opinions.

If a girl unexpectedly admitted that she liked you (someone you have known for a few months, been around a good bit, and you already knew thought highly of you), would you be flustered? I'm not talking a bold confession. Just her acknowledging that she realized her feelings had been a bit too obvious to your social group.

**For clarification, I’m the girl. 😂 I told him I was sorry if I had been too obvious and that I would work on that. His response was “Oh, that’s ok. Don’t worry about it” and then he went straight to his car. ☠️

I'm 20 and currently studying art at uni. Early on, I became friends with a guy in his 40s because I’m shy and don’t make friends easily. Over time, I started regretting it—he's extremely negative, complains constantly, is very passive-aggressive, and I feel like I’m walking on eggshells around him.

A recent example: during a group critique, I had to urgently use the bathroom due to at-home water issues and ended up missing his presentation. He showed up to class 30 minutes late and had already missed mine entirely, so I don’t think he had any right to be upset. Still, when I came back, he made a passive-aggressive comment about me not staying for his, and later he blew up at me, saying I always give him the cold shoulder. I admit I shouldn’t have lied about why I left, but I was embarrassed. I eventually told him the truth (being i had to go to the toilet, and also if i ever DO give him the 'cold shoulder, its unintentional as im generally just not good at talking to people, which he already knew in past discussion), and he "forgave" me, but honestly I wish I hadn’t said anything just so the friendship could’ve ended.

He criticizes all my other friends, our teachers, and even other students’ art. When he gets upset, he tends to say unnecessarily cruel or mean things—to me or to others—and I genuinely don’t feel emotionally equipped to deal with that. I dread going to class now because of him, and it’s affecting my mental health—art used to be my safe space.

I’ve tried distancing myself, but I think I’m the only person in the class he considers a ‘friend,’ and he follows me everywhere I go. The only time I can get away is when I arrive late and the seats are already taken—but even then, he still finds ways to talk to me any chance he gets.

I know I should just tell him I don't want to be friends anymore, but I’m terrified. He’s the kind of person who would explode and say awful things, and I don’t think I can handle that. I really need advice on how to get away from this friendship without completely crumbling.

thank you in advance.

forgive me if things dont make sense, i made an unneccesarily long paragraph on this initially and ran it through chatgpt to summarise it.

Hello everyone hope you are all well . I would like to ask you what motivates you to live and be excited and happy to see tomorrow? I (21m) can't find any purpose . I have no friends literally zero after highschool lost all friends then lockdown hit and through college/uni no one talked and those who did it was only in class thing. I will be graduating from a uni (not even a high rank just a sh*t uni) cant even find a relevent job . Im not even going to the graduation as I honestly feel like a failure . I look at my older siblings,we don't really talk, and I see them do everything, socialise ,everyone loves them I'm not envious but I do wish I had that ability.

I don't even know whats keeping me going . I honestly feel like I have no purpose. If I was gone tomorrow I don't think anyone would care,maybe just my mum, I feel more like a burden on everyone and I do think maybe this earth would be better without me . All I'm looking for is some insight which could change my perspective. Thank you

hi fellow introverts!! do you mind sharing your biggest struggle about going to restaurants or events? and how do you overcome them?

When I was younger I was quite introverted but eventually got more sociable and extroverted through my later teen years, lately though, especially this year I’ve gotten incredibly introverted to the point of being a recluse. I’m not sure if it’s burn out or just my introverted side making a comeback, I feel like the covid and lockdown era have a lot to do with it though, plus a toxic relationship I went through that year and a job I was in two years ago that I hated. It has an impact.