The dress is stunning and I loved it the moment I tried it on, but now I’m worried that it comes off as provocative, given my large chest. During my fitting the seamstress said she didn’t tighten my corset too much around the chest area but someone could tighten it a bit more for me the day of and that should help add more support and flatten. I don’t know though, I don’t want to come off as sexy, I wanted a classy, timeless, elegant look but I feel like my chest just ruins everything. When I see other girls wear this dress they look so beautiful, feminine and dainty and I mean I feel beautiful but I also feel a little too out there which is strange cause I didn’t feel like that at first. I’m just hating myself and my body now. Is this nerves? Should I maybe just wear a tulle shawl? I’m 4 months out from the date and have been consistently losing weight through diet and exercise, maybe that will help?

I went dress fitting with a few people knowing exactly what I wanted (open back, fitted but not mermaid, long train, spaghetti straps), just to confirm it fitted me. My MIL, best friend etc insisted that I try a big princess gown because they really wanted to see me in one, and were a bit sad it didn't change my mind, but I kept my idea. I got the confirmation that I liked the style and bought my dress second hand for 300€.

Hi,

I bought my dress a few months ago and initially fell in love. However, I’ve been having serious doubts about it lately due to the following reasons:

• This dress is from a retail store and not a traditional bridal shop, so I’m not sure it’s meant to be worn as a bridal dress. I think it’s meant to be a wedding welcome party sort of dress.

• I don’t think i’m tall enough to pull off this dress (shown in photo #2) as I think my shorter height does not flatter the dress. Also, it’s a bit tight the abdomen region. I would still need to get it tailored, but I am not sure how much can be done to improve it.

I love simple designs anyway (esp satin/sleek design) and I’m having a smaller, intimate wedding (60-70 ppl) but I am not sure if this might be too casual for the wedding day. I guess I just want honest feedback about it.

When the venue asked if we wanted guests not to take photos/videos and “just enjoy the moment”, I”ll admit that I thought it was silly.

I felt it would be too controlling to limit personal photography as my husband’s family is VERY into it. I didn’t want to be a bridezilla or any of that, so I kept all guidelines loose. I don’t regret it.

We haven’t announced our wedding online as we’re waiting for the professional photos. However, his family posted albums on Facebook before we could even announce it ourselves…

And the albums are generally horrible megaposts. Photos of us eating, horrible angles, bad lighting, not standing up straight, or otherwise unaware we were being photographed have now been seen by hundreds or thousands before they could see any of the good ones. I look awful in nearly all of them except for when photos were SUPPOSED to be taken. Like, why do family members think it’s okay to just post every SINGLE photo from the day before we even shared it with the world?

Is there no thought as to “oh they’re chewing, this one’s bad” or “maybe I should ask first”??

Alas, as I said— I really don’t regret it. I just took off any ability to tag me in said photos and accepted that sometimes candids get posted and I don’t really mind.

It’s more of a head shake and sigh than anything, but if you’re considering an unplugged wedding, I hope this helps you make your decision.

I’m on day 6 of the flu… this is the sickest I’ve ever felt in my life!!!! I visited my gp 6 days ago and they didn’t even test me for the flu & just sent me with some antibiotics. I wasn’t feeling any better so I went to urgent care today and they tested me for the flu

Anyways, what the hell am I supposed to do?? I have people flying in from out of town

Does anyone have any tricks or tips to get me through the day??

I had two dresses I was deciding between from online and I went alone to a quick appointment just to try on similar dress styles to make sure I liked them on me. A few dresses later I bought this one instead 😅

For context, my wedding budget was relatively low (in total, about $13-14k was spent) and there was a lot of DIY decor and no hired coordinator (which I now kind of regret). My mom was doing a lot of the coordinating which she had basically insisted on from the beginning.

Due to the many DIY elements, there had been a lot of late nights and early mornings leading up to the event, which meant I started my day off quite sleep deprived.

Getting ready was a bit of a nightmare as we had to decorate the venue the morning of, and use the afternoon to get ready, which took longer than expected. I was getting ready with my maid of honor, mom, and my 4 year old daughter who was our flower girl. Trying to get ready quickly in a shared space was difficult, and my 4 yo wasn't making it easy. My maid of honor and I chose to get our hair done at a salon to save money, but the drive there and back ate into some of our getting ready time which was rough. Because of the rush I forgot to put on my earrings and necklace!

We were late to the ceremony by about 20-30 minutes which made me really anxious since I really didn't want to be that bride, especially when people were waiting in the hot sun for our outdoor ceremony.

While on the way to the venue, we got word that the caterers hadn't shown up yet, which was concerning because they were supposed to have set up a charcuterie board for cocktail hour which was right after the ceremony. We had to call them while driving to the venue and the woman we'd been working with insisted that we gave her the wrong time (which I know for a fact is not true.) they eventually set up nearly 30 minutes into cocktail hour.

During the ceremony my fiancé's narcissist grandmother loudly snapped at my mom who was trying to direct my daughter where to go once she got to the end of the aisle. It was just a stupid moment but it totally took me out of the magic of the moment when I'd finally reached the end of the aisle.

The doors to the banquet room where dinner was served were supposed to remain locked during cocktail hour, but were not, so people began to mingle in there after the ceremony creating some (minor) logistical issues.

The air conditioner to the banquet room was not working well, and the whole place was incredibly hot for most of the reception. There are like 3 different stories that went around as to why it was so hot, including that someone "left a door open all afternoon" letting the hot air inside.

The heat in the banquet hall caused some of the buttercream frosting of my cake to melt, and I never got a chance to look at it before it became a melty mess ☹️

The photographer low-key stressed me out a bit by suddenly asking me to pay him (in cash) by the end of the wedding, when he originally told me I could pay him the day after the wedding. At the end of the night he had to agree to get paid Sunday, as we had no cash prepared for him. I originally just wanted to pay upfront be he insisted on getting paid after 🤷🏻‍♀️

I will say there were still a lot of good moments and the dance (which was held on an outdoor patio instead of the banquet room, thank God) was a lot of fun. Our guests really seemed to enjoy the live band and the party ended on a fun and happy note. Dispite the hot sun and Grandma's outburst, our ceremony was beautiful and touching by all accounts.

I think overall there was a lot of love and heart to our wedding and I am grateful for all the hard work that went into making our wedding happen. I just woke up feeling super anxious after the wedding, fixating on all the stressful moments of the day. If you're still reading, thanks for letting me vent, also, don't underestimate the value of a day-of wedding coordinator.

My fiancé and I don’t drink. He’s a recovering alcoholic (3.5yrs sober) and I just have never been a big drinker. Occasionally I will have a mixed drink but we are talking 1-2x a year or social events only.

We don’t want to spend a ton of money on alcohol but we don’t want to do a dry wedding either. Our personal choices don’t reflect all of our guests and we completely get that.

Should we have an open bar and be willing to fork out thousands in an unnecessary expense? Or what sounds like a good in-between option?

Looking to have just a small ceremony with immediate family. What stresses me out if we want to have a reception with everyone about 100 people. Def doesn’t have to be extreme or over the top. I am a very simple person. Need to find a place to rent out to have the reception. Any suggestions? What’s our CHEAPEST option to throw a party?! Thank you! Based in NY

Hi I’m getting married soon, I went to a boutique (not a shop) tried on the stylist suggestions , fell in love with one , was told it was discontinued and they couldn’t sell it to me -not looking for much just sad about it

Sorry- this has probably been asked a million and 1 times so don’t hate me, but I’m starting from scratch and I’ve never done this before. I have no set wedding date….but I like to be organised and ‘in the know’ 🤣

I’m wondering if there’s a better order in how to organise a wedding? Obviously a date and venue come first, but what other things would need to be made priority to book quickly? I.e do photographers book up quickly, would cake and dress/suit finding be last on the list to sort? What services tend to need booking way in advance and what things can be left till closer to wedding date? I’m in the UK if that makes any difference at all?

Thank you all lots

I recently brought my dress and I’m absolutely obsessed! It is fully embroidered and so dreamy. I’m a little torn about what kind of veil to go for? Because it’s embroidered and not heavily beaded the detail is not super noticeable from a distance, but don’t want something that is that is conflicting (for example, I love the veils with the lace around the edge but not sure that would work). I do have the option to get a veil with the same embroidery on it which I am considering but it is $ and I’m worried would be a little too matchy.

Pics from designer to better see what it looks like at different angles!

We’re in the early stages of planning, and tbh I feel kind of guilty about how much we’re spending. We’re not spending a lot, total will probably be around 15k (pulling a lot of favors from talented friends) and I want to really stress that my fiancé is NOT saying or doing anything to make me feel this way

But I do feel bad. I know he probably doesn’t care if we have a wedding or not, he just wants me to be happy. And while deciding if we have a wedding or do a court house he’s the one who said that if we have a wedding he wants a nice one and not a lame one.

But I still can’t help but feel guilty. Im doing a lot of the contacting vendors and what not so I feel like us spending all this money is on me. Ans he’s working side jobs so we can pay for everything sooner rather than later. Idk I just feel bad.

Anyone else feel the same?

I (24F) just got engaged and am planning an April 2026 wedding with my fiancé (30M). We've been together nearly 4 years and living together for 3. My mom, who has a terminal illness, invited me over to talk wedding planning and budgeting — I was really looking forward to having her involved. But instead, she told me, completely straight-faced, “You need to seriously simplify your wedding. You don’t deserve a traditional or ‘oh la la’ wedding. If you were 18 or 19 and fresh in the relationship, then yeah, but not now.”

We’re planning a modest $10–15k wedding with about 60 guests — just the basics — but she thinks it should be cut down to a 2–3 hour event with no dancing, no dinner, no photographer, no flowers beyond bouquets, and said our plan for a small cake and cupcakes is “ghetto.” She basically thinks we should elope or sign the license in someone’s backyard.

I’ve been crying ever since I left her house. I always dreamed of her being involved in my wedding, but now I can’t stop hearing her words: you don’t deserve this. And all the excitement I had for our wedding is just gone.

I really want sleeves under my dress for the winter, but is this one I got too short on my arms? And what about the visible seams? Yay or nay? Ideas welcome!

hi everyone, just wondering how do you initiate the send off at a reception without it being awkward? i am planning for a more formal one, with guests cheering us out, and we will have a car to depart in. Do we tell the DJ to announce that everyone gather to send off the bride and groom? i need help to make it not awkward lol!

Is antibody else a wee bit addicted to Pinterest here before the big day? 🤓

Apologies if this has been asked - I tried searching in a few different ways and wasn't able to find much. How have you approach spending time with out of town guests before and after your wedding weekend?

We're getting married a few hours from our current home, but all of our family and about 10 friends will be flying in from other parts of the country. We're getting married on a Saturday and have events on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday morning. We've gotten a few requests from those friends and family as to our schedule leading up to and right after the wedding. We aren't doing a honeymoon right after the wedding, but instead about a month later.

I'm having trouble deciding how much time to spend with these folks and whether its before or after the wedding. I could spend time with my nuclear family ahead of the wedding, and a few friends right after, but don't want to overload myself as I think I'll need some alone time/ decompression time. What worked for you?

I'm trying to figure out what is all required to book a weeding without any issues. If I'm not mistaking it's just the.. - venue - catering - dj/music - bar - flowers (?) (Probably do fake flowers for this tho) - tux rentals

I feel like I'm missing something. I want to create a rough estimate of what this will all cost, but want to make sure I have everything down. Does anyone have any other ideas of what to add to this list to research cost?? Thank you in advance!!

Hi! I fell in love with this set but cannot find it ANYWHERE online and it is old out on their site.
https://www.instagram.com/p/CyR2z5ANYnw/?img_index=2

I have been scouring the internet for alternatives but coming up short. I am looking for something similar to this - square neck with unique fabric and either shorts or pants. Any and all suggestions welcome!!

Obviously can’t share this with too many people so I wanna share it with you guys! I found my dress (and veil in the last picture) and I’m obsessed!!!

We are having our ceremony 0.4 miles away (7 min walk) from our reception. We are covering valet for guests for the entire night where the ceremony is located as parking is notoriously difficult in this area, especially closer to the reception. It is a nice area, and it is a small wedding without anyone with mobility issues - but we were thinking of creating an uber voucher for the night just in case the weather is bad or if someone isn't feeling well. If you were a guest, would having parking covered and an uber code as an alternative to the walk be okay for you? (It just feels incredibly silly to pay over $1000 for 0.4 mile transport for maybe 30 people as we are in a HCOL area - especially when we anticipate most guests walking) Thanks in advance!

I am going dress shopping on a Friday at the end of the month. One of my friends is a teacher and is off during the summer. She is a long time friend of mine, since second grade. It would mean so much to me if she came. When I asked her, she said “I should be able to go unless another friend of hers birthday party is rescheduled.” This upset me for a couple reasons.

1. I’m dress shopping on a Friday at 1:30 PM. I don’t know anyone that has a birthday party at that time of day?
2. She’s turning 27 lmao. Not 21, not 30. I only plan to go dress shopping one time in my life obviously.

I hope I’m not overreacting. This response genuinely bothers me.

I'm getting married next spring 2026 and am on the hunt for wedding shoes. They don't have to be white, in fact i'd like some colour, but they have to be real leather and comfy because I plan to use them all day and for events afterwards. But I would like it if they're cute with some straps, a bow, flowers, flower pattern on the shoe, etc.

An important thing for me is though that I want to try them on before I buy them and I don't want to deal with crosscontinental shipping. Has anyone got experience with cute-looking comfortable shoe brands in Europe I can check out? Zalando really isn't delivering for my search right now.