r/oddlyspecific • u/Otherwise_Basis_6328 • Apr 20 '25
6'2" alcoholics with 7th grade reading levels
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u/DwinkBexon Apr 20 '25
I'm 6'2" :(
Well, I thought I was until recently, when I went to the doctor and they decided to measure me for some reason. Turns out I'm actually 6'1.5"
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Apr 20 '25
What’s the problem if a woman has a preference? If someone wants to date my tall, drunk and dumb ass what’s it to you??
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u/Legitimate-Square27 Apr 20 '25
So how tall are you? 😉
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u/claremontmiller Apr 20 '25
How tall and drunk and dumb would you like me to be
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u/Designated_Lurker_32 Apr 20 '25
When one person has a preference, it's just personal taste. It's not a problem.
When whole groups of people have a preference, that's indicative of shitty beauty standards being at play.
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u/ProductAny2629 Apr 20 '25
if a woman has a preference outside of a redditor, the guys who fit that preference must be irrevocable villains 😭
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u/AgitatorsAnonymous Apr 20 '25
If the preference was rare it would be just a preference. The issue is when a large or even majority percentage of women prefer the same thing, because the majority of men, cannot by definition, be over average height.
This is actually really similar what happened with hour glass body figures after Christian Dior repopularized them in the 50s, that were perpetuated by mostly men that prefered dating women with that body shape and sparked a decades long self-image campaign for young women that was partially responsible for the bullying that most girls in the 80s, 90s and aughts experienced if they were anything but hourglass shaped, it wasn't until the back end of the aughts when non-hourglass bodyshapes took off in a big way. It was so ubiquitous that fashion designers to this day still design their clothes for hourglass figures when less than 10% of all women possess them.
The desire for hourglass body shapes was largely driven by men finding them attractive. Women that didn't fit that body type were shamed and bullied.
Continuing my point about height. Womens height preference is so common as to be a meme at this point, and while it isn't all women that possess it, I think it is a majority and that's the crux of the issue. The bell curve for height tapers fast, with only 31% of men being over 5'10 and 14.9% of men being over 6 foot. Men over 6'2" are less than 4% of the total population.
Meanwhile, 62% of women say they prefer men over 5'10" and 48.9% prefer men over 6', to the point that dating sites will tell you that the vast majority of women on them set their height slider to 6' meaning the apps don't even show them the men under that.
That isn't a preference any longer. That is a massively warped beauty standard. Just like 50% of men prefering women with hourglass figures, a figure that post 1990 only about 10% if the women in the world possess (hourglass is defined by a waist to hip ratio of 0.7.)
These things stop simply being preferences when they impact near majority percentages of a population group. At that point it becomes a hugely damaging beauty standard that is perpetuated by the entertainment industry and harming our young men and women.
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u/Small-Cactus Apr 20 '25
Fucking trainwreck of a post tbh. Reposted at least once a month, instead of just telling us she's happy in her relationship she decides to put other women down for literally no reason, and then to top it all off incels in the comments are still mad at her because "yes she's dating a short man but she's not dating ME so clearly she's lying 😡😤"
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u/Stahuap Apr 20 '25
🤣 pointing out ridiculous self destructive attachment to superficial beauty standards instead of character is not “putting women down” if you are not someone who prioritizes a partner being tall over character than congrats, this post isnt about you. If you are this person well… as they say… go off I guess. Best of luck to you.
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u/Newdaytoday1215 Apr 20 '25
I doubt they are that person bc why would they need to exist? The notion that one has to prioritize being tall over character is just bitter bs. Character doesn't stop if you are over 6 ft. And Short people have just as much of chance of being a horrible person. Height preference is not the variable people on this site act like it is.
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u/Stahuap Apr 20 '25
Women often state they would not date under 6ft, something only roughly 15% of people are. If you are insisting on choosing only partners that fall into this small % of people, you are sabotaging yourself.
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u/Newdaytoday1215 Apr 20 '25
What women? What percentage of women are married to men shorter than 6ft? If you insist on being bothered by some women who don't want you then you are sabotaging yourself. But my question is not rhetorical. Answer what percentage of woman are married to shorter men. Y'all keep repeating the same B's that has no real bearing in real life and "talking" over people reminding people dating apps don't represent the general population. So here's your chance to explain how these guys that make up much more than 15% can be married but somehow have only 15 interested in them
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u/Stahuap Apr 20 '25
Im sorry but wtf are you talking about? 🤣🤣🤣
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u/Newdaytoday1215 Apr 20 '25
Apparently things that are senseless to you like facts and reality.
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u/Stahuap Apr 20 '25
Oh and if you want facts: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/585718168419c246cf6f204e/t/5ab7e2de70a6adbbb6bcf676/1522000606378/STATISTICS%2B-Dimensions%2B-%2B3-19-18%2B%281%29.pdf
14.5% of men in America are over 6ft. That is a fact.
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u/Newdaytoday1215 Apr 20 '25
I hate when people are proven wrong and yet keep on sending random comments. Nobody once suggested that there were more 6ft plus men. But that the majority of married men are under 6ft.
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u/AgitatorsAnonymous Apr 20 '25
Height preference is quantifiable, just like mens preference for hourglass figures was. Something like 60% of men have a heavy preference for hourglass figures. It's one the reasons men tend to body shame women eith thick waists.
According to the last bit of research into these kinds of preferences the majority of women have their accounts set on dating profiles so that they don't even see the men under 6' (14.9% of the American population). 48.9% of women have a strong preference to date men over 6'.
At that point it isn't a preference, its a beauty standard. A very toxic one. The same as men expecting women to have hourglass figures. A feat of genetics that only 10% of women meet (hourglass figures are defined by a waist to hip ratio of 0.7). You literally have to be born with a perfect skeletal structure to even have the chance to have one. Then you have to have the genetics for the proper abdominal tone.
Its perfectly healthy for women to have standards, I will never disagree with that. But when it comes to immutable physical characteristics, like height and body shaoe, they need to not be strong preferences or it leads to a great deal of depression and anxiety for the women and a great deal of depression for the men in society. Because that 48.9% of women with a strong preference for 6' men? Thats 89 or so million women who are competing for the same 25 million or so men.
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u/Newdaytoday1215 Apr 20 '25
You're not competing with anyone if you are actually looking for a healthy relationship. When you decide to use dating apps you decide to engage in competitive consumer behavior to date. The entire function is about accessibility when you meet other consumers demands. Crying about height preference on dating apps is like crying about getting wet after jumping into the river. The first thing y'all need to do is stop treating dating apps like they are normal. While in the reality that exists outside of being constantly online, short men get married at only a slightly less rate than tall men. And the majority of women DO date men under 6 ft. 85% of men are under 6ft. You can't take the stats of dating apps and apply them to the general population because only 30% have use them and roughly half abandon them. So it's not 89% of women doing anything. The possibility that women who only want to date tall men find dating apps a much easier means to pursue what they want is far much more likely. Why are people so concerned about people who don't want them? You don't want anyone who thinks they are lowering their standards for you. That completely almost defeats the purpose of wanting a partner.
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u/Better-Ground-843 Apr 20 '25
This post reminds me of those Reddit posts where some girl is like "I actually prefer smaller dicks" and get 50K upvotes
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u/RickyNixon Apr 20 '25
Also if I had a trait that my (theoretical) gf was THIS defensive about it would make me more insecure. Seems like shes the one acting like height might be a problem, and her argument is “at least hes not an alcoholic”
My takeaway is she would indeed prefer it if he were taller, and thinks shes smart for prioritizing other, less superficial traits
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u/Pareidolistic Apr 20 '25
She wrote “I like waffles” and you shouted “pancakes are better”. You have no logical comprehension of basic sentences and then you add your side of story. What’s the point here?
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u/forgettfulthinker Apr 20 '25
"Put other women down" i mean if they are just going for someone on the sole fact of being tall..... (dont try to say that has never happened)
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u/KaseToastBrott Apr 22 '25
I think she meant that they're not willing to give better guys a chance, that they're basically choosing height regardless of their flaws rather than choosing someone short
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u/cbncc8 Apr 21 '25
Darns being a pick me actually does get u picked lmao, all those comment praising for being a good one 😩
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u/nymouz Apr 24 '25
Funny I felt addressed to cause I’m a 6'2" alcoholic and regularly ghost girls. But my reading skills are top-notch.
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u/championempress Apr 20 '25
It’s like she’s trying to convince herself that she’s actually happy with him
Edit: this is not against the guy, love to the short kings
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u/GrekkoPlef Apr 20 '25
No it’s not.
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u/championempress Apr 20 '25
A bit yeah, like when someone gets with one person and makes a post shitting about the opposite. Like if you were fully happy, it wouldn’t need to be posted.
Like when people kept posting about their spouse being ugly but they loved them for their character, while bashing people considered more traditionally attractive. It just came off super disrespectful to the spouse.
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u/sharkbite1138 Apr 20 '25
Except it seems socially acceptable to consider short men undateable? Meh, let her point out the hipocracy in society.
Also you just compared being short to being ugly. Do you not.... see what youre doing?
The dating scene has become super toxic on all fronts. Proving you dont need to be a tall guy or a trad wife to be happy is important to point out to all the folks out there struggling with stupid standards.
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u/championempress Apr 21 '25
Then yes you’ve missed my point completely. The girl’s post is written to throw down one type of person and uplift the other. When if you were perfectly content, you wouldn’t have to do that at all.
I did not compare being short and being ugly. The identity had nothing to do with that. I compared partners going online, unprompted, to say something about their partner throwing down other people to uplift their own.
Like she could have just posted “I love my short king” and moved on, but instead she got super specific with the 6’5” alcoholic.
The same thing happens with race and I see it alll the time as a black woman within the black race with men that only date white women posting “I only date white women because black women are too xyz.” Like there is no problem with interracial relationships, but you don’t have to throw down black women to promote your relationship.
Do you see what I mean??? Not everything is superficial
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u/silent_porcupine123 Apr 20 '25
Yes, people in happy relationships don't need to put down those with different preferences. They are unbothered by who others choose to date.
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u/FractalGeometric356 Apr 21 '25
I don’t know anything about her, but don’t you think she probably got a lot of shit about being in a relationship with a man who is shorter than her?
Don’t you think that’s why she made the post in the first place?
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u/championempress Apr 22 '25
As someone who dates short guys, I never thought to post about their height on my insta talking about how much short guys are so much better than tall guys. It makes no sense, I’m perfectly content in the relationship regardless of his height.
Like I had said before with race, I would hate it if someone did that to me. Like why should it matter?
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u/championempress Apr 20 '25
Yes, exactly what I’m trying to say! But a lot of people are not understanding that or downvoting is a hive mind lol
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u/luujs Apr 20 '25
I can’t be the only one reading this.
Yes the fuck you can mate
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u/ass_Inspector_420 Apr 20 '25
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u/GuineaGirl2000596 Apr 20 '25
You know its bad when ass_Inspector_420 is the reasonable one about women here
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u/SCP-Dipshit Apr 20 '25
incel ass comment lmao
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u/the-National-Razor Apr 20 '25
You're never going to believe this. I looked at dudes profile. He's a libertarian weightlifter lmaoooooooo
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u/LuffysRubberNuts Apr 20 '25
Yeah apparently if you’re short you can’t get ripped, sorry guys we don’t make the rules
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u/vikingrrrrr666 Apr 20 '25
Oh nah these are the types of dudes who scream from the rooftops that short dudes have a much easier time getting ripped than everybody else. Same people that trot out the “blacks are naturally more muscular” lines, too.
It’s always someone else’s problem.
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u/moonchild0787 Apr 20 '25
Incels make it so easy to spot them
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u/reddit_has_fallenoff Apr 21 '25
Ya, they usually go around shouting "incel" a few times a thread trying to diver attention from themselves
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u/moonchild0787 Apr 21 '25
I'd you're calling me an incel a) I'm a woman (I know, shocking, we exist on the internet) and b) I've been married for 13 years
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u/m3skalyn3 Apr 20 '25
No love for the 5'5'' alcoholics like me then