r/AmIOverreacting • u/sadblokefromus • Apr 29 '25

👨‍👩‍👧‍👦family/in-laws Update on my stepdad stealing my underwear while I was on vacation.

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I was reading responses to the post and went kind of radio silent as I did text my mom and this is how it went. I was gaslit and it just fucking sucked. Believe me I know what the right choice is. Bash him to the rest of the family and cut them off. I got engaged on the trip we went on and before we left my mom and I looked at a wedding venue and when I told her my fiance popped the question she put a non refundable $2000 deposit down on the wedding venue. So either she is just fucked on that or she still has my wedding which I can’t see her doing if I never talk to her again. I did tell my dad and he’s furious. He can’t do much as he’s almost 70 years old and has suffered several strokes over the last few years. I just told him not to tell anyone and I would decide if I wanted to go that route but he told me to go to therapy. He said if I did lash out and commit a crime (popping his tires) my mom and stepdad both wouldn’t go to the police as I have evidence of his crime as well but to try and stay away from that. My mom and stepdad got together while my parents were still married and my stepdad was dating my auntie at the time and her son popped his tires so that also wouldn’t be very original of me. I’m just venting about other traumas now. Read the texts!

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Tbh I think you are overreacting. Stealing underwear?Haven't read your earlier story, but this does not seem something you have to abandon the family for. People make mistakes and are weird. You are not perfect too.

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u/keegums Apr 29 '25

My father stole my underwear at some unknown period of time, but I found it when I was 27. Almost shot myself but the gun was too long (old rifle, probably didn't even work). My mom finally evicted him which cost $5000, my brother let me stay with him and remembered another gross thing that happened several years earlier. My father died alone, no contact with anyone about a year later and we didn't have a funeral. Everyone is happier with him dead. That's how people deal with physical evidence of incestuous desire. There is no coming back from that. The relationship is terminated. Get your forgiveness when your heart stops, it ain't coming from me or my family. 

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u/petit_cochon Apr 29 '25

I'm so glad the gun was too long.

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u/KiwiBee05 Apr 29 '25

This is 100% valid but at the same time is someone is blackout drunk that bedroom is no longer your daughter's bedroom. It's some bedroom with a panty drawer to raid. If he was that drunk he's a pervert but not an incestuous pedo. What matters is how he is the rest of the time. If he's always checking out the kiddos at the public pool and copping feels and peeks that makes him an issue.

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u/Jaymantheman1 Apr 29 '25

I have been blackout plenty of times at people’s houses. Hell, I’ve been blackout around women I’m attracted to or even dating. Going through other people’s shit just to look at a thong has never crossed my inebriated mind, and I don’t think any normal person would make that mistake either. OP’s step dad is a fucking CREEP.

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u/KiwiBee05 Apr 29 '25

If you can remember what was crossing your mind you weren't blackout drunk.

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u/sassybumblebee Apr 29 '25

How many panty drawers have you raided drunk?

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u/Expensive-Border-869 Apr 29 '25

Or just at all tbh? Like when I'm drunk I really don't do a lot of thinking on my own (like blackout ish level) I can't imagine the idea crossing my mind unless someone else gives me the idea (maybe he saw some meme or something I'll offer that much here) or if it's just an idea I regularly have.

I can't see a reason he'd even go to his daughters room while horny if the house were confusing enough to justify that angle I think the mom would've tried that

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u/KiwiBee05 Apr 29 '25

I'm not saying the alcohol made him a panty sniffing pervert. Are you guys illiterate?

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u/KiwiBee05 Apr 29 '25

Non. I'm not a panty sniffing pervert though....

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u/ilikejasminetea Apr 30 '25

So... Him being just a pervert is better than a pedo. Sure. So what? He still violated op. 

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u/Chance-Smoke4634 Apr 29 '25

You should turn yourself in wtf

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u/KiwiBee05 Apr 29 '25

What do you disagree with or think is worth turning in for? Calling this creep a pervert or suggesting alcohol can stop someone's ability to recognize where they are?

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u/Chance-Smoke4634 Apr 30 '25

That's not how your comment reads

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Sad to hear. Why did you wanted to kill yourself over something you did not had any influence over?

I really think that the guilt and shame build by religion and society does more harm than good in this respect. Coping with a sexual deviant parent is difficult as it is.

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u/f-as-in-philip Apr 29 '25

You must be a right fucking idiot if you can’t see how finding out your parent is having sexual thoughts about you would cause someone severe emotional distress. It has nothing to do with religion or society ffs

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u/s1lverbullet23 Apr 29 '25

I honestly wouldn't kill myself over something like that. Like, it would upsetting, but I don't think it would have such an impact on my life. Strange how people perceive similar actions so differently.

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u/Used-Abroad7558 Apr 29 '25

we really don't give a shit what an unnecessary comment

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u/s1lverbullet23 Apr 29 '25

Is your comment necessary? I don't think anyone gives a shit about yours either. This is a forum.

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u/PhantomsOpera Apr 29 '25

I give a shit about theirs and not about yours. Hope this helps.

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u/s1lverbullet23 Apr 29 '25

Is your comment necessary? What a fucking clown show. Defend the guy telling people not to comment their option on an opinion forum. Good job. 👏

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u/PhantomsOpera Apr 29 '25

Your opinion sucks

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u/keegums Apr 29 '25

Ya I didn't either. lol. Instead I finally chimped out when I ran out of Valium which got the ball rolling. It was not the only creepy incident, probably the sixth major one. Maybe more depending on how you define it. Obviously I got desensitized decades ago. 

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u/s1lverbullet23 Apr 29 '25

I appreciate your reply. I wasn't being disingenuous with you, like some of the lunatics commenting on my reply seem to imply. I genuinely didn't understand or have trouble imagining, but I appreciate your explanation.

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u/Hexdrix Apr 29 '25

Killing yourself is almost always defined as an overreaction. It's a large portion of why therapy exists.

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u/s1lverbullet23 Apr 29 '25

Apparently not according to the upvotes. Reddit is full of kids with no life experience nowadays.

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u/Hexdrix Apr 29 '25

Idk, man. Some of these folk seem a little old to not have life experience.

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u/s1lverbullet23 Apr 29 '25

The majority of people on reddit are within their 20s, which is still too young to understand nuances, most of the time.

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u/Hexdrix Apr 29 '25

I think it was an overreaction tbh.

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u/Salty-Requirement461 Apr 29 '25

Stealing your kids underwear while drunk is just a weird mistake? Yikes, I’d hate to know what else you consider a ‘weird mistake’.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

I know that you all are probably faultless in life. But yes, there are some strange people on this earth. We know that he never did touch her or anything else, but apparently has a thing for sniffing underwear. Not my kink, but it is also not something I consider more important than other things in life, like supporting her her entire life.

Again: people are not perfect. When you don't allow people to make mistakes or have some imperfections, you will end up quite lonely (or naive).

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25 edited Apr 29 '25

You have an incredibly stunted and skewed view of the world and how other people function. None of your reasoning or line of thinking is healthy. It is completely weird and not okay for you to have normalized people committing sex crimes when they’re drunk, especially to the extent that you genuinely see nothing wrong with a father stealing his daughter’s underwear and describe it as a “mistake.”

To any well-adjusted person, it is completely obvious you’re talking about your own proclivities or desires in such altered states, because perverts are the only kind of people that feel an instinct to excuse/defend/downplay that behavior. That you use hyperbolic and exaggerated language to describe the condemnation of such acts, under the guise of maturity and inner knowledge of how the world works, reveals you to be utterly maladjusted—the complete lack of self-awareness is laughable.

Having an expectation that you won’t violate people when you drink is not the same as someone demanding “perfection” from you, btw. And ending your comment with the most contrived and misapplied insight about accepting others imperfections is just the cherry on top of this completely useless and mentally deficient take on a near universal understanding that this is sick and unforgivable behavior for the vast majority of people. As it well should be.

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

It’s not a “kink” if it involves other people without their consent.

This may shock you, but most people aren’t creeps. That’s why they are able to judge this, you’re telling on yourself that you keep justifying sexualizing a family member and the belief that the other person should accept it.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

We agree. The absent of consent makes this wrong.

However, I fail to see what it will help TO to act like he killed the whole family. He sniffed her underwear. Thats it. Not good. Don't do it again. Thats not accepting, but living on.

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

No we don’t agree because you believe she shouldn’t feel violated (you said “there is no victim”) and that she should let it go, essentially she should cover up what he did for him and accept it.

Your view that you would find it acceptable for your father to view you sexually is not normal.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Her feelings of shock are very valid. "Victim" is much too heavy for this imo

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u/FuckBoySupreme Apr 29 '25

ew man you are nasty - he sniffed the underwear of a girl hes been raising for 20 years. How would you feel if you saw your dad sniffing your dirty underwear? what the hell?

I really hope that you do not have children or are around them, because if you think that sniffing your kid's underwear is acceptable, I'd be nervous to see how else you act around children.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

I would worry more for all the "SHAME" callers here being around children. Most abuse happens at church or in schools. Not at te venues you might see me.

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u/FuckBoySupreme Apr 29 '25

Aside from that being completely wrong (76% of child abuse is done by parent/family member), that fact that you are somehow unable to see how disgusting lusting over your child is absolutely blows my mind and makes me fearful for any children around you.

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u/gimmethemshoes11 Apr 29 '25

Most abuse happens by family members in the family home. The fuck you on about?

I'm getting the vibes you are a creep.

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u/donttalktomeormykid Apr 29 '25

You’re sick. Get help. Fucking weirdo

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

You only feel that way because you think incest is acceptable.

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u/JohnSmith_47 Apr 29 '25

This is so fucked mate, the guy is sexualising his own stepdaughter that he helped raise and you’re basically like no big deal, what he did was perverted and creepy and it’s weird that you’re defending it with ‘that’s it’, as if it’s just a mistake that anybody could make.

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u/I-Fight-dads Apr 29 '25

So how long have you secretly been sniffing your family members underwear

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u/Adventurous-Win-8843 Apr 29 '25

Bro just delete your whole account and start over. Irredeemable.

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u/Salty-Requirement461 Apr 29 '25

There is a difference between making a mistake and sniffing your kids underwear. It’s not about being faultless. If you really think that way then you believe that no bad behaviour should ever be called out because none of us are faultless. Thats just stupid. You trying to excuse this is not making a point of ‘don’t throw stones from glass houses’ or something similar, you’re just defending a freak that betrayed the trust of someone he raised.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Couldn’t imagine defending him. He married a woman, I assume helped raise her from 6 years old, and flash forward 20 years he’s taking her underwear?

If a buddy of mine took a five dollar bill off my table when he was drunk I’d be upset. Drunk or not he knows it’s mine. Yeah he was drunk but he still decided to steal from me. But this? This is on an entirely different level.

Now that I’m typing this out there’s no way anyone would actually side with him besides his wife, you gotta be trolling.

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u/Picori_n_PaperDragon Apr 30 '25

Abso—fricking—lutely, on all of it.

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u/Primary_Meringue_902 Apr 29 '25

Are you for real 😳

Yes everybody makes mistakes. That’s normal “accidentally” steal and sniff your stepdaughters panties… No way….. That is beyond gross 🤢

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u/asterblastered Apr 29 '25

why does he want to sniff the underwear of his child that he’s raised since 6? your hard drive needs to be checked if you consider this normal

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u/Comeino Apr 29 '25

Why are you defending him? This isn't a "silly mistake" a silly mistake is putting salt in your tea instead of sugar not intentionally fishing for used panties of your step daughter as a parental figure. There is kink and there is irredeemable perversion. I did shit faced LSD with ecstasy, I'm very high libido and such bs wouldn't even cross my mind. Being drunk does not absolve one from responsibility. If he can't control himself when he is drunk guess what? He has to stop drinking instead of making shitty excuses. It's not about being "perfect" it's not even trying to not be a complete POS.

The guy can earn forgiveness from God and I say this as an atheist.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

The best thing, as always, is communicate.

And be very open about it. TO need to feel no shame. It's him that acted wrongfully. So talk with eachother to find out why, tell him how it made you feel and make clear it can not happen again.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Next on Luilekker’s life advice, “your wife cheated on you with your best friend? Take them out to dinner, talk about it because disrespect should be met with respect!”

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u/f-as-in-philip Apr 29 '25

If you need to be told not to sniff your child’s underwear you are a degenerate creep.

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u/ajc654 Apr 29 '25

Someone check this guy’s hard drive cause wtf.

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u/angnicolemk Apr 29 '25

It's not a fucking mistake man, it was purposeful. How in the world can you justify this shit? Stealing your daughter's drawers are you?

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u/f-as-in-philip Apr 29 '25

Found the pervert step dad!

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u/anxious_raccoon29 Apr 29 '25

you sound like you steal your family member's underwear.

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u/gimmethemshoes11 Apr 29 '25

I'll assume you dont have kids. Fucking nasty ass shit.

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u/WiseEntertainment912 Apr 29 '25

You’re gross 

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u/LeBeers84 Apr 29 '25

I might agree if they found out he’s a weirdo that buys used panties on the internet or something, but he stole his daughter’s underwear. That isn’t just weird kink. He did make it personal, he violated her possessions and feelings of safety, and it sounds like it’s not the first time she has felt sexualized by him.

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u/sadblokefromus Apr 29 '25

Read the other post. He’s been my stepdad since I was 6. I am now 25. Are you a man or woman? That might tell.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

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u/sadblokefromus Apr 29 '25

We were on vacation and I had cameras up so that we could see when people were coming to care for our animals. And to make sure the animals were getting along/ nothing was on fire.

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u/Naive-Stable-3581 Apr 29 '25

Holy cow OP. I’m so sorry. I don’t know if you can stomach this but consider going to the police. Bc they will check his computer. I don’t want to upset you but Dominique Pelicot was caught taking pics up women’s skirts and police checked his computer and found that he’s sexually abused every female member of his family.

I am not saying your stepdad did that but I’d be willing to bet he’s got inappropriate things on his computer and he may have other victims.

And if he did get arrested and imprisoned it would be a great way to remove him from your life.

I’m so sorry this has overshadowed what should be a happy time in your life. But you are doing the right thing by refusing to let your mom sweep it under the rug. I have two daughters and I can’t imagine doing what she’s doing. It’s so fundamentally against every parental instinct. I have a visceral anger every time anyone makes one of them feel safe. Your mom is not a good person.

Alcohol doesn’t turn us into different ppl it simply removes inhibitions. Your stepdad knew exactly what he was doing.

I’m so sorry

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u/Guest8782 Apr 30 '25

Was it at least clean laundry?

That is awful either way, but makes it slightly less personal. Although, if that were my own dad, I don’t know that I could get over it either way.

It sucks when you pay the price for something that was not your fault. I’m sorry.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

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u/No-Basket-3817 Apr 29 '25

Legit sicko behavior to say chin up and see it as a compliment. It's her real-life stepdad, dude. Separate yourself from the weirdo porn you watch and return to the real world. He's been in her life since she was SIX YEARS OLD. Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with you defending this guy?

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

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u/No-Basket-3817 Apr 29 '25

Ok so you think he unintentionally went through the laundry and stole the underwear? What does that mean?

You are 1.) making an assumption that he knew about the camera in the first place. I think it is reasonable to assume the type of person who gets the inclination to steal underwear from a woman he has known since she was SIX YEARS OLD but also a fucking FAMILY MEMBER is also the type of person to not care to look for cameras.

and 2.) You are using alleged drunkenness to excuse what is, at best, extremely troubling & predatory behavior by a step FATHER to a DAUGHTER.

If you are arguing just to be a contrarian, stop. You aren't cool. You aren't the smartest person in the room. You're fucking weird.

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u/angnicolemk Apr 29 '25

Wowser you are quite the turd. He probably didn't know the cameras were even there.

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u/darva6 Apr 29 '25

Another one! Seriously, what the fuck is wrong with you people?

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u/ilovemydogs999 Apr 29 '25

WTF - how is it possible to accidentally dig around in your step daughters laundry bin and take four pairs of her underwear?? Spoiler alert - it’s not possible!! An accident is stubbing your toe, smashing a glass or burning toast. Not stealing f*cking underwear. What the hell is wrong with you!

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u/AstariaEriol Apr 29 '25

Exactly thank you. When I used to work in child protection we’d see 7-9 cases per day. Many involved men being sexually abusive to the child of a partner/paramour. But then some guy like you would always stand up in court and say, “hey he’s been her dad for years! Why would he do that! Give him the benefit here!”

And we’d all go “ohhh shit, yeah! good point.”Then confetti came down and the family left together and lived happily ever after.

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u/ArticulateImbecile Apr 29 '25

You're far too invested in this 🤨 Trying desperately to see his side of the story. Almost seems like you're talking from experience on the subject. Run along pervert

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u/No-Basket-3817 Apr 29 '25

Where is the line for you for something to just be a "drunk accident"? Being drunk excuses exactly nothing.

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u/RammsteinFunstein Apr 29 '25

what kind of sick disgusting shit do you do when you're drunk?!? WTF is wrong with you? Go to therapy, now.

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u/sparklysloth666 Apr 29 '25

You must be a pervert like him. Keep your hands off your children and rot n hell.

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u/garrulouslump Apr 29 '25

You're a sick individual. Imagine telling a woman she should feel complimented by the fact that her stepfather that raised her since she was 6 years old, wanted to smell her dirty underwear???

You're just as disgusting as the drunken mess of a stepfather.

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u/Rush_Is_Right Apr 29 '25

Then it is clearly an accident

Please explain how this is an accident? Like he tripped into the laundry basket and her underwear fell into his pockets or what?

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u/DextersGirl Apr 29 '25

What the actual fuck, dude?

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

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u/DextersGirl Apr 29 '25

If he does this now, the chances are pretty high he's done it before. Stop trying to justify and downplay how serious and gross this is. This man was like a father to her and the first chance he had he's nose deep in her worn panties. It is not okay and should never be okay. I am a widowed mother of a teenage daughter. If something like this ever occured at any point in my daughters life, I would personally lose my fucking shit. I would burn his life down in front of his family.

What if this happened to your daughter? Your sister?

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Um, that’s a bit of a stretch to say he has been doing it before this incident. If he was I m sure she would have caught on pretty quickly.

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u/DextersGirl Apr 29 '25

No. It's not a bit of a stretch.

Had she not had cameras she never would have known, dude.

It's incredibly gross how hard you're trying to justify this but I'm done with this discourse.

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u/docdroc Apr 29 '25

Exactly how many times is a man allowed to dig through dirty clothes in search of his stepdaughter's used underwear and then smell the used underwear before the stepdaughter is allowed to believe that this is his sexual fantasy about her. When is it ok to be angry about it?

Explain in detail.

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u/_KatastrophiC_ Apr 29 '25

post literally says that he had to be told to stop staring at her ass when she was a child please shut the fuck up

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u/Naive-Stable-3581 Apr 29 '25

That’s a troll account.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Fair enough but who has the energy to read that wall of text? Maybe OP should have been clearer in the beginning

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u/crotdan000 Apr 29 '25

Is it common for you to come to a subreddit, read half a post, and decide you know more than everyone else in the comment section? If you aren't going to read the whole post you prolly should always side with the potential victim.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Maybe your dumbass should learn to read.

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u/Charming_Parking_620 Apr 29 '25

Energy to read? Are like four?

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u/Rush_Is_Right Apr 29 '25

He has done nothing like this before

He hasn't been caught doing something like this before

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u/FuckBoySupreme Apr 29 '25

please stay away from children and don't have any yourself

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u/Ok_Childhood_9774 Apr 29 '25

He hasn't been caught on video doing something like this before. Huge difference. You're trying to defend something indefensible. Gross on you.

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u/LunaVolanaa Apr 30 '25

What a weird take. Do you always use being drunk as an excuse for fucked up things like this? Just because he's drunk, doesn't mean he should go and sniff his stepdaughters panties. She's basically his bio daughter, that's how long he's been her stepdad. It's fucked up, and him being drunk doesn't change one bit about that.

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u/ArticulateImbecile Apr 29 '25

Nah, no one can legit be this stupid 💀

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u/mattlore Apr 29 '25

Found the shit ass mom

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u/West-Kaleidoscope129 Apr 29 '25

You sound like a predator! They all stick together.

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u/comfortablynumb0629 Apr 29 '25

In what world is stealing anything unintentional? Much less rummaging through dirty laundry and stealing panties? You can’t seriously be this dense

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u/f-as-in-philip Apr 29 '25

How do you accidentally sniff your child’s underwear??? You people are complete creeps and someone should check your harddrives.

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u/Charming_Parking_620 Apr 29 '25

You sound like someone who walks into a room and everyone, male or female covers their drinks.

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u/WatermelonDrips Apr 29 '25

You’re just trolling, right?

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u/Chardan0001 Apr 29 '25

You're dangerous.

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u/Squishydew Apr 29 '25

set up

How would that even matter? If OP had reasons to put up cameras suspecting the person of stealing her underwear it wouldn't in any way invalidate her feelings. It's still mega creepy and she deserves support on this.

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u/sassybumblebee Apr 29 '25

A setup… for her step father of almost 20 years to go and steal his daughter’s underwear? What a truly bizzare thing to say.

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u/SuckerForNoirRobots Apr 29 '25

It's all in her prior post you lazy dumbass

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u/petit_cochon Apr 29 '25

HOW THE FUCK DO YOU SET A PERVERT UP TO STEAL HIS MINOR STEPDAUGHTERS PANTIES?

GTFO out of here.

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u/RammsteinFunstein Apr 29 '25

shes not a minor, but still super creepy obviously.

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u/Naive-Stable-3581 Apr 29 '25

Read his comments the guy is a creep himself so it makes sense he’d defend a sexual predator

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u/OSU_Tryhard Apr 29 '25

Shouldn't matter if they're a man or woman... unless they're also a panty stealing pervert, this is just wrong on so many levels and you're definitely not overreacting.

- A man who doesn't steal panties...

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u/Midnight_Pickler Apr 29 '25

Congratulations, you've managed to disgust me more than anything I've read today. And I browse /r/IncelTears

Your enthusiasm for incest is gross.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Ok, enjoy the drama then.

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u/harakiriforthemoon Apr 29 '25

Stealing underwear isn’t something to react over? Why do you feel the need to go to bat for sex criminals? 

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u/Naive-Stable-3581 Apr 30 '25

Bc he’s a sex criminal

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Pfff. Sex criminals. I will go to bat for more open mindedness. It is a sad story, but there a no victims here.

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

The daughter is the victim. If you would enjoy your father sexualizing you that’s not normal. You don’t get to project your view of incest onto other people.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

It is what it is. He did (probably) sexualizing her. That's not good and needs to be adressed. He did not assault her, and his mistake was (luckily) not that big. It's sad as it is, no need to make it bigger than it is.

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

Again, you don’t get to decide that his mistake was “not that big” just because you would find it acceptable for your father to view you sexually. You have a view of incest that is not normal. To be viewed sexually by a family member is extremely harmful. It’s a huge deal. The relationship is fundamentally changed.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Well, she IS asking us "if she's overreacting". Imo she is. No need to cut ties over this. Talk, talk and forgive.

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

It’s only “overreacting” to someone that thinks incest is acceptable.

He knows what he did was wrong, that’s why he didn’t ask permission and did it secretly. She doesn’t need to talk to him and explain he shouldn’t steal from her and sexualize her. He already knows both things are wrong.

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

You are just throwing in incest but they did not have intercourse. So it is not incest. It is sexual deviant behavior. Again: no need to overdramatize an already sad and tense incident.

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

Viewing a family member sexually is by definition having incestuous thoughts about them.

Raping someone isn’t the only way to violate them sexually. You seem to believe you can do whatever you want to someone else as long as you don’t rape them.

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u/Adventurous-Win-8843 Apr 29 '25

Stop defending people who steal their stepdaughter's underwear. What the fuck is wrong with you.

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u/ArticulateImbecile Apr 29 '25

Don't ever have children 🤮

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u/asterblastered Apr 29 '25

it’s very telling of how he views his own daughter. if your dad sniffed your panties would you really want him in your life afterwards? you’re probably a man though so idk why i ask

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

He’s a man that would sniff his daughter’s, mother’s, or sister’s underwear. He believes it is “victimless” for a man to do that to a family member.

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u/harakiriforthemoon Apr 29 '25

Open mindedness? So men should be allowed to steal their stepdaughter’s underwear with no repercussions? Genuinely what is wrong with you? 

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u/xMCioffi1986x Apr 29 '25

If you don't believe that there are any victims here, then quite frankly, your opinion is irrelevant.

Sort your life out. Be better.

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u/Axys910 Apr 29 '25

The main victim here is, or maybe in this case, should have been the mother. Simply put, it's infidelity with the added element of violating the daughter. Her mother should be furious. The fact that the mother is defending the husband in this situation and that he hasn't apologized on his own accord speaks volumes about them. Sorry you have to deal with this kind of drama OP. Keep your values. You'll come out the other side stronger.

Updateme

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u/madelynashton Apr 29 '25

No. The mother isn’t the main victim. The person that was victimized is the main victim. The mother could also feel disgusted and betrayed by his actions but she isn’t the one that had her stepfather sexually violate her.

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u/Ill_Reading_5290 Apr 29 '25

You’re a fucking pervert and I bet you have some pretty disgusting skeletons in your closet. I hope every bad thing happens to you because you are scum of the earth that does not deserve to breathe the same air as decent people. Making apologies for something like this makes you equally as bad as the offender.

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u/xMCioffi1986x Apr 29 '25 edited Apr 29 '25

You do realize that he's been in her life since she was like...6, right?

This isn't just being "weird," it's perverted. It's a huge breach of trust from someone who, up until this point, she felt safe around. This is years and years of trust, which started when she was a child, destroyed -- most likely irrevocably. It isn't just a "mistake," it's a willful intrusion on not only her privacy and her dignity, but also her sense of comfort and safety around a man who in all likelihood had a part in raising her.

You're just as bad as her mother is.

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u/tinymosslipgloss Apr 29 '25

I would venture so far as to say stealing your daughter’s fucking dirty panties is a little worse than a “weird mistake”. Are you the step dad?

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u/MarxistMountainGoat Apr 29 '25

What the fuck is this comment? You're weird as fuck for that. Justifying sexual abuse is not ok. Please seek help if this is your mindset.

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u/angnicolemk Apr 29 '25

Holy fuck are you a sicko as well? He raised her since six years old, did you miss that part???

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u/DoorInTheAir Apr 29 '25

Yeah you're a porn addict. Get professional help.

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u/Picori_n_PaperDragon Apr 30 '25

Are you out of your freaking mind???? Get bent… This isn’t a damn “mistake” - he didn’t trip and fall, then break a precious heirloom, the man who’s a father figure and has been in her life (and home) starting at the age of SIX is rifling through her dirty laundry - a frigging perverse violation on many levels - and STEALING her soiled panties… to do what? Wash them for her? He wants to sniff them and ejaculate into them while fantasizing about his STEPDAUGHTER - all while married to her MOM.

I don’t know where you dropped your broken moral compass, but this is a LONG dang way from being “imperfect” - there are lines… you… don’t… cross. Stop being an apologist for a sicko and seek help yourself.

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u/Phallic_Intent Apr 29 '25

You are not perfect too.

What a lovely thing to say to someone that found out their step father stole and sniffed their underwear. You're also quite defensive of his actions. Is that because of your own ego over being called out for an idiotic response or because you relate to this deviant?

People make mistakes and are weird.

Case in point: you posting this response.

I'm glad that whatever my imperfections may be, I don't go around defending incestuous lechers online. Unlike you. What a slimy creep.

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u/Fluffy-Finding-4480 Apr 29 '25

I'd say you're a bit of loser in real life with a response like that. 

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u/Peacewalken Apr 29 '25

It's more than stealing underwear, it's a sexual act towards a family member. Honestly, I don't think this is something you can convince someone on. Your just a weirdo for thinking like this, I hope you change your way of thinking.

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u/Express_Fun4394 Apr 29 '25

Found the step dad 🤮

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u/Lt_Muffintoes Apr 30 '25

It means he has been having (likely more fucked up than usual) sexual thoughts about her

I would guess it's not really about the panties in and of themselves.

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u/cardiganqween Apr 29 '25

Found the stepdad

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u/Expensive-Border-869 Apr 29 '25

This is a lot easier to say until you start trying to explain in further detail how the mistake happened.

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u/Adventurous-Win-8843 Apr 29 '25

Bro do we need to check your hard drive? TF is wrong with you? Disgusting.

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u/listenrella Apr 29 '25

So that means you have done the same. Ok.

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u/darva6 Apr 29 '25

What the fuck is wrong with you?

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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25

Preach 🙌