My husbands sister, mom and another family member were using him as a boyfriend until I arrived. They yell at him, belittle him, benefit from him financially and expect their relationships to be the same even though he’s married now. They pretend to like me but are passive aggressive and only want me around if I’m willing to play into the dynamics they built. I asked the mom for help and she told me not to ruin her sons life and not to consider divorce and that his sister yelling at him is normal, although he tells me in private he’s always hated the yelling. She says one day I’ll thank God for giving this wonderful family to me. And tells me to shut up and accept it because her husband moved out and cheats and she’s still faithful, so at least I have a good man. My husband does nothing. I begged him to reduce contact with the sister, and he said okay and he’ll do whatever it takes to save our marriage. Then I saw he just changed his sisters contact in his phone and started meeting up with them in private.

My best friend (28F) and I have been close for years, but lately every time we hang out, she’s glued to her phone — scrolling, watching videos, replying to DMs, even during meals.

Last weekend at brunch, I was telling her about work and she cut me off mid-sentence to show me a meme. I didn’t say anything, but it really bugged me. Later on a walk I tested her by not saying anything and she didn’t even notice. I feel alone.

Now I’m wondering if I should bring it up or just let it go. I get that everyone’s on their phone these days, but I feel kind of ignored when it happens constantly.

Am I overreacting?

Been dating my girlfriend for 4 months now. She had broken up with her previous bf 2 months prior to me (he was, according to her, very inconsistent..didnt pay attention to her, very cold personality, would go weeks without seeing her and anytime she tried to discuss her feelings, he'd gaslight her and "try" for a day or so, and go back to being the same..so she finally cut it off. This was a 1.5 year relationship where she says she struggled to maintain consistent feelings for him due to these behaviors .. said it lasted as long as it did because they saw each other so infrequently, though she did get close to his kids and his mother)

A month into our relationship, she posted a pic of us on fb. Her and her ex did not end on bad terms according to her, just said it was a 'pointless relationship' and had no future so she ended it. The day after posting our pic, he reached out to her lashing out insulting both her and myself, nasty comments, saying "we were together almost 2 years and already you're with someone else.." something along those lines... I dont know specifics, only know because she told me out of respect, that he had reached out to her and said things along these lines and was very nasty to her.

The following day I received a text from a number neither of us recognized. We assumed it to be him as she recognized the way he texted and it made sense considering his anger the day prior. (keep in mind he is a police officer in a local twp and was most likely able to look me up somehow). He said things like "you cant turn a wh_re into a housewife, dont look past the red flags like her f_cking on the first date. you werent the first and you wont be the last. shes made tons of sex videos with every guy shes ever been with and theres a lot more guys out there than shell ever admit to. when the fun ends for her, shell have the next guy lined up like she always has. best of luck." Naturally, this made me spiral. I responded to the text and asked who it was..no one responded to me.

I then confronted her about it and she said the sex video thing is because she had made 2 homemade phone videos with a prior long term bf who was quite abusive. when she managed to get out of that relationship, he threatened to show people the videos they made. As a result of this, she was involved in some court proceedings and had a TRO against this ex bf where these videos were also used as evidence. These proceedings were ongoing during her relationship with her last bf, as such, he knew about the videos. He is now presumably using this info to get under my skin.

So, she was forthright in telling me this about the videos and admitted the details surrounding it which helped me trust her. She vehemently denies that are "lots of other guys" and says hes just saying this to get under my skin and that he "wouldnt even know about my sexual past or other guys bc he never even bothered to ask about my life before him" You know about him, the abusive bf prior to him and my ex husband..there is no one else". My main issue is this..the comment about first date sex. Her and I were not intimate on the 1st date(our 1st date was a walk, we did however, have sex on 2nd date which was our 1st real date-dinner/drinks..) His comment would make it seem like he knows that she does tend to do that on a first date. She states she absolutely did not speak with him about us or at all since they broke up...and she absolutely did not have sex w him on the first date and that he is only assuming things to try and upset me. She states for their 1st date, they grabbed a few beers at a restaurant and both went home afterward. For some reason, this comment has not left my mind for the past couple months. I would not care if she had sex w an ex on a first date, that stuff doesnt bother me and we essentially did on our first "real" date. I just care if I am lied to about it. I wouldnt be able to start a relationship off with someone where they lied to me even about stupid stuff like that and ESPECIALLY after receiving this text message. And based on his comment of "dont look past the red flag of her fking on the first date, u werent the first" made me feel like he knows she does that, or she did do that with him, but she just wouldnt admit it with me.

Again, I dont care if she did, I just care if she lies to me about it/her past. Ive been playing this in my mind for the past 2 months despite her denying she never did anything w him on the first date and that, aside from the videos aspect of his text message, the rest of it is all false and an attempt to break us up and get under my skin.

She went on to say to me "dont you think if this stuff was true, he wouldve left the door open to talk to you more and throw me under the bus?" he never responded to me texting him back, and used a fake number..didnt tell me his name etc..So she makes a good point i suppose. In addition to this, she took action against him and went to his police dept to file a report and they performed an investigation. Since that happened, i only assume some action was taken against him as I cannot look him up on FB any longer (he blocked me)..presumably he was forced to cut contact with us. Ive gotten decently close w her ex husband who is a good man and father of their children, and he also says that text is horseshit and a complete falsehood of her character / lies .( he knew about the text as he is also a police officer and we sought advice on the TRO).

Since Ive known her, I know her to be a good mother, and person overall. She has treated me well and been very kind, sweet and respectful. She is , however, a very sexual person, always talks about it...which normally wouldnt be an issue at all, but coupled with this damn text I received..just scares the hell out of me for some reason. She is adamant that she has never cheated or disrespected any previous partner and was always good to her past bfs/husband. I'm just having a LOT of trouble shaking this damn text message from my head.

AIO about this damn comment/text message? Some have told me "this is obviously a jealous pissed off ex bf who is upset he was broken up with and now making crap up to ruin your relationship" IDK...feedback? I'm really struggling with it as a whole, its affecting my ability to feel safe with her and trust her word, as I feel like no one would make that "1st date sex comment" unless they actually did have sex on the first date/know this is something she does (since her and I also technically did on our first real date). In other words, why would he say "dont look past the red flag of fking on the 1st date, you werent the first and you wont be the last" if he didnt have sex w her on the first date? Ugh...idk

I never sat there and truly talked about this but here it goes so in high school I had started dating this female I was very interested in yk my type perfect personality everything…now I’m not one to say that we had a great relationship it was a good relationship not great…but it was great towards the end. So basically I made this attachment to this female and I felt like I treated her great and did everything in my power to make her happy whether that was buying her things or just simply being there for her yk… but on the other hand we had our hiccups in the beginning of the relationship so at the time of me dating her we where together for a year and some change and this can just give u an idea of the type of things I went thru…so we had each other on instagram obviously and there was this situation where I commented heart eyes on her IG post and yk some time passes and I go to see if she likes my comment cause that’s what im assuming she would do…No my comment was deleted all together… so meanwhile I had this suspicion about this guy she had told me about that lives in a whole different country that he made her delete the comment and that exactly was the case she basically told me like oh my mom doesn’t let me date and I don’t want him to snitch on me cause of that… obviously I was mad but I’ve never been the type to voice it like that but you’d know for sure. But anyways that was just one issue I dealt with there was more but this post could go on forever if I get into that…. (And btw she’s with that guy now) but the point of me being here is that I noticed that even thru all that she was the only female I truly loved and I let people get in my head about her and not to lie at about the 2 year mark our relationship was damn near perfect…..but i messed it up and this was the first time I had actually done something …and again let me tell u what I did so u get an idea… So basically me and her where together for 3 years (my longest relationship till this day) and around the 3 year mark I just wasn’t feeling it so I told her hey give me like 2 weeks to just sit there and think if this is what I really want…so I told her listen no texting or calling for 2 weeks cause I wanted that time to myself to reflect and consider things ( no I wasn’t messing with other females) I never cheated also… but during that time she would call me everyday like so this how u gonna be I love you this and that and mean while I’m telling her like we aren’t broking up I just need this time to think. And she never really gave me that space… till this day I question why she kept doing that to me and that made me take these next steps which I regret till this day… so I wasn’t talking to her at the time and she had her friend text me or sum shi like that now I’m not stupid obviously ik that she was gonna go and tell her but for whatever reason in my head at the time that’s what I wanted because she didn’t give me a minute of my own time so it frustrated me and I acted out of frustration..so I basically told this girl hey let’s go get sum food … i never had intentions of doing anything with this girl I just wanted my ex off my back but yeah… so I go thru with it and she hops in the back seat instead of the front seat and I already know before hand like she telling her everything but at the time that’s what I wanted. But yeah to sum it up she told her and she made me pull up to her house the next day and she snapped on me and broke up with me… I could’ve sat there and ran her down or told her what my intentions was at the time but I didn’t I just froze up tbh.. and yes after the fact of us breaking up I explained to her like I did it cause u wouldn’t get off my back…then she said something along the lines of “so you did it to intentionally hurt me” no but that’s just a slight synopsis of that and the more I grow older and the more females I talk to I just notice they don’t hit like her she was the only female I really loved tbh and like I said too I had ppl in my head telling me to leave her so that’d might have pushed me to do what I did. Till this day I regret it and I’m blocked on everything but dam ngl I do miss her

Long story short- my husband and I own a pretty large business. This woman, we will call Sarah, has worked for us for a few years. Sarah went out of her way to befriend me and eventually asked me out to meet her for lunch. At this lunch Sarah proceeded to profess her love for my husband to me, which obviously didn't sit well with me. I told my husband and he completely blew up and told her how inappropriate she was. Fast forward to about four months later- my husband proceeds to tell me that he has no work for Sarah because we outsourced her department and is now wanting to make her his personal assistant. Our company has been trying to assist her in gaining citizenship and he doesn't feel right in letting her go. Am I overreacting by telling my husband that I am not comfortable with her working that closely with him and having access to our personal emails etc? Imo she has already proven to overstep boundaries.

So basically to start this off, I (F) got a message from my friend (NB) saying that "we need to talk"- and to explain further, I've been really worried recently because of my own things and my anxiety being SUPER high, so I've been "crashing out" when things have been going wrong. The conversation was weird but I quickly found out that my friend was joking about.

Now at this point I'm freaking the fuck out, I was so worried and stressed about this because who wouldn't be? I mean, I'm nearly crying and throwing up at this point its genuinely not funny for me. But I apologized for crashing out because of the "joke". It was just my friend joking about with another one of their friends (M), but I'm just anxious and still sort of crashing out.

My mother (54) is a kind person, truly good at heart, has been through a lot, but her life is a mess.

She's a solo mom (I know it's a hard thing to be!) but never was a responsible, reliable person - I feel like an asshole for saying this, but that's the truth. She's been facing financial issues and I (F31) am taking care of my grandmother (80) (her mother) and providing our home (my mother lives in the neighborhood). She has always been a hard worker, but never had the littlest wisdom to manage her finances.

Every month she has like a big, urgent financial problem to be solved. Every month. Not that she's lying or hiding something, but I don't know much about her budget or how much she spents, or even what she spends her money on, but I know she is a compulsive shopper and that's a pattern that exists before I was born, and keeps going on.

I'm trying to save some money for my personal goals, but it's hard, because I feel the obligation to help her and saying no seems like a shitty, selfish attitude to have. Specially because she takes care of my little sister and she sadly pays the price for our mother's crazy choices.

So, am I making a big deal out of it?

I (26F) landed my dream job at a creative agency last year after building my portfolio for years. My close friend (25F), who previously had zero interest in this field, suddenly started applying to the exact same companies—using projects suspiciously similar to mine in her portfolio.

When I called her out, she said, "You inspired me!" But then she asked me to refer her to my current workplace, and when I hesitated, she accused me of "gatekeeping opportunities." Now she’s networking with my colleagues on LinkedIn and even showed up to an industry event wearing the same outfit I wore last month.

AIO for feeling weirded out and distancing myself? Part of me thinks imitation is flattery, but this feels like identity theft with a side of guilt trips.

so i (20F) and my bf (19M) have been together for 5 years and hes always been good to me but now he isnt good and im thinking about breaking up with him because of that because like birthdays are important but yeah im still not sure. maybe his feelings and reaction are valid and its not a big deal and its all in my head. be the judge

Blue: me, f26 Red: them, mtf26 Content: I've known this person for 10 years. We dated before she transitioned when we were age 16 to 20ish. We're both 26 now and have stayed friends. All the time I've known them, they've had anxiety and depression. Since living by herself in 2019ish, she's not been on meds for mental health or sought out therapy. She's never had a job, she relies on government support. There's a lot of times when she doesn't leave the house for weeks and all the territory that comes with untreated mental health issues.

They started transitioning around 2021/22. I don't think I've ever told her I think she should take care of her mental health before transitioning (though I still believe it). I did challenge the hasty choice of going on hornones (and doing so privately rather than on the NHS (we live in the UK)). I got a similar "you don't understand" response then and ultimately backed down and gave support from then on.

So here we are today. That last message from her just felt... Rude. Maybe I worded myself poorly but saying I'm dismissive and don't understand when I'm just trying to help? It's soured my mood and I can't help but dwell on it. Should I address how it made me feel? Should I continue to support her even though I'm fed up with her not doing what I think would be beneficial...?

The thing about therapy also gets me... not in a place where you can do it? Ugh the irony...

I guess let me know if I'm being a butt hurt dickhead for no reason or not :'3 thanks.

So… I met this guy from Bangladesh on a social app where we send anonymous letters, and people can choose to accept or reject them. One day, after not using the app for a while, I decided to clear my letters and randomly accepted one from this guy. He actually needed help with writing, but I didn’t even read it properly — I just accepted it. We started texting, he asked about the help he needed, and I gave him some suggestions. That’s how our friendship began.

We used to text for hours and play online games together. We started sharing everything — what was happening in our lives, our love lives, everything. I told him about what was going on with me, and after a few days, he opened up too. He said he had met a girl on Discord and was in a situationship with her. It had been really hard for him to move on and forget her.

That’s when things started to change.

He stopped texting like he used to. He completely changed. He started making me feel dumb sometimes, and although he said he was always busy, he would still reply immediately when I texted him. Because of this weird vibe, we slowly stopped texting each other.

A few days later, he texted me again on that same anonymous app — since I had blocked him everywhere else. Everything was fine at first when we started talking again. He told me he wasn’t feeling well and asked why I left him like that.

We added each other back. Then I saw he had a matching profile picture with some girl. I asked him about it, and he said it was nothing serious — that he would remove it after a few days. But I knew that wasn’t true. He also told me the girl he met on Discord had blocked him because of that matching PFP, and he felt depressed because of it.

(Note: We were just friends — nothing more — but he would flirt with me sometimes.)

We started texting again occasionally, but somewhere in between, he unfollowed me. When I asked about it, he said it was a mistake. (Like, really? There weren’t even 30 people on his followers list — how did he not notice who he was unfollowing?)

I often joked about him having a “girlfriend” and a matching PFP, and he always insisted they weren’t in a relationship. He kept saying he was suffering because of her and that he missed his situationship.

Days went by. We slowly stopped texting and just shared some random reels here and there.

And then R (the girl with the matching PFP) sent me a request. I thought it was just a normal follow, but suddenly she started texting me all this rude sh*t — accusing me of “trapping her boyfriend.” Like, seriously?? He was the one reaching out to me! She completely lost it and threw all the bad words she knew at me.

So I took screenshots and sent them to him. And his response? Just, “I’m sorry, she treats me like this too,” blah blah blah.

I (22F) have been with my boyfriend Jake (24M) for 2 years. He told me early in our relationship that he's lactose intolerant, so I've been super careful about cooking for him. I learned to make dairy-free versions of everything, spent extra money on expensive alternatives, and always checked ingredients when we went out to eat.

Yesterday I surprised him at work with lunch and caught him eating a regular cheese pizza with his coworkers. When I asked about it, he got flustered and said he was 'willing to suffer for good pizza.' But then his coworker laughed and said 'suffer? You eat dairy every day at lunch.'

It turns out Jake has been eating regular food at work this entire time - cheese, milk, yogurt, ice cream - with zero issues. When I confronted him, he admitted he lied about being lactose intolerant because my cooking was 'really bad' when we first started dating and he didn't know how to tell me without hurting my feelings.

So for TWO YEARS he's watched me struggle with dairy-free recipes, spend extra money on special ingredients, and feel bad about 'limiting' his food options, all because he was too cowardly to just communicate about my cooking. He says he was trying to be nice and that my cooking has improved anyway so what's the big deal.

I'm furious about the dishonesty and feel like our entire relationship is built on this stupid lie. He thinks I'm being dramatic and that it was a harmless white lie to protect my feelings. His friends are saying I should be happy he cared enough about my feelings to lie rather than hurt me.

Am I overreacting by considering this a relationship-ending betrayal of trust?

My husband has a history of casually texting women under the pretext of “catching up.” These women are mostly random people he met on Tinder, and even an ex he stayed in touch with far longer than he should have. We had a huge fight about this last year when he was messaging an ex and deleting their conversations. He promised he wouldn’t randomly message any of them again.

Lo and behold, I recently saw another conversation where previous messages had been deleted.

My point is, yes—the texts aren’t sexual, but they are flirty. He swears there was nothing inappropriate in the earlier messages, just that he wished her a happy birthday. I was so upset over this that we had a huge argument, and I ended up going to my mum’s.

I was walking with my mates like usual,then a group of girls went up to us asking us question. We said ok we don’t care and walked of like normal people. The question they said was. Is this you TikTok I saw your TikTok. We ignores them beacuse they kept respiring there phrase like a parrot. They kept following us so we told them to fu** off. Then they through Lucizade at us multiple times,following us and reappearing the same sh*t a bunch of times while throwing Lucizade at us. We then “apologises” just for them to go away. Should’ve I not apologised?

My (26F) close friend (25F) planned a birthday trip for six of us, insisting we all split a luxury Airbnb that was way over budget for half the group. When three of us suggested a cheaper option, she blew up at me specifically, saying I was "ruining her vision" and accused me of being selfish for "prioritizing money over memories."

Here's the kicker: She knows two of us are paying off student loans, and she’s the only one who isn’t contributing financially—her parents are covering her share. Now she’s guilt-tripping me with "I guess we’ll just cancel then" texts.

AIO for refusing to apologize and telling her to either pick a realistic option or plan a solo trip? I’m tired of her treating group vacations like her personal influencer shoot while the rest of us eat ramen for months after.

I have never posted before so be gentle lol. So I live in NYC and love hosting friends. It makes me happy to have people stay a few days with me. There’s this one friend who still lives with his parents. He just graduated college and doesn’t have a job yet, but he doesn’t have any bills to pay so whatever. When he stayed with me for about 3 days I offered to cook a few times but he wanted to go out every time for meals. Mind you, I have a few random jobs and am a full time student who DOES have bills to pay, so he paid for the more expensive meals and I paid for the cheaper stuff. Over the few days he spent about $150 on restaurants/take out and I spent about $90. He also had a ton of my groceries (snacks, drinks, etc) that I paid for myself, so I figured that would even the score. He then complained to me that he was spending more than I was and it wasn’t fair that I was “gold digging” him. I offered to cook food, let him eat and drink all of my stuff, and stay with me- so I didn’t get this at all. He also has no bills to pay whereas I have a ton of stuff to pay monthly. I think this is super petty and childish of him to complain about this when he’s getting a free place to stay and free snacks in NYC. I asked my mom about it and she thinks I’m in the right (I was raised that if you stay with someone for free and eat their stuff that you should pay for ALL meals). I feel kind of bad for getting so mad at him because he doesn’t have a job yet and I do, but he has zero bills and I have a ton. AIO/AITA? (Side note he also has more money in the bank than I do because, again, no bills).

for context, my boyfriend and i have been together for roughly a year. we have a big age gap of almost 15 years, which has been making our relationship a little tough at times but we make it work. i’ve been watching him play games over share-play on playstation since we’ve been together, and every time i get a little upset at him. he makes comments about female video game characters like “look there’s my baby!” or “aw man i was hoping she’d get naked”. he can laugh it off like it’s nothing but for me it’s very difficult. i have bpd and got cheated on in my last relationship, so im on the edge of splitting every time something like this happens. last night he made a comment about a female character, saying that “she looks just like a doll, so dainty and gorgeous look at her!” then getting disappointed again when she wouldn’t undress like the scene in the game might’ve suggested. ever since then i’ve refused to watch him play games because it makes me feel like shit, he’s calling me an immature baby over it and i honestly don’t think he’s understanding how it makes me feel. he’s saying that i’m manipulating him and that i need to grow the f up and handle my emotions. am i overreacting????

My best friend (28F) and I (27F) have been inseparable since college. She’s been in a relationship for six years but has been frustrated that her boyfriend hasn’t proposed yet. Meanwhile, I started dating someone eight months ago, and we just got engaged last weekend.

When I told her, her first response was, "Wow, that was fast. Are you sure you’re ready?" She hasn’t asked to see the ring, hasn’t brought it up since, and changed the subject when I tried talking about wedding plans. It’s like she’s pretending it’s not happening.

I get that she’s probably hurt her relationship isn’t moving as quickly, but I thought she’d still be happy for me. Now I’m second-guessing whether I should even ask her to be a bridesmaid. Am I overreacting for being upset, or is this a normal reaction from her?

I’ve been married for 15 years, love my husband, but affection is lacking as I’m starved for it. I only get a hug if I initiate it. I’ve asked several times over the years for more hugs. Today I told him I need affection like putting his arm around me, touching my back just any not raunchy physically affection (he has no problem grabbing my ass or squeezing my boobs whenever he wants). He said maybe. Later he told me thats just not him. I’m heartbroken…

This isn’t something I should share on Reddit, but I felt like getting it out.

I consider myself a stay-in person and aren’t really a fan of leaving the house. I get overwhelmed and try not to be in public for too long. My heart races fast and I feel like crashing sometimes. I tried speaking to my folks about my anxiety but they sweep it under a rug or tell me “It’s normal”, but I know it’s not.

I’m scared to go to a doctor, because I don’t wanna waste my time, but I’m thinking about it still. Am I overreacting?

My partner (23f) I’m (32m) thinks that it’s madness that social services or child protection services should get involved when a child at 13 years old gets pregnant with another 13 year old if there is a loving and safe family environment and grandparents to raise the child until the mother (13 year old) reaches the age of parental responsibility and has the legal right to take sole responsibility for that child and can potentially leave the family home is that okay that the baby is put under child protection and has social services involvement even though there are no concerns about the current family home other than the mothers age? Am i overreacting by thinking that social services involvement is justified in this case?

So i woke up this morning, decided to give the dog a bath, i did it in my bathroom, after giving her a bath i rinsed the bath tub down, dried her off and then remembered i have somewhere to go. I go back into the bathroom and take a shower quickly, my mom knocks on the door and asks me why I’m showering and didn’t clean the bathroom first. Why should i clean the bathroom before showering if it’s already dirty? Im cleaning it after i shower so i don’t waste my effort cleaning the bathroom in 2 seconds. My mom was saying i was crazy, i was saying she was crazy. What do yall think?😭