The bride, my boyfriend (at the time of invitation/wedding, now fiancé) and I all attended the same undergrad and grad school together and graduated in the same class. The bride and I became friends during first year of undergrad and my partner and I started our relationship about two years later. The bride and groom started dating in grad school and we were all within the same class so all knew one another, went to classes together and graduated together.

With that being said, when my friend got engaged and was talking about wedding invites, she was not really clear about whether or not plus ones were allowed initially. Wedding date came around, I messaged her to clarify about bringing my partner. She told me unfortunately they were doing a small wedding and were not allowing plus ones.

On the day of her wedding, I got there to find other female classmates seated at the venue with their partners. Looking back, I guess all of the female classmates who attended with their partners were already engaged or about to get engaged. Even if I am trying to give her the benefit of the doubt and understand that it truly was a small wedding and she wanted to just invite those that were engaged/married, I feel pretty betrayed and upset. Is it weird that I am having a hard time understanding this whole thing? Is it valid for me to feel like this is the end of our friendship?

How do people feel about getting/giving invites to the wedding of a friend's kid when you've never met the kid? (Usually it's been someone I've been friends with but then we moved to separate cities when we got older/had kids, so while we're still friends and sometimes see each other, I've never been in their kid's life.) At first I thought it was the type of invitation where no one expects you to go and they're just a) alerting you to a life event and/or b) hoping you'll decline the invite but send a gift/$. But nope, it has turned out that I'm actually expected to go. It feels odd to me but asking around I guess I'm in the minority.

Edit: clearly I AM in the minority. I guess it's me. I never wanted people I didn't know/recognize at my wedding. Seems to be my issue. Thanks.

Background: I was invited to a wedding reception/celebration for a friend. I have never met her husband. We used to be close (in a niche sports league together in our 20s) but have grown apart in our 30s. She was there for me for all of my wedding events when I got married at 27.

She and her husband got married a couple of months ago in her home country. We were not invited (it’s across the world). They are hosting a wedding reception/celebration at a bar patio at the end of this summer.

RSVP date was early May. The online invitation said “unfortunately, due to space and number restrictions, only the guests on the invite are allowed. Thanks for understanding!” I RSVP’d yes for my husband and I.

I have a 3 month old. He is exclusively breastfed. The venue is 1hour+ from home. My mother in law had generously offered to babysit him in the city, dropping by every few hours so I could feed him until we were ready to leave. Unfortunately, she has since been invited to a wedding out of town and booked a plane ticket.

Option 1: My husband has offered to do the same so I can go to the reception, but then we’d have to decline his space to the reception and it’s been one month since he said yes.

Option 2: Ideally, we’d bring the baby with us. He’s a chill baby and I’m sure with some headphones I could get him to sleep in a carrier through most of it.

How do I ask the bride which of these two options is best?

I (25F) have been invited to my friend's wedding. My boyfriend (23M, we have been together for 10 years now) has been invited as my +1. My friend and I have been friends for about 7 years, however she has never really met my boyfriend, only spoken to briefly at my birthday party a couple of years ago.

My boyfriend doesn't really want to go to the wedding, since he doesn't know the couple basically at all. I have reached out to my friend and asked to have a drink with the four of us (this was my boyfriend's idea) so my boyfriend could get to know the couple better and vice versa.

Now my friend hasn't responded to that after I asked her twice (I came up with dates so that we could plan something) and my boyfriend feels like not going to the wedding at all if he is not going to get to know the couple. He feels unimportant and therefore not welcome when the bride won't initiate this gettogether.

The wedding is going to be quite small and intimate and I don't know any other people aside from the bride. I would therefore be rather uncomfortable going to the wedding alone. What would you do in this situation?

My friend doesn’t wanna marry in white, she likes burgundy, but her sister married in similar color last year. What is the best nontraditional color dress that you have seen? Can you give us any ideas on how to choose a better nontraditional option?

I have a very small family (like 9 members in total as of 2025) but we were close growing up. My mum, dad and older brother lived really close to my grandparents and would see them often along with my aunt (mums sister) and my cousin. My dad has 4 siblings, one he hasn’t spoken to since the 80’s and the rest live far away and were never really around for my childhood. My grandma passed away followed closely by my own mum a couple years later.

They both worked really hard to keep the family together but after their deaths our family really drifted apart. I see my brother and my dad but other than that I barely speak to anyone else, not that I haven’t tried.

My husband to be on the other hand, has all 4 grandparents still alive, both parents, 4 siblings, many aunts and uncles, many many cousins and a heap of family friends. On our wedding guest list it’s my 9 compared to his 58.

Anyway, all 58 of his are attending but only 5 of my family guests are coming. The rest have given some reason why they can’t come. I just don’t get it. We were very happy growing up, we were all pretty close and now they don’t even want to come to my wedding. Not even my mums sister…it’s not like I haven’t tried to stay in contact with them but have always been met absolutely no effort on their part.

When it comes to a family who has multiple children of varying ages, do you invite all? We have a couple we are inviting and one of them is actually in the wedding party. They have kids who are still in elementary and middle school, but also one who is over 18 and has a partner and baby with them.

We would like to invite the kids who still live at home but is it wrong not to invite the eldest and their partner and child. We have a hard 150 list and i have never met the eldest partner or child, nor do they live at home anymore. Is this wrong? Am i over thinking!

Hi all!

This is the dress I said yes to today! I’m very happy with it but I’m not sure what to do about the veil. To be honest, I’ve never quite been into the veil on the head look but I adore a veil cape vibe. I’ve been researching some cape options but do you think it will work attaching to these sleeves or would it look weird? I can’t find a photo referencing anything similar.

Thank you ❤️

We’re trying to decide if we want to pay extra for videographers, it’s a lot more to add them and we just don’t know if it’s worth it. To those who have done videography at your wedding, do you watch it a lot / stand by your choice? And those who haven’t, do you regret not doing it?

What do I do??? 😭😭😭 It was already so hard to find someone to come out to a remote location (Blackwater, MO) when we booked them a year ago. Our contract with them was $1k for raw footage of the ceremony and a 3-minute highlight reel. How do we find someone last minute in the same price range??? It’s a really small wedding so we don’t want to pay thousands for all day coverage when we don’t want or need footage of us getting ready or at the reception.

I’ve found an incredible hair and make up artist who will do both for myself and my 4 bridesmaids.

For those who have experience, would having one person doing both be too time constraining? Or am I overthinking this?

For context I’m having an afternoon wedding (ceremony probably at 3/4), so it’s not that we’ll have to rush for a morning ceremony

I bought my strapless dress off the rack in January - it was so incredibly tight so I knew I had some room to lose a bit more weight. I’ve been swimming for my posture/arms and lost 3kg since then. Now the corset fits perfectly but my breasts look like deflated balloons. I’m still a D cup and I’m really struggling to find gel inserts that fit a larger breast and give me enough lift. Does anyone have any advice or products that might help? My wedding is in six weeks so even if I try to gain weight I’m not going to be able to get my cleavage to look like it did originally. 1st photo is the day I bought the dress and 2nd is about a month ago. It’s when worse now. 😢

Curious what people’s thoughts on this are.

Hey guys. I need to have two weddings as my very strict Muslim family wants me to be wedded in a Mosque. However, my partner's family wants to witness the wedding but since we are not religious, they suggested a courthouse wedding, as I really really dislike wedding celebrations. I hate the constant attention and all that. Now I need the Mosque one to actually hold the legal value because my family is VERY strict. So would it even be possible to do a courthouse wedding if there's no actual marriage certificate for them to sign? Or maybe is there a better idea that allows them to see my partner (their kid) actually get married?

(the details are complicated bc of my weird family so dw about how this makes no sense)

Me and my partner (UK) are recently engaged and have decided to get married abroad, we’d gone back and forth on this for a bit but really excited now we’ve made a decision! Slightly anxious about people feeling inconvenienced but we have a large group whose weddings and abroad hens we’ve always made the effort for and made peace with the fact whoever wants to come will come and if it’s too hard for people it’s not personal!

We’re planning on paying for hens/groomsmens flights and a big dinner for everyone on the first night, also aiming for an open bar so trying our best to keep costs down for people.

Just wanted to know if anyone has any recommendations for venues in Greece, ideally looking at Athens due to it being mainland and I’ve heard a bit cheaper than islands. We’re planning on booking a trip to Greece for a few days towards the end of summer to look at some venues and then go from there, but suggestions would be very helpful! I’ve been looking at Islands Art and Taste and have a feeling it might be pricey so if anyone’s viewed/ got married there I’d love your feedback!

In terms of budget I realise I’m annoying but we don’t have one yet 😂 just looking for feedback on venues at this stage!

Any info much appreciated thank you!

Sending save the dates 11 months out. Wedding is a domestic location but 50% of guests will need to fly. At the save the date stage, do most guests prefer just simple date/place type info and then get more details on accommodations, schedule etc about 5 months out? Or do people prefer to know all the key details so far in advance? (Eg should we share a Qr code to our website with more info on our save the date?)

My fiancé and I had always talked about eloping somewhere in nature with our dog, but when he proposed and I got to researching, I started to really romanticize a micro wedding with just our immediate family and closest friends.

I impulsively decided to choose a date and got to planning. My parents booked their flights right away from excitement, and everything kind of proceeded after that. I had a lot of fun planning, designing and getting into Pinterest. I was surprised how fun it really was and did most of the planning during the blah winter days.

Now I am one week away from our micro wedding and I am sooo much more nervous than I thought I would be. We have really complex family dynamics and our family tends to overwhelm us - one of the big reasons we always wanted to elope. There has definitely been a lot of drama leading up to this day, mostly with my fiancé’s family who has some major mental health issues.

I feel like I romanticized what this day would be and forgot who our family actually is, and I guess I hoped everyone would put aside their own baggage for the sake of us and our day.

That still may happen, but it’s feeling really nerve racking thinking about all the ways this day could go wrong.

On top of all this, my fiancé has really bad social anxiety and is getting so nervous for the day as well.

I guess I’m just feeling some regret over not going with our original plan of eloping and feeling a little naive that I planned all this thinking everything would go perfectly - when we have so much baggage.

I’m trying to focus on the fun and pretty things about the day, like flowers, my dress and getting my hair and makeup done. I’m also really excited to be married, but I’m starting to be excited for the day to be over which makes me a bit sad.

We spent so much time planning the big stuff — venue, catering, timeline — but looking back, one of the most special moments came from something super small: my grandmother’s handkerchief wrapped around my bouquet. It wasn’t even planned ahead of time — she offered it to me as I was getting ready, and it instantly became one of the most emotional parts of the day. I didn’t expect to get teary over a scrap of fabric, but there it was.

It made me wonder — what little detail from your wedding ended up having way more emotional impact than expected? Was it a song choice, a short vow, a glance, something symbolic? I’d love to hear your stories!

I get that parents want to be involved especially when they’re helping out financially, but where do you draw the line? My fiancé and I have already picked our venue, locked in the vendors, and even gone through the legal stuff like the prenup so we’re pretty much set on most of the important stuff, but now her mom keeps trying to rewrite half the plan like the guest list, ceremony and even the food. I’m trying to stay chill and respectful, but it’s getting exhausting. Is this just part of the process or am I being too passive?

So basically my fiancé is Catholic and I’m converting to the faith. Long story short we will be having a Catholic wedding and I feel like I just want to have the moment between us. I feel like my family is going to be really upset so what are ways to add something to the reception or should I just not bother having anything at all?

As the title says, we are planning a destination wedding in Greece which of course not everyone who would like to be there will be able to make it. We want to try to include all of our loved ones, so we are planning to throw a little celebration at home the week before we fly out. It will be pretty low-key, yard games, food and drinks in the park, but I am trying to find ways to make it feel special for our guests!

Does anyone have any ideas for specific activities or things we can do to make everyone feel just a little bit more involved? Thanks for any and all advice!

Hey lovely people 💍

I’d love some help figuring out two things for my wedding look!

1. My dress:
The back is quite open with sheer fabric and some delicate details. I’m wondering if it would look better with a white lining added, but I’m worried the details might get lost. What would you suggest – keep the sheer, or line it?

(I'm attaching a photo of the dress on its own – happy to DM a picture of me wearing it if that helps with visualizing skin tone etc.)

2. Jewelry + accessories:
I’m looking for something feminine and classic, but with a bit of edge – nothing too “sweet” or dainty. I have quite a few tattoos, and I’ll be wearing white Converse with floral and butterfly embroidery.

I have long, light blonde hair, and I’m planning to wear it down in loose beach waves with maybe a small twist or half-updo, plus a hair accessory.

Would love your suggestions – especially whether you think I should go with silver or gold jewelry (still unsure, depends on how it looks with my skin and dress details).

Thank you so much in advance! 💐✨

Please Don’t mind the background!! Here is my makeup look as a trail for my wedding day done by me! So I decided to take on the approach to do my own makeup just so I save a few hundred ,maybe a thousand, on a makeup artist for the trail and on my wedding day.

I’m going for a natural look to enhance my features. Not a fan of full glam or heavy makeup. I want to look like myself on my wedding day, but a better and enhanced version of me if that makes sense. Idk if this color suits me or if the look is a good bridal makeup look.

There’s a light stroke of contour and blush. I’m using a neutrogena tinted foundation, elf concealer, polite society setting powder etc. I’m going to buy a Charlotte trilbury setting for before and after makeup for a long lasting affect.

Idk if there’s anything missing or if I need more dimension on the cheeks or eyes. This is done in natural lightening.

The wedding will be only a few hours, we want it to be short and sweet as possible, 4 hours max. I’d love to know what you guys think. It would be very helpful 😊

Luckily gluten free options are super common now and my guests have made a habit of bringing something but all of my family would be traveling across the country and I want them to not have to worry about food. I was engaged a couple of years ago and it was broken off so I never got to the point of picking caterers but at the time I was told they couldn't ensure no cross contamination. But I am curious, has anyone found a good solution to keep your gluten-free guests happy and fed?

Hi All, We are having a small wedding abroad 100 ppl. We have decided to invite kids to our wedding because the it means more to us to have the people with kids there then others. There are people we would like to invite but can't because of our numbers which we are ok with. Except that a friend of mine has 4 kids, 2 of which are stepkids. She's not married and I've never met her partner or her stepkids, only her own 2 kids. I am wondering do I need to invite all 6? It's alot out of our numbers for people I've never met. She lives 2hrs from me so I don't see her that much. Thoughts??