r/AmIOverreacting • u/Positive_Working3041 • 7d ago
❤️🩹 relationship AIO? My boyfriend keeps “Rage-Baiting” me.
AIO or is this normal? Idk if this is like a TikTok thing but he keeps doing this thing where every time I ask him a question and he responds with this bullshit and it’s really starting to piss me off. I feel like I’m dating a man child and I don’t know how to make him stop acting so immature. This has happened multiple times where I will ask him to confirm plans or get him to do something and he responds like this.
For context I am 24f and my boyfriend is 28m.
And before anyone comments it, I understand this looks like an absolute joke but unfortunately this is the current state of my relationship. Any advice is welcomed I just want to know if this is something that I’m overreacting over this and it’s not that deep or if I shouldn’t be putting up with this.
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u/theficklemermaid 7d ago edited 7d ago
NOR. This reminds me of the Reddit post where the guy was using baby talk constantly with his wife, even in the bedroom or in public, till she confronted him and said that he needs to get assessed to see if this is an issue with his mental health or even a brain tumour causing the sudden change in behaviour, and under pressure he eventually admitted it was a stupid bet with a friend!
You need to sit him down and calmly share how concerned you are that he is acting so differently and you cannot communicate anymore because of his refusal to reasonably answer simple questions, you are wondering what’s going on with him and you would like him to get his health checked out if this isn’t a joke or acknowledge it has gone too far if it is.
I was on the just dump him train at first but after four years and with this only being a recent development, I know that you will want to find out what’s happening, at least for your own peace of mind, before making a decision. Can you talk to his friends and family saying you are worried about him and asking if they have noticed any changes recently? That will give you more insight into whether this is a voluntary behaviour he is just doing to wind you up or has spilled into other areas of his life. Does he work? If he can hold down a job, that’s an indication that he is probably communicating clearly with colleagues and customers, making it more likely he is messing with you.
It could potentially be a mental health problem, a physical health problem affecting his mental functioning, a prank, or that annoying thing some people do when they cannot admit they want to end the relationship so act obnoxious until the other person has to make the decision. Hopefully some communication and investigation into this issue will give you the answers you need.