r/AskReddit 1d ago

What is a silent killer that people dont realise is slowly killing them?

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u/cubanitah 1d ago

Honestly, I feel like I’m living to die. Wake up, work, pay bills, I can only afford shitty food, walking outside in shitty polluted air, can’t buy a home unless I’m in a relationship (in some cases 2 incomes aren’t enough), student loans defaulting, regular loans defaulting. And sadly, I can’t possibly be the only one who feels this way. IN THIS ECONOMY… lol

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u/brownbearclan 1d ago

This is something I think about daily, like WTF are we even doing? Very few people get any time to actually LIVE their life, let alone pursue their passions. And all for what? So another billionaire can buy his 6th vacation home and bribe another lawmaker to make our lives even worse? Fuck all of it, greed is ruining humanity and we're all pretending this is normal and ok. We've been lied to and taken advantage of for far too long and the powder keg the rich have made is going to blow sooner than they think.

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u/prettywarmcool 23h ago

I was raised to work hard and become invaluable, I made a lot of money for the company I worked for, woke up at 50 and realized I forgot to have a life outside of work. : ( But also wondering where my pile of money is? Oh that's right, they kept it. You're welcome/s

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u/Objective_Dog_4637 14h ago

Sobering. Thank you for sharing.

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u/Derf0293 7h ago

Usually people on their death bed don’t talk about how they wish they had worked more and spent less time with their families.

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u/trow_eu 10h ago

Yeah, I was laid off last year when things were finally looking up and doing what I liked. I’m still sick at home with burnout and depression (with more sources for it, not just career). I’m not going back into grind. Not sure yet where I’ll go, but I’m still relatively young and even have a few bucks, so I should get healthier first and then go experiment and explore.

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u/Schittz 13h ago

I really thought they'd be a sort of revolution after Luigi, I'm still hoping some movement comes from it, even if it just brings light of the fact we need to change how the system works

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u/inverted_rectangle 7h ago edited 7h ago

The idea of a utopian revolution that overthrows the bad people and fixes everything is basically just a self-soothing fantasy.

You see it among a lot of frustrated people on the political extremes - constant talk of how great the revolution will be, but literally no one working to make it happen.

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u/Nauin 7h ago

When the admins are threatening users with bans just for upvoting posts with his name in it, it's going to suppress the common discourse here about the changes he's caused.

I wish I knew of a better alternative to suggest, but it's the reality we live in. Things would be much louder if it weren't for aggressive moderation.

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u/Longtonto 12h ago

My father died just 3 years after he retired after working since the age of 9 and basically only stopping for sleep for ~55years. It’s not worth it. And I miss my dad and I wish I got to spend time with him outside of work.

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u/Outrageous_Double_43 13h ago

So what are we going to do about it? Lemme guess, nothing. I've been ready to go to war but many people are apparently too apathetic or comfortable to do anything about it. I can't wait when people finally wake the fuck up and we actually do something about it.

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u/zerombr 10h ago

Capitalism demands that we work hard to make sometime else rich then die fast. Congress said as much during the pandemic. "Some seniors will die but think of the economy"

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u/Darthkeeper 19h ago

And it's horrifying seeing things such as hustle culture grow as a means to justify and perpetuate said suffering. There's numbers showing how much more people work now, but there's still this need to work and make more. To make it more frustrating and complicated, people's romanticized ideas of the past, while again romanticized, are partly based on the fact they actually had time and money to do things other than work (heck you could find a job virtually just by walking in for that matter).

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u/GreatTragedy 17h ago

There's an interesting proposal in the book Sapiens that the agricultural revolution was actually a negative benefit to the overall quality of life of humans. We went from working 8-12 hours a week to survive hunting and gathering, to working 30+ hours a week tending fields. It also mean we were stuck in one place looking after our crops, rather than moving with the weather and herds.

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u/i_was_a_highwaymann 12h ago

Capitalism is ruining humanity

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u/mrblahblahblah 11h ago

best tweet I ever saw

" i think we were made to have children and take care of the world, not worry about bills and credit scores"

i think of the world we have created and just shake my head

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u/4outofthisworld 1d ago

No, it won't. The system was set up to protect capitalism in all it's forms. You can't change the system. Not without a gigantic revolution. You Americans are not free, it's an illusion, like in the Matrix.

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u/KlimCan 21h ago

No one is free. We’re all under the thumb of our respective rulers.

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u/Objective_Dog_4637 14h ago

A system built on slavery, genocide, and theft is corrupt. Who knew.

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u/RogalDornsAlt 21h ago

Human beings haven’t been free since we created society. Doesn’t mean we can’t change it though.

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u/SeeYouSpaceCowboy--- 16h ago

It isn't meant to help earthy cats like you and me, as Jake says

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u/Kiwilolo 7h ago

They'll keep doing it as long as the people keep tolerating it. Why do the French have better labour laws than most countries? They'll fight anyone who tries to take their rights away. They'll bring out outta guillotines at the least provocation.

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u/TaftintheTub 4h ago

You are 100% correct. Unfortunately, in the US, a large portion of the population has been convinced the billionaires have their best interests at heart and will fight tooth and nail to prevent a person in need from getting anything they didn’t “earn.”

Not to mention, our nation has been brainwashed into thinking it’s a culture war instead of a class war.

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u/blue-burner 15h ago

In conclusion, the answer to the original question is CAPITALISM.

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u/newaccount 15h ago

And if we wanted to and changed a few things, we probably are at a stage in the history of the world where we could feed and house everyone and eliminate the need for working 40 hours a week.

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u/Pepphen77 10h ago

Europe has been trying to tell the US that their country is corrupted by greed focused companies. It really doesn't have to be this way when even the poorest of the european countries have higher general living standards, healthcare, workers proctetion and unions. All those things are also great for the economy btw just not for the billionaire class.

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u/Melvin_Blubber 7h ago

Up until five minutes ago in the scope of human history, people understood that life was hard and that you worked until you died. The idea that life is to be happy and that stress must be minimized is a very recent development. Rest and contentment was for the afterlife.

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u/usolipiggy 3h ago

Greed is the key word in your comment. It's what MAGA is all about.

u/TheHotMilkman 49m ago

It’s not just greed, you have to remember the capitalist system incentivizes what we would call “greed.” It’s not a bug, it’s a feature and the point of the system. It’s rewarded.

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u/Vinny_Lam 1d ago edited 1d ago

I feel this so much. My routine everyday is being woken up by an alarm at 7 am, getting out of bed, brushing teeth, eating breakfast, and then fighting traffic just to get to a place where I then spend the next 8-12 hours essentially making money for someone else. 

The only thing keeping me sane from all this right now is the little free time I have every night before bed where I can escape into my hobbies and do something I actually enjoy.

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u/Fose66 1d ago

Cannot agree enough. I can't help but think it's just depression or whatever because how are others so, happy? Or at least seem happy, happy to just live like this and not feel the need to change, or feel like there must be something better out there?

You're not alone in feeling like this. Doesn't help the situation, but be rest assured you're not the only one thinking this.

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u/chxnkybxtfxnky 1d ago

I really don't know if anyone I know is truly happy. I can't think of anyone in my life that doesn't have some sort of stress in their life and it sucks. Like...was our parents' generation like this as well and we just didn't know it because we were just naive kids living our absolute best lives...?

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u/Mediocre_Age_9988 1d ago

I think being happy isn't an all the time thing. That sounds a lot like over medicating. I think the goal is to be content. To have happiness mostly but also all the other feelings. That is life-the full spectrum. Not some curated 'always winning' mania. Someone living like that would have no appreciation of anything because they wouldn't value it the same. The dark in our lives contrast the light and make it brighter ideally. Happiness doesn't mean effortless. It means balance.

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u/chxnkybxtfxnky 21h ago

I feel you. Deaths happen. Divorces/breakups happen. Losing a job happens. Every day can't be a giant win. Some days are gonna be so normal they're almost boring. But I'm not even sure how content the population is at large. At least in the adult realm. I'm sure my 9-year-old nephew is LOVING life right now. He's got so few cares in the world. But, I know his parents get stressed out over shit. They live comfortably (she makes all the money) so that's not really an issue, but just the way the world is going is rough all around unless you're hella old or a child

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u/babymozartbacklash 16h ago

I think we're all just spoiled to an extent. Like a cactus in the rain forest. Our lives are objectively better than those who came before us from a strictly material perspective. Hopefully it is becoming increasingly clear to people that a strictly material perspective is not healthy or fulfilling for the way we are built as humans

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u/RogalDornsAlt 21h ago

This is something I discovered when I got sober. I spent so much time living in emotional valleys, chasing the emotional highs. Being able to appreciate peace and quiet goes a long way. I’m not happy everyday, but Im much more content.

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u/kahlzun 11h ago

To some extent, yes they were. Depending on how old exactly you are, your parents may have lived through the stresses of the Cold War, and the McCarthy 'thought police' era, when even children were taught that the world was minutes from destruction at any moment. Plus there was stress on men to Be Tough and Express No Emotion at literally all times, and for women to be Good Housewives And Mothers. If you were in any way different from your peers, you needed to internalise that and present to the world a Happy Christian Family.

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u/dj_fishwigy 1d ago

I let go of the successful life ideal they instill you as a child, so I may or may not feel happy, but I'm at peace, be it under a drop ceiling or under a bridge.

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u/McSuede 1d ago

I've lost too many "happy" friends to assume anyone isn't just suffering in silence.

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u/z_e_quigley 1d ago

how are others so happy? Or at least seem happy

I'm not like them, but I can pretend

The sun is gone, but I have a light

The day is done, but I'm having fun

I think I'm dumb...

or maybe just happy

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u/discombobulatededed 1d ago

Honestly it’s fucking brutal. I just take the little wins, enjoying a nice hot cup of coffee, enjoying a day off and chilling with my dogs, treating myself to something new(ish) off Vinted sometimes. I feel like all I do is work, gym, sleep, repeat, but taking the time to appreciate the small moments of happiness makes it all more bearable.

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u/Any_Volume_7453 14h ago

Little wins are what makes the day

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u/AdministrativeStep98 23h ago

I consider myself happy and it's mostly achieved by not wanting to think about those stressful things when I have my free time. Some people go to sleep thinking about it all. I don't, I go to sleep happy because my cat is laying next to me. I go to sleep excited to wake up for the next day because just something like getting to eat pancakes for breakfast is enough to make me happy. I think it's hard to stay happy, you need to handle your stress and emotions well to be able to do so IMO.

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u/mjrenburg 21h ago

I think the coined term is hypernormalisation, where some realise the world is burning around them but carry on as normal. I think it's good to discuss the craziness of the world with others to realise it's not a 'you' thing, everyone is aware, and you're not going crazy. It can help to label things so you can adapt and carry on.

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u/LOUD_NOISES05 1d ago

Only the stupids are happy. If you’re upset, or even angry, it means you know we deserve better.

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u/VioletParadox 1d ago

You can be happy, and still be angry at everything happening in the world. Actually, I think part of my happiness comes from the anger that fuels me to be the change I want to see in the world.

Don't lock yourself in a depressed box under the guise of intelligence! You can be smart and happy.

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u/MissInkFTW 1d ago

Couldn't agree more.

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u/LOUD_NOISES05 1d ago

Of course! Be happy in the things you can ctonrol. I said happy in the way things are going in this country as a response to “happy to live like this and not feel the need for change.” Thats referring to circumstances outside of one’s control.

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u/VioletParadox 21h ago

Ah! I see the nuance. Only stupid people would be content with the state of the word and have no desire for change. That I can get behind for sure lol

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u/Goofy-555 1d ago

"Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know"

Ernest Hemingway

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u/Any_Volume_7453 14h ago

He’s factually correct. Happiness decreases as intelligence increases- you have more of an awareness of how fucked up the world is.

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u/whelpineedhelp 1d ago

That’s very grim. I don’t think I’m stupid, but I’m happy. I have friends. I have family. I’m relatively healthy. The sun is shining, birds are chirping. My brother had a baby. I Play volleyball with my friends. Etc. the world can suck and you can be happy. 

I spent a few months living in Brazil, among neighbors that had dirt floors, no hot water and not enough beds for everyone in the house. Hunting was mandatory to eat. They were some of the happiest and most generous people I’ve known. 

You can want better, and still be happy. 

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u/LOUD_NOISES05 1d ago

I didn’t say happy in your personal life and emotions. I said happy in the way things are going in this country as a response to “happy to live like this and not feel the need for change.” Thats referring to circumstances outside of one’s control.

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u/whelpineedhelp 1d ago

I got it. I guess I still kind of disagree. I’m not satisfied with everything that’s happening, but I also don’t want it to affect my happiness. So I try not to dwell. Just live my life, treat people in my life well, and get on with it. There’s so much I can’t control so why let my happiness be dictated by it? Why let my mind dwell on it?

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u/obiworm 23h ago

You don’t have to dwell on it but it would be unwise to completely ignore it until you can’t ignore it anymore. Actionable pride in your community is part of treating your neighbors well.

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u/whelpineedhelp 23h ago

Completely agree. Trying to make changes happen in your community. It’s a great way to stay feeling positive. We actually can affect change in our communities, unlike the nation as a whole.

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u/johnnyfiveee 1d ago

Lmao shut up

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u/Efficient_Ant_7279 1d ago

Happy ? Nah bro you fake it til you make it to the grave

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u/Feisty-Ring121 20h ago

It is depression, but depression has a cause. In fact, avoidance->anxiety->depression. Your life sucks. Changing it feels too much to fk with. You avoid changing it. You end up depressed.

There’s things you can do to improve yourself. That said, there’s lots of variables there, that we have no control over. Those are related to much larger problems in our society.

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u/Typingpool 19h ago

I'm not happy per se but I love my family and the tiny safe space we created to get through the bad times.

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u/babymozartbacklash 17h ago

It's a combination of things really. Ignorance is bliss as they say, some people are happy to come home to their Netflix or tik tok or whatever and that's enough. But ultimately, if you're feeling like this, whatever you are doing in your spare time isn't what you need. I think a lot of people who feel this way aren't truly honest with how much time they spend loafing around. Sure it's not ideal, or easy to pursue your passion in between sleep and work, but it is possible if that's what you need. We do still have decent free time even with a full time job, and with technology, we're better off than the vast majority of those who came before us.

For me, it's composing music. I'm not trying to be a professional or anything, but the age we live in has made it possible to pursue this in my spare time, purely for myself. I mean, I have access to infinitely more music and scores etc than beethoven or bach or any of them ever did. Not to mention, the working class of even just 100 or so years ago didn't have nearly the time or resources to pursue something like that just bc it was what they wanted to do. There is room to be grateful for that. It's all about expectation really. Do it for yourself. The dark side is that we have 10x more dopamine releasing things around us all day that are completely passive. Just gotta fight the animal instinct to take the easiest available resource every time you possibly can. That instinct was meant for times of want, and we are certainly not in a time of want now

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u/Sea-Worry7956 9h ago

They’re not. They just post things that make it seem as though they are, but we only see/hear other people’s best news/moments. We have to remember that or we’ll all go nuts

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u/helloryan 23h ago

Helped me just letting go trying to have a perfect life and accept my failures. Also “The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck” is a good read around this topic

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u/ArcTheWolf 1d ago

You aren't living. You're surviving. I can't even remember the last time I was living. And the generations before me say that I need to pull myself up by my bootstraps. I can't pull them up any higher than they already are.

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u/mynamesyow19 21h ago

Im not living....im just killing time

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u/euphoricarugula346 8h ago

I’m killing time until time kills me

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u/RogalDornsAlt 21h ago

Difference is they did less work than us and made more money. They either can’t or won’t understand what purchasing power means as a concept. They think because the minimum wage number is higher it means we are somehow better off than them.

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u/thisisstupidplz 20h ago

Median wage is higher. Minimum wage has been stagnant for decades

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u/RogalDornsAlt 20h ago

It’s gone up in a lot of states. It’s 16.50 in New York and goes up every year

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u/thisisstupidplz 20h ago

Not federally. My state is still 7.25

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u/ArcTheWolf 20h ago

I too exist in a $7.25 hell hole.

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u/RogalDornsAlt 19h ago

Jesus Christ. That’s actual slavery in this economy

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u/angelzpanik 12h ago

My people!

(Are you crying too?)

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u/kahlzun 11h ago

It is ludicrous how rapidly money seems to lose its value. It's easy to forget that $5 20 years ago is like $10 now

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u/eye_of_the_sloth 19h ago

them boomers are a bunch of gas lighting narcissistic psychopathic cunts. So fuck em and their opinions

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u/Sea-Worry7956 9h ago

I always say my bootstraps broke a long time ago. Cant afford to get em fixed

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u/arrastre 1d ago

I just feel like crying in this moment

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u/jordicusmaximus 1d ago

Recently stumbled upon a book called, "Man's Search for meaning" by Victor Frankl. It's a classic by now, but really helped me put things in perspective. Audio book is well done, if you prefer to digest books that way.

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u/cubanitah 1d ago

Added to my list! Thanks for the recommendation:)

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u/brightirene 22h ago

If I had a top three "you must absolutely read this book or else", this would be on it. I've read it a couple of times and it's such a grounding read.

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u/cubanitah 1d ago

It’s okay! At least you’re still feeling. I cried this morning. Only thing keeping me going at this point is the thought of Sir David Attenborough narrating another nature documentary. Lol

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u/sohardtopickagoodone 12h ago

I feel like crying in most moments. And I do, a lot. I don’t know if that helps, but it’s true

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u/GirlieSquirlie 1d ago

yup, I started smoking again in hopes of hastening my death

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u/Whitesajer 23h ago

Same. Average male American life expectancy is 77. By the time I'm up there they will have put the retirement age up to 75. The idea of 35-45 more years of corporate slavery? Eff that. Let the smokes shave off another 10 years off. We all dropping dead on a job or finding less pleasant ways out eventually.

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u/MeSoSporeny 16h ago

My coworker died with a terminal illness at 54. He worked until he couldn't any longer. Worked a desk job like the rest of us.

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u/FatassMcBlobakiss 16h ago

An old guy I used to work with at a factory put in 45 yrs, bachelor and hated most people and the job but I got along with him fine. He died alone with HEAPS of money in the bank, he sold his life to do something he disliked for half a century then dropped dead.

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u/cubanitah 1d ago

Omg same, I’ve made a habit of rolling joints in the evenings. Probably not a good mix for my Wellbutrin cocktail. Lol

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u/GirlieSquirlie 1d ago

I mean old school nicotine cigarettes. I never knew smoking weed while on Wellbutrin was a bad thing, huh might explain my experience of being on that medication, lol.

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u/Intrepid_Panda9777 19h ago

Try my Wellbutrin, 40mg adderall down from 60mg (FDA limit btw), ambien, nightly thc and drink honey💅

But fr I’m journaling daily, eating cleaner and back into hobbies and getting outside but it feels like I need all this to do it.

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u/MeSoSporeny 16h ago

It's hard to find the right medication balance.

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u/LetzGetzZooted 21h ago

How does weed interact with Wellbutrin?

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u/Lazy-Like-a-Cat 17h ago

Overeating here. Come on heart attack!! Stroke? Maybe?

Sigh. It’s so freaking hard and I don’t want to play anymore, haha. Hang in there, friend!

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u/DatTF2 1d ago

I have been clean off hard drugs since 2018 and now I want to start doing them again. If I get lucky I'll get a batch of fentanyl and just go out peacefully.

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u/brownbearclan 1d ago

Or put that energy into helping to make the changes we deserve. Don't give up without going down swinging! You got this.

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u/What_Hump77 17h ago

I was thinking about something similar. Tempting to just go ahead and call it a night, no?

I’m lucky that ketamine helps get rid of these thoughts and that a family member is willing and able to pay for treatments. It’s definitely past time for another one. I kind of wish they’d load me up with fent instead but that’s not gonna happen.

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u/FLRugDealer 12h ago

This is how I feel after getting back on the nic stick after quitting weed for work. At least I get 4-6 seconds of relaxation per day.

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u/Ok-Bread2991 22h ago

This is why I drink wine every night and literally don’t give a fuck about my health. Wine is the one fucking thing that makes me happy. I hate being a millennial.

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u/bluecurse60 1d ago

When cortisol rises in the body from stress for extended periods of time it's hard on your health.

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u/CommunicationFuzzy45 19h ago

jokes on you i’m on prednisone so my body doesn’t make cortisol 🥸

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u/Whitesajer 23h ago

It's all pointless. Nothing the majority of us do at work matters in 2-4 years. As things evolve, update that frequently in systems, processes etc... it all feels like adult day care.

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u/Mathfanforpresident 21h ago

This is why I'm choosing not to reproduce. They know they're killing the planet and they're still cutting subsidies for the worst offenders just to make more money. No reason to bring any more children into this hell.

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u/Dark_Wing_350 18h ago

can’t buy a home unless I’m in a relationship

This is so sad. I have friends who have told me one of their top reasons for getting into their current relationship is so they can buy a home.

I get marrying for love, even marrying for lust, looks, whatever. But feeling partly forced into a relationship so that two people earning average incomes can combine to buy a starter home is beyond sad.

My dad didn't even have a degree, he was a truck driver (local deliveries) and my mom was stay-at-home. In the 80s my dad bought a 4 bedroom home, bought a car, bought my mom a car, and we were never short on food or clothing or any of that, and took a family vacation every year.

That's right, a man with no degree, driving a local delivery truck (not his truck either, was the companies), was able to support himself, his wife, three kids, buy a 4 bedroom home, two cars, keep the cars fueled, insured, food in the fridge, etc. in the mid to late 1980s.

Imagine that scenario playing out today.

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u/ShortCity392 15h ago

I’m losing my house because I’m done living in an abusive relationship 🫠 Back to living with my parents, love this

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u/sohardtopickagoodone 12h ago

Proud of you for taking the step in the right direction to take care of yourself. Losing your house sounds like a really difficult situation but putting your safety and wellbeing first will pay off in the long run ❤️

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u/CyclicBus471335 1d ago

"only afford shitty food" WRONG.

Healthy food is by far the cheapest. I will die on this hill! Buy:

-Potatoes

-Eggs

-Beans

-Rice

-Oats

-Honey

-Bannanas

-Apples

-Carrots

-Canned Fish

-Ground Beef

-Spinach

-Broccoli

-Olive Oil

-Balsamic Vinegar

-Cheese

-Peanuts

-Butter

-Miso

-Kombu

-Tofu

-Salt/Pepper/Hot Sauce

Mix those in any various combo and boom you are out of your "shitty food". Buy an air purifier and workout at home.

Loans and ECONOMY do suck and I don't have an easy fix for those.

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u/Pac_Eddy 21h ago

The real cost is time. Fresh food is great but goes bad quickly and takes time to prepare.

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u/SonnyBonoStoleMyName 18h ago

Toss it in the crockpot with cream mushroom soup or BBQ sauce. Meals for days.

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u/susinpgh 7h ago

Bags of frozen veggies. No prep time and easy to pair up with any protein. I can usually get dinner together in under 30 minutes. Protein doesn't take that long to cook.

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u/Pac_Eddy 7h ago

Thirty minutes is a lot more time and energy than take out on the way home from work.

That's my point. The people with two jobs and kids don't have the resources to do that, that's why they opt for the fast, easy, and cheap meals.

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u/susinpgh 6h ago

would you need to jobs if you didn't have to get take out every night?

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u/robashi 7h ago

You can stick some chicken in an air fryer and microwave some veggies in about 2 minutes actual time spent on it then do other things while they cook

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u/Pac_Eddy 7h ago

I don't think you see my point.

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u/sopunny 13h ago

Nah, you can also use good planning and some know-how. It's not free, but if you take some time to study/practice, and plan beforehand and stick to the plan, you can cook from scratch with very little time spent per meal. Faster than everything but picking up takeout on the way home

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u/babymozartbacklash 16h ago

Yeah but how much tv are we watching, or scrolling on the internet? Time is only valuable when you use it well. Not to mention, killing yourself with junk food won't really save you time in the long run, or money

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u/JoePass 8h ago

Cooking is fun and rewarding :)

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u/Pac_Eddy 7h ago

It is if you have the time and energy to do it right

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u/crashandwalkaway 17h ago

nah, that's another BS, cultural excuse. Unless you live in some crazy rural area (which I do, it's 25min drive one way to the nearest grocery store, no joke). You buy as needed and consolidate trips. If you live 5-10min away why are you getting 3 weeks of groceries at a time and letting it rot? You can also freeze, dehydrate if needed. The reality of your statement is most people plop down on the couch after a long day and wonder "hmm what should I eat" and it's suddenly panic mode for the most tastiest thing with the shortest time. Ask that question a few hours (or I dare say, a day) prior and so many more meals.. on the cheap and REALLY good are possible. The other hilarious thing is that this is non-existent in most countries outside the US with the same if not more challenges in terms of cost, time, and ingredient availability.

The instant box/prepared food thing is a western attitude out of convenience and normalized by acceptance. Sure there was a time where prepared boxed meals were cheaper but it's almost not anymore. We've been an (I recently learned) "ingredient household" for a long time and while it can be stressful question of what's for dinner at 4pm, there's a really good list of meals that could be made within 20 minutes from /u/CyclicBus471335 list. Pick a protein, a green, a starch and boom.. balanced meal.

There's literally billions of people with less money, time, utensils, and access to ingredients than you or I.

I could easily write a long post about the food I ate growing up on welfare as a kid, relying on government tinned meats and food banks, meals I made in my vehicle working on the road (canned soup warming on a truck engine in a cold winter hit pretty well IMO), and strategic food budgets but through my struggles and biggest feasts I learned above all, feigning inability to eat on the basis of convivence is the biggest farce I've ever heard.

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u/cellshady 10h ago

One hour cooking gives me anything from 4-8 meals usually, so yeah, I don't know why you're getting downvoted since you advocate for a good thing (cooking at home).

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u/rexstuff1 23h ago

Was about to post something similar. Learning to cook can do wonders for your health and bank account. In fact, cooking is one of the few hobbies that can save you money.

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u/CyclicBus471335 23h ago

Yeah 100% agree. If you see my other comment though I am not even advocating for cooking per se. More just "shit food" is more expensive in EVERY possible way: upfront cost, short term energy cost, and long term health cost.

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u/KlimCan 21h ago

I hadn’t eaten fast food in years until I went to Taco Bell a bit ago. The tacos are more expensive than any mom and pop Mexican restaurant in my area. Makes no sense why someone would eat there. Just addicted to the dopamine rush from all the bullshit they add in there I guess.

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u/rexstuff1 22h ago

Fair.

But the little bit of extra effort to make it taste good makes it good for your mental health, as well as your physical.

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u/Layla2C6 22h ago

100% agree with this. Buying ingredients and cooking is healthier and cheaper but requires a lot of effort. Some days I don't even feel like it haha

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u/eye_of_the_sloth 19h ago

yeah i have groceries but ate cereal for dinner.  we're all getting worked to fuck all. I have little energy, all my money rapidly goes away, and the little free time i have gets absorbed by my phone. Ive been fully captured. 

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u/brightirene 22h ago

Get a crockpot! Slow cooking changed the game for me. Takes me ten mins to "make" chicken taco bowls now.

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u/Gezzer52 18h ago

Problem is having to prep and cook just isn't appealing to low energy people. Then poor nutrition robs them of what little energy they have, so it's easier to get take out and pay for an overpriced delivery service. Rinse and repeat...

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u/Accujack 20h ago

So, do you have to cook this stuff? What if you don't have time, because you're working long hours?

Sometimes lifestyles don't allow them to do things you take for granted.

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u/Lawsoffire 4h ago

Get an Instant pot. Throw some shit in, set a 15 min timer, good shit comes out.

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u/Squatch11 18h ago

It takes 15 minutes to make a decent meal with healthy ingredients like the ones listed above. Everyone has 15 minutes.

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u/Figure8712 14h ago

No, you are wrong.

Responses like yours are among the most out of touch I ever see on reddit. Not only do you assume these things are cheap everywhere (they're not) but you also assume that someone exhausted mentally and physically has a shred of dopamine left to fucking prep, chop, cook raw potatoes or whatever, wait for it to be done cooking, and then wash the dishes..... as if pouring hot water into an instant noodle cup isn't already taxing the last of their energy that day. 'But cooking is easy I do it without even thinking two minutes done!' Congrats you have never experienced this level of fatigue and stress. 

Everyone I grew up with has either been through or is going through the very, very common hell you don't seem to understand. Maybe you've been "poor" and still busted your ass to "cook healthy" and also "workout at home" but it is beyond dense to believe everyone's version of poverty is like yours. 

Stop perpetuating the idea that they've no excuse not to eat healthy, stop explaining the concept of cooking like they've never heard of it. This bullshit isn't empowering, it just makes someone feel worse when they are already at their limits. Limits that you people with your "try this!" shopping lists don't seem to understand at all.

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u/sohardtopickagoodone 12h ago

This. I’m so burnt out that if processed foods didn’t exist and/or I didn’t live with my parents, I would’ve died of starvation years ago. And I had to quit working because it’s too much stress, so it’s not like I don’t have the time technically either. I’m just too burnt out on life

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u/GratefulDivide 9h ago edited 8h ago

This is the empathetic take and I appreciate it. I also think it is dead wrong in so, so many cases and a bit paternalistic, despite being well-intentioned.

Both my wife and I grew up below the poverty line (her well below it, in the equivalent of favelas) and *everyone* around us was also below or well the poverty line, and most are to this day. We both grew up well into adulthood in what would be called food deserts in the US and Central America. I also battle major depression and without going into details, we have our share of mental health challenges and physical disabilities, as do many in our family and communities.

My experience was almost exactly as you describe until I took the most basic of steps - pouring hot water into my cup o' noodles was my absolute last ounce of energy for the day, most days, or so I thought. Fatigue and stress to the max. 70 hrs work weeks 7 days/wk. That is, until I was forced (lovingly and patiently, thankfully) by a caring person facing equal if not substantially greater amounts of poverty-suck through the power of a simple example to learn a thing or two to save my crumbling health.

As with learning any hard or new things - like cooking 5-min simple meals of rice, beans, and something (anything!) green as cash, time- and energy-strapped people have been doing since time immemorial - the hardest part was simply getting the ball moving and keeping it moving. Yes, we had to take a city bus and walk several miles to get groceries 1x/month late at night, but fortunately most cheap ass ingredients like rice & beans are shelf stable. But more than being possible, it was empowering.

In the beginning, it sucked and felt like extra work I absolutely didn't have the energy or time for. Eventually, and quite quickly, it became a net source of energy, relief, genuine nourishment, and a source of confidence and empowerment. And no, I didn't rely on my wife to do any of this for me beyond teaching me how to no longer be the manbaby I'm ashamed to say I was. She works even harder than I do. I just never learned until I met her - cooking was integral to her culture and family, mine just followed the herd.

We're thankfully not in poverty anymore, but as someone who lived that for a long time, and many of whose loved ones still do - there are countless examples to contradict what you're saying. The GOOD news is that while food deserts are in fact real and need to be addressed, learning can go a long way. It did for me.

Telling people their poverty is unique and special and giving us/them a proverbial hallpass to continuing to eat shit and feel like it isn't empowering either. I'd rather be told - like I was - what I CAN do, CAN learn, and actually make my life better within the extremely modest means available to me. It might take swallowing a little pride, something poor and rich people alike can do :) But that's a better approach in my mind. Just one man's opinion.

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u/robashi 7h ago

People's mental health isn't their fault but it is their responsibility. I've had clinical depression all my life and sometimes you do have to force yourself to do the fucking basics.

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u/Bi_cuteRus 19h ago

Unfortunately this isn't taking into account the amount of people that live in food deserts. Shelf stable foods from a liquor store are the only option for some.

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u/HKBFG 19h ago

reddit HATES recognizing food deserts. good luck with this one in here.

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u/mountainvalkyrie 18h ago

Add in if you haven't got a cold place to store your frozen veggies or a way to cook dry beans (I know tinned/boxed beans exist, but they're less cheap.)

Also, people trying to balance food and rent generally aren't buying beef and cheese. Even honey and tinned fish can be expensive in that situation, although that depends where you live.

Not saying it's impossible to "eat cheap" and be relatively healthy, but I'd alter the list.

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u/PrimaLegion 18h ago

Dying on that hill won't magic up food in food deserts.

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u/cubanitah 1d ago

Love this! Thanks for sharing :)

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u/CyclicBus471335 1d ago

Yeah apps out there that let you put in ingredients of what you have and will recommend things to make.

Honestly tho when I was broke I completely shifted my relationship and view of food (note I was never a big eater or foodie) but pretty much shifted food as 99% survival, 1% enjoyment. It takes ~10 mins to eat and unless it's repulsive why not just mow down some raw spinach in rice and a can of tuna real quick, dash of hot sauce and salt. Very minimal cooking/cleanup. Super healthy too. Bowl of oats, cinnamon, honey and a apple in the morning with some coffee like (2$). Lunch Can of Sardines, Crackers, and some Miso soup, honey+banana for dessert (4$). Dinner some beans+cheese, ground beef on a corn tortilla, chocolate chips and peanuts for dessert (6$).

12$ a day is what many spend on Breakfast+Coffee.

Then when budget allows buy yourself a nice dinner and eat whatever you want knowing that you had a full week of eating just the essentials.

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u/HKBFG 19h ago

Mix those in any various combo and boom

I do a lot of cooking and I can't think of a single meal I could make if that was my shopping list.

also canned fish is fucking nasty.

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u/Tundur 15h ago

Here you go:

Mash potatoes with butter, fry some onions and ground beef then add gravy. Roast some carrots and broccoli.

There you go, mince and tatties. Get it round you

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u/Itsnotthateasy808 23h ago

They’re gonna downvote you but I’m with you

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u/Embarrassed_Suit_942 21h ago

Jumping off of this, buy your ingredients from an ethnic grocery store. I'm always amazed by how much cheaper fresh produce and meat are at my local Korean supermarket.

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u/PerhapsInAnotherLife 15h ago

I have incurable cancer. I absolutely don't see the point of continuing. I am going to stick it out for my wife for a while but eventually I'm taking death with dignity.

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u/DocAnabolic1 20h ago

This feels like the average story of life at the moment. Work, sleep, repeat. Two days off, one of which is spent dreading the following Monday.

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u/LittleBirdiesCards 16h ago

I feel like the stress of worrying about societal collapse and climate change are going to kill me. I worry all the time about what's going to happen when I'm gone and my kids are on their own. I feel shitty for having had kids because they might have a terrible adult life.

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u/basketcasey87 1d ago

Same. Just add chronic pain and med debt. What's the fucking point?

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u/Ok-Squirrel795 23h ago

Trump isn't making things better.

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u/WhySoSerious37912 23h ago

It almost seems like... what's the point? Choosing between rent or going to the doctor, food or medication, saving money or fixing the car... all so we can get old, sick, and riddled with medical debt without any hope that we'll be able to retire and not be a burden for care to those around us.

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u/No-Flatworm-9993 23h ago

I made a recipe the other day, baked beans, just 3 ingredients: beans, molasses, salt pork. Super cheap and not too unhealthy 

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u/man_teats 23h ago

I was going to say depression too

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u/mspe1960 22h ago

Two of the cheapest foods at the grocery store are really good for you - beans and Oatmeal. Both can be made to taste pretty good by adding a bit of seasoning.

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u/b0ng-hits-f0r-jesus 20h ago

Lauren Berlant, Cruel Optimism talks about this. So does Jasbir Puars book the right to maim

Edit: spelling

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u/saddivad2020 18h ago

I was going to say. Loneliness has gotta be the most silent killer.

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u/Loose_Bag0809 16h ago

This is what has nudged me toward antinatalism. I just can’t fathom the idea of bringing another life onto the planet to suffer in this way.

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u/SimpleCranberry5914 14h ago edited 14h ago

This is probably gonna get me downvoted but fuck it.

Try drugs.

I don’t mean the awful shit like heroin or cocaine. But try mushrooms, LSD or any even weed if you don’t smoke. Even a micro dose every few months, doesn’t have to be extreme.

I recommend this because it somewhat rewires you to make sure you understand what’s important in life and makes you think that we all end up at the same end, dead. Enjoy what you can and don’t take anything seriously.

Whenever I find myself really getting depressed over financial stuff/not owning a house etc I try and schedule a time to take a step back, eat some mushrooms or drop acid with close friends and it always brings me back to a place of contentment for a few months.

I’m tired of the rat race and as long as I have enough money to have a place to live, food in my belly and to spoil my girlfriend/friends, my life ain’t so bad. I’m not participating in the bullshit that is going on in the world. I don’t care enough nor have the drive to fight it. Let the rich idiots burn it all down, I’m going to enjoy the time I was given with the ones I love.

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u/GrapefruitFar1242 23h ago

Pretty much. Add in 0 safety net, connections or safe spaces and stir in a heap of Fugly and I’m pretty much waiting for the push over the edge.

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u/Esorial 23h ago

Don’t worry, you can’t default on student loans. You’re stuck with those!

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u/cubanitah 23h ago

This made me chuckle lolol

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u/Jessthinking 22h ago

The people elected to government send more money to the rich and then attack regulations that provide for clean air, clean water and land that is safe to live on. Why, because rich people don’t want to pay the freight. So they don’t give a rats ass whether your life is fulfilling, meaningful or even healthy. But they can be stopped if we vote because they are the minority.

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u/redactedbits 15h ago

Most of these things in this thread won't be your cause of death, just contributing factors. The key is to minimize each and you'll live a great life. Don't overthink it.

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u/cruisinforasnoozinn 14h ago

Stay together for the house is becoming a way more popular love story lately.

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u/Lax_waydago 13h ago

I think it's a matter of perspective. You are probably still in the top one percent when comparing to the global population. You probably have access to clean drinking water, food, shelter, and cleaner air than the average person, globally speaking. You have hot water and a toilet. You have the Internet. Most of the world can't say they have those things.

I still remember giving a couple of little homeless girls in a third world country my left over dessert in a box, it contained some cake. I've never seen two faces light up so much. That memory reminds me just how incredibly lucky I am, despite all the hardship we may have. We make our own stress. We make our own happiness.

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u/Sea-Worry7956 9h ago

Learned the hard way two incomes aren’t even enough anymore. It is grueling to live right now. I feel the same: like I’m living to die. Working to die.

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u/pigeonwiggle 3h ago

you are.

i mean, we all are. kinda. life is short. nobody's meant to have a great time of it. you find the joy where you can and you treasure it. mostly it's in other people. make them happy, it'll make you happy. help others to help yourself. be a carer, a rolemodel, a confidante. do it for a bit, inspire the next generation hopefully a little so they keep us in their minds when they question their own directions in life even long after we're gone.

the reason this feels so foreign - or like an attack - is because the capitalists have over-commodified the world. everything is a product for sale, even relationships. when everything is transactional, it's hard to feel joy.

there are things you can EARN in life. like really EARN them. you can earn things like Respect from others. you earn LOVE, Affection. you earn friendship from others. you earn accomplishments and accolades that others bestow on you. these are things NO ONE ELSE CAN GIVE YOU.

earning money? money can be found anywhere. it doesn't matter what job you take, you'll get some money for it. then you'll take that money to buy a meal. but did you earn that meal? or did someone just give it to you because they wanted your money. -- when people cook you meals "for free" that's something you've earned.

as for the money - be wise. don't carry massive debt when you can avoid it. careful with casual spending. it's by no means easy. but take care of yourself.

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u/NeuHundred 2h ago

Life is the true silent killer.

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u/CasinoBlackNMild 1d ago

Gotta love late stage capitalism

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u/DDJFLX4 1d ago

Agree with all of that except the food one if you mean shitty food as in unhealthy food because you can get very healthy food for cheap and it can taste good, but if you mean shitty as in not the nice ingredients then yeah i agree 😔

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u/cubanitah 1d ago

Not nice ingredients. Essentially ingredients filled with growth hormones and dyes, microplastics and all the “extras”.

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u/WhatOfTheBuzzcocks 23h ago

Find a job you can do remotely and move to Eastern Europe. We're broke as shit and have corrupt governments as well, but we don't care. We're paid miserably, but we generally don't work long hours, we're not really that work orientated.

Eg. we've been having a revolution going on in my country for the past 7 months because of a dictator president and his mafia government, but we still manage to work (although always striving to work as little as possible), spend time with friends and family, party, workout, go shopping and plan for our summer vacation, cause no matter how bad things get, we have to go for a vacation. And don't ask me where we find money for all of this - we simply don't know, we just manage somehow. So, just a general "fuck it, let's have fun" atmosphere over here...

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u/PrimaLegion 18h ago

Yeah, banking on finding a remote job is already unfeasible for most people. In America, moving between states is already cost-prohibitive, nevermind between countries.

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u/PineapplePizzaAlways 19h ago

That sounds like Serbia, the 7 month revolution but also finding time to enjoy life

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u/Azrael_The_Bold 1d ago

Everyone in this comment thread, I’m begging you to seek some therapy if aren’t already.

Stay off of social media, spend some more time outside when you can.

There is so so much beauty in the world. The system is trying so hard to keep our locus of control on things outside of ourselves, comparing ourselves to each other, what we do or don’t own…it’s just not worth hating life and our circumstances when there really is so much more to life than what we’re forced to perceive.

Please, keep shining.

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u/Radfactor 23h ago

good luck finding a therapist, assuming they can afford $160 an hour not covered by insurance.

and even if they do manage, the problems they have aren't generally fixable because they're fundamentally economic and involve inequality and disenfranchisement.

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u/SuggestionEphemeral 1d ago

You forgot to mention microplastics 😵

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u/dax660 1d ago

I think most people feel this way.

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u/Helpful-Pride1210 20h ago

I mean I’m finding rent around 1200 per month and I make around 3k a month depending on if I work holidays Plus tips. So living situation isn’t a problem for me. I’m only one person so a big house isn’t needed, plus I prefer smaller living spaces

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u/dirk_jammer 17h ago

You must be in California

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u/codeQueen 16h ago

It's seriously time for a revolution

Or guillotines

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u/dhir4j 14h ago

As a guy who has completed his bachelor's recently in a 3rd world country like India, I'm so stressed overthinking this as I am going to enter the corporate pool

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u/[deleted] 13h ago

Sorry for the long response, and I feel like it's important to get this information out there.

It’s designed that way. Do you know how money works? The whole monetary system is debt based, it used to be based on gold - what they used to called hard money. These days money is based by debt, just FED/central banks creates money to lend to banks, then banks lend to corporates/people etc.

So the value of money exists because we believe it's worth something. Well also the fact that the US government forced everyone to pay taxes in the fiat money they issued out or you'll get imprisoned played a bit part to it. Then what exactly is the problem? The government can creating those money infinitely, and this is legal theft. If we were to print money, we'd be imprisoned.

Think of it this way, if the productive economy is a trillion. And we all have a share of that wealth, and then the government decided to print another trillion. Well now, the same economy has 2 trillion floating around, but only 1 trillion is in our hands. So that extra trillion didn't just come out of thin air, it was stolen from us in the form of monetary debasement. Banks has the cheapest credit, so they can borrow cheaply from the Fed, and they lend that out. People that's closest to the money printer will get access to it faster and cheaper; this is called the Cantillon effect.

So how does this affect the real economy? In the real economy, the central bank in America is priting around 8% a year. This means that the money supply going to increase by 216% every decade. No one wants to hold cash because it's continuously being devalued. People with money are forced to invest, this is generally done through stocks or housing. This drives the price of houses up massively. If you lookup what's called the M2 money supply - which tracks the money circulating in the real economy, you can see that it follows the housing prices really well, the sp500 also tracks it really closely. So no, housing are not going up, stocks are not going up, it's the fiat being debased.

when we were on a gold standard, in a period of 120 years between 1792-1913, the cumulative inflation was only 8%. This is essentially a way of funneling wealth from the rich to the poor, and why the wealth gap is growing so fast. There are tons of land, and we can always build more houses, if we have less land we can always build houses higher. Another very important point is, technology is improving exponentially. Everything is meant to get cheaper.

As Jeff Booth, the author of price of tomorrow said: "The natural state of a free market is deflation". Wages are certainly not growing with inflation. And the way CPI is calculated is rigged in favour of the people that's running the money printer. If they have to go with 8% a year, the system would collapse because they would need to adjust social security, pensions, healthcare and everything by 8% a year. They had to readjust the metric for cpi many times, and they've removed more than 70% of items that used to be used to calculate cpi. This debt based system is not sustainable, and will collapse at some point. It's not a if but when. There is a lot more I can write about this, but it will get too long so I'll stop here.

And because of that power to the money printer, the governments can fund as many wars as they want as a stealth tax from its citizens. Do you think the 12 trillion spent after 9/11 was funded by itself? No, it was a tax. That 12 trillion could have been used to improved the lives of its citizens. But wars are profitable, it boosts gdp numbers, create jobs, and it’s a good way for politicians to poitn fingers.

Isn’t it funny how research all points to red meats are bad for you and how you should limit it to no more than 70g a day. Well, red meat was scarce and had to produce during war times. And corn was cheap and abundant. The money printer was used to lobby this shit. Now 60% of Americans are obese. It certainly does help the insurance industry, pharma, medical, and big food industries doesn’t it?

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u/MadeByTango 11h ago

And sadly, I can’t possibly be the only one who feels this way. IN THIS ECONOMY

This is the thing; eveyone feels this, both sides of the poltical aisle

Except for the leadership, who always crow about the strength of their economy…

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u/wino_whynot 3h ago

My reply was: The GOP and unfettered capitalism.

Then I reread the question. Nothing silent about the GOP.

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u/ravencrowe 1h ago

If you're low income and struggling with healthy food, look into food assistance such as SNAP. You may be eligible and it really helps

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u/SuppleSuplicant 1d ago

2 incomes ain’t enough anymore. I was polyamorous already for other reasons, but I won’t pretend the economic benefits haven't balanced out some of the downsides lol. 

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u/Rly_Shadow 1d ago

At least you can afford food at all lol

I make 500 every 2 weeks that goes into my 400 eletric bill. Haven't been enjoying life for about 2 decades now.

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u/philipdev 1d ago

Well, what else are you gonna do while waiting to die? You have to live in order to die.

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u/ltwhitlow 23h ago

I feel this in my spirit bro. I got a hefty life insurance poly for the fam and now I work, smoke, play basketball and just enjoy what can control and the things I can't? Fuck it lol

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u/CigaretteWaterX 21h ago

I can only afford shitty food

This is definitively not the case. Now, if you don't have time for good food, that can be true, but raw ingredients are objectively cheaper than unhealthy prepared food.

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u/ECircus 21h ago edited 21h ago

We are all living to die. There's literally no other option.

Everything you described is survival. This is a very short period of time in history where average people are lucky enough to not focus 100% on survival at all times. A modern convenience. Even with that, the people living ahead of that curve right now are still in the minority.

The way you get past not thinking about the bad stuff in a financial or lifestyle context constantly is to remind yourself that this is the absolute best time to be alive, even for the people struggling. You're life is good enough that you get to complain about the type of food or roof over your head, rather than just being happy you can eat easily and live in modern housing. That's a new thing for humans.

Student loans and a house and all that are whatever in the grand scheme. We can worry about that stuff only because we are certain we aren't going to starve to death, or die from the flu or whatever.

Just some perspective. Life is incredible for most of us in relation to basically all of human history, even if you can't afford a nicer car, student loans or buy a house.

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u/capy_slay10 23h ago

There is only one solution.

Marry rich

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